So one of the major issues I have encountered in today's society at least is that being non-binary, most people have been trained to see gender a certain way. AKA a male means deep voice, broad chest, very masculine features, and short hair. A female is seen to have a curvy body, usually longer hair, softer voice and features like her face.
I mean okay I get it. Most people are trained that being a girl means one thing and being a boy means something else. But honestly what is wrong if someone wants to be different and try something that maybe is not exactly "gender normal"? Is that so bad?
There are many definitions on what gender is out there and what it means. Also what it means to different people is personal and is different for each person. There is also a spectrum to which people need to understand and respect as well even if they may not understand fully what it is. They could learn what it is, what it means and what the levels are, mean and maybe become at least educated on the subject which, at least within the community, would be a very good thing for everyone involved.
Let's face it, no one likes being left out, it is a horrible feeling and makes everyone feel bad so why do it? Why not include everyone? Just ask nicely, "What are your pronouns you prefer?" If you are not sure of someone new you are meeting, this is not a mean or rude question and will not offend anyone. They will simply respond "I prefer, (insert proper pronoun)" (He/she/they). That way you won't offend anyone and it helps stop confusion and will not upset anyone either with misused pronouns.
Inclusion is a wonderful thing, it makes everyone feel loved, supported and wanted. So just remember that no matter what is going on or your feelings toward something in particular, there is a human being attached to whatever going on, gay, lesbian, genderfluid, non-binary, pet, little, Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, a drag queen or whatever the case may be, love and support the actual human being not the actions going on, because love is what matters and what helps make a community flourish and keep going here not people who make hate comments and are mean.