I'm about as outside the box as they come.
You'll know why if you ask.
I need a lot but I matter too. I also give everything I can back when possible. I won't deny myself pleasure with condoms and I've had half a year of problems that makes me deathly afraid of a vasectomy (Hey, most people don't have that kind of problem and lose most of the feeling in their dick for that long, ok. Fine for now but that's not a risk I'm willing to take). On the other hand I wouldn't want someone to feel like they have to be on birth control or otherwise "snip" themselves but at the same time I question if you never intend to have kids anyway and never had problems down there like I have then I ask why not. Me aside I imagine it would mean more getting around for you and I for one don't mind if others are engaged with. Long as "we" still make the time for each other of which I trust would happen. I'm hoping people don't get the wrong idea when I bring that up. Just putting it here and letting it be known that I will make it worth the hassle. Provided we talk and like each other of course. Got an open mind? I probably like you already. If you think I'm full of it then give me a chance to prove myself.
For the record my libido is fine now. And no, I'm not "focused on only sex" (I am kinky though). There's much much more to me then that. I just had to cover this one because I want to make it clear and not feel like a jackass having to explain it later rather then sooner. Any other topic I can get into just fine. I actually enjoy talking about things like positive fear and anger and how they tie in with punishments and rewards along with "playful yet serious" flirting and bonding and the like.
On another note, no, I don't want to worship you and give you money "just because". Loyalty is earned and I'm lifestyle. My loyalty is actually easier to earn then most since I'm understanding on a lot of things but not if you place expectations and obligations on me without communication. Get to know me, I'll get to know you. Add in "how we affect each other and do the things the other likes". There's much you can do with me and my limits are few and likely not what you expect (I go into extremes. I do it safely). I can even guide another into enjoying being with me and have done so with others more then once. You yourself have to be willing to handle me in the ways I enjoy as well as remain firm and direct with me. Because that's people 101. Controlling the situation even if not the person (I of course enjoy being "directed"). I in turn will need to be there for you to the best of my ability. Which might even mean doing a little directing of my own if I feel a good dose of "blunt honesty" is needed for example. It's amazing how an angry ex gets one to see the appeal of D/s after you're understanding about fear and anger while holding the no blame stance. Stories beyond that but that's for another time.
If we ever get that far I've already been there. Just talk to me, exchange viewpoints and get to know each other. The rest falls into place. Always does if I go out of my way to be there for someone I take an interest in. Making others happy is how I make me happy. Selfish as it is selfless.