CaliBoy

sub male

37

I am college-educated, 33 years old, live in Orange County, California with my boyfriend, and I am here because I think I need to explore my desires to be a submissive boy.

I feel like a big, nerdy kid at heart. I adore whimsy, relish playfulness. I have heavy interests in video games, I still watch cartoons, I have an intense love for Star Wars, and frequent theme parks (Disneyland being my clear favorite). I collect toys and memorabilia. I'm still independent and keep all my adult responsibilities, but it is my childhood interests that bring me the most joy.

I can have slightly bratty tendencies, as I enjoy being spoiled, but love being obedient and winning approval. Very receptive to discipline; it won't be needed often, unless I want to be punished. I can be sassy if I'm being disrespected - demean me, but don't be mean. I've also been called needy and greedy, but these were slurs by men who weren't as compatible with me. Generally I love being a good boy, and love even more being told so - I'm very responsive to tenderness and positive reinforcement.

I am hoping to find a true alpha Dominant Daddy to help me learn my new role, more about this culture, and how I can best please him. I am still learning if I am a true, domestic submissive, if I'm more of a sexual submissive, or even just a kinky bottom. That is why I am seeking mentorship most of all. We can connect virtually for now, and explore from there. Ideally I would like this control over me to be exerted mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I am a sweet and sensitive egalitarian on the streets, and a depraved and ravenous slut boy in the sheets; I would like to find a Daddy who matches. Because I'm geeky, I'm imagining someone who can be the Batman to my Robin, and who can play Bruce Wayne in polite company.

My Stats:
H - 5'10"
W - 210 lbs
Waist - 34
Cock - 5.5 cut
Shoe - 12
Vers/bottom
HIV Neg
No STDs
White
Buzzed/shaved blond hair
Blue-green eyes
Hairy, solid/average build (working out to tone up)
Fuzzy, thick bubble butt
Big balls

I'm very eager to start down this path, so if you want to know more about me and what I'm looking for, or if want me to know more about you, all you need to do is ask.

=)

In the past few years, I've started to discover that I possess latent urges for sexual pleasure that are not being addressed with my boyfriend. Yet I've had mixed success in trying to communicate these needs with him; he oscillates between being accepting of the most radical kink he can think of, and also thinking that kinks are indicative of some kind of psychological deficiency that a person is seeking to correct.

His judgment has colored my own, leading me to doubt myself and question if my desires are healthy, and as a result also led to my losing faith in trusting to discuss these feelings with him. Therefore I've taken to explore this side of myself without him - and that is how I would prefer it to remain, at least for now. Again HE DOES NOT KNOW about this. Please respect this decision.

So more about me: I initially wondered if my feelings were merely a desire for more sexual activity. That did not seem to be the case. I then started to notice a particular focus of my arousal was the concept of control, of being used to induce pleasure and climax for another, of being physically and emotionally dominated. Ever since then my curiosity has centered on this notion and exploring the satisfaction I find in submitting to the desires of a dominant man.

But this is all still very new to me. The very admission that I enjoy Dom/sub role play has only come within the last year. I'm uncertain if I'm only a sexual submissive, into domestic submission, or am just a kinky bottom, so right now my main priority is just to learn more.

I'm also interested in exploring the extents of my desires in other kinks, like leather, toys, harnesses/bondage, jockstraps and underwear, armpits, orgasm control, and whatever else I might want to try.

Absolutely NO tolerance for drugs (poppers and weed okay); not into alcoholics or tobacco smokers; no Republicans/Libertarians/right-wing ideologues; no blood, scat, or WS; no Masters/sadists; no torture play or humiliation; no animal play; no self-loathing homophobes; not into toxic masculinity or hyper-femininity; no racists or bigots.

I've written an ad about what I'm hoping to find on this site, so please review that to know if we're a good match. I've been contacted by a few men already here, and so far there seems to be a lack of understanding of what being dominant means. If I want to be your sub, that is NOT an open invitation for you to disrespect me or treat me however you wish. There are rules and boundaries that have to be established. I am not interested in being abused, so if that is what you want, look elsewhere.

Aug 9, 2020

Jul 12, 2020