Recently it was pointed out to me "the grass is always greener on the other side", now most people scoff and move past this because it means nothing to them. However, to me this is not so true! To this puppy my yard is my domain and sanctuary from the outside world. I know this sounds silly or even dumb to people who do not understand this. My point is this. Everything is a matter of perspective. Maybe what you are going through is totally terrible and you feel like nothing could be worse. However think that there are totally worse things out there. The woman you look at right across the street? Maybe she is getting over the loss of her husband and has to struggle with two jobs just to keep her family alive and housed. That guy in the really nice car? Sure he has a nice car, a mansion and everything, but who does he have to be close to him really? Is he surrounded WITH people or BY people? With people means they pay attention and talk to you. By people means they know you are there, may speak a word or two but otherwise they dont say a word to you, just another face in the crowd. Maybe you are sick and have been for a while, heck maybe you have an illness like cancer. What is worse you ask yourself bitterly. How about a sickness that can't be cured but controlled, can kill in an instant and wreak havoc on your body no matter what you do to stop it. How about being so poor you cant afford the medicine you need for treatment and knowing you are going to die for it? That all seems much worse than what you have right?
Be thankful, take time to appreciate what you have, things you use everyday and think about what it would be like if you had to do without those items. Do you think you can cope without your . . .(phone, car, computer, tv, music, etc)? Take time to sit outside and appreciate the wind in your hair, the sun on your skin and the sounds of life all around you.
Stress affects us all differently. What our job is essentially is to keep everything in perspective and judge when is the right time and place to be upset, and when is it time to stay calm and figure out the next steps that need to be taken in order to make things in our world right once more. Sometimes our minds are so overactive and busy figuring things out they dont give us time to understand the information being given and correctly process it. The brain is a tool, a computer that gets signals. It has no emotional reactions, those come from you which you process carefully or not, and figure out how to handle what is going on in your world. Just remember, loving starts from the inside. Love thyself before others (or something like that) which is totally true. Learn to be happy with yourself then figure out the rest.
