In a monogamous relationship
I am a mathematician who just moved to the Netherlands. I am 41 years old. I have quite a lot of intellectual interests including physics and philosophy. I am in a monogamous relationship with my wife but I would be quite interested in talking to people about their fantasies and things my wife might like to try, and maybe forming friendships with people who live near me.
I have often fantasised about being submissive to women. I quite like the idea of letting a woman have power over me if that would give her pleasure, and I am curious about teasing and denial. I certainly like getting spanked very hard, and before I met my wife I sometimes used to pay women who work in strip clubs to do that to me. One fantasy I once had was when I was in a monogamous relationship with a Chinese woman Annie while I was working in China, but I also had a big crush on my co-worker Katherine, and I used to like the idea that she might enjoy emotionally tormenting me by saying that I could perform cunnilingus on her any time I liked, but I would feel like I had to refuse out of loyalty to my girlfriend. I also quite like being dominant sometimes. My wife likes me to spank her quite hard and that is really great, and I really love to watch videos of women being tickled. One time I met up with a group of people on the internet for a spanking workshop, and I got one woman to have an orgasm from spanking her and that made me very happy. But I was also happy that one attractive woman there got pleasure out of spanking me. I love being spanked very hard and it is really great if the woman gets pleasure out of it.
As you can see.from what I said above I haven't really tried extreme BDSM. At this stage I have quite a lot of limits. But I certainly wouldn't mind getting my wife to push my limits if that would give her pleasure.