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Reported a sexual harasser at work

3 weeks ago. September 9, 2024 at 11:44 AM

Reported a sexual harasser at work 🚑

Working an ambulance 🚑 you get close to your partners. Sharing intense and at time life and death moments naturally make tension which is in part relaxed by dark humor and bonds of friendship to get through.

However a male coworker since may had been sexually harassing me. Due to me for a time thinking he was a friend I told him politely that I perfer women and I have a girlfriend and to please never be sexually inappropriate again.

This bubbled up again in August when his girlfriend accused me of wanting him because she found his texts to me which were sexually inappropriate.

I then told him to chill the heck out and leave me alone he apologized for his behavior and the drama but then stated he would still love the honor of being ny friend.

I told him after all he has done that ship has saled I don't mind working with him but he needs to keep it professional or else I will have to go to management about his behavior and I am trying my best to avoid that because I don't want to risk his job I think he's a good person but perhaps a tad emotionally unstable and needs help due to his irrational anger.

Well two weeks later and he's making up issues that never happened trying to get me in trouble with the job. This man has multiple work write ups and tons of issues I been there a year and such a thing has never happened once.

However I'm nervous 🫦 now because I gotta worry he might show up one day and try and stab or shoot me for reporting him. This is America after all me going to management about his poor behavior now has me fearing that going to my job to save lives and help people could get me attacked.

I can't believe that turning him down has caused him to become totally unhinged and force me to do this.

I should have known that I couldn't help him since when he found out I liked magic as a kid and knew how to juggle he ended up teaching himself to juggle to try and impress me.

It was both sweet and ultimately so misguided. I am not into you dude it's not my fault I prefer women I was born this way why couldn't he just let me be.

Why did it have to come to this?

I wrote a letter to three managers about his behavior and now the cards will fall where they may. 😭

DarkestDesires(sub female) - I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Sexual harassment is never okay. I have been victim of it too.

3 weeks ago

IceGirl(switch female) - I never been so unsure of what's gonna happen. I didn't want to ruin this guys life I begged him to stop and be chill since May. It's September I have the texts why did I have to beg him to stop and still have him antagonize me.

😭 Sorry really emotional right now.

3 weeks ago

TheCoolestCatAround(sub female) - I’m sorry you had to go through this. You took all the right steps and where more than gracious to him, whatever happens next is not on you

3 weeks ago

IceGirl(switch female) - I know I just wished he could walk away and be adult about it. Now I have to worry about my job being at risk because of his bad behavior. Not to mention him. How many women are victims of violence being an EMT you know how many accidents I have seen which have been coded domestic abuse.

I really thought I could be his friend then I thought I could be his co worker then I thought maybe if I threatened him showed him how I been trying to protect him just leave me alone that would work.

But no he refused broke every barrier every warning he has backed me into a corner where I felt I had no options left.

😭

3 weeks ago

TheCoolestCatAround(sub female) - Make reports about everything he’s accusing u of, record everything, Get everything on paper. bring up everything and all of your concerns to who ever your supervisor is. Don’t be scared to throw this guy under the bus, ik it’s scary but I see it as necessary if he’s trying to endanger your job because he can’t handle a ‘no’. if you need support girl I got you, my DMs are open wide for you if you want it.

3 weeks ago

IceGirl(switch female) - I sent a DM I am so anxious 😰 over how this will turn out

3 weeks ago

lifeofdom(dom male) - As a victim you are questioning yourself whether should have done something different: had he been a more balanced human being would realise boundaries were being crossed, would apologise and move on. Not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong.
Your actions were coming from common sense : not wanting to affect a person's livelyhood..

3 weeks ago

IceGirl(switch female) - That's what I told him it's his job and he shouldn't take that lightly. I was trying to protect him and encourage him to be better I even told him how sorry I was for his girlfriend misunderstanding our relationship.

I even told him maybe he should get help for his behavior issues since I am his friend and he's mistreating me so poorly.

3 weeks ago

lifeofdom(dom male) - He no longer ( or ever) sees (saw) you as a friend: when i worked in the ambulance service i met a creep that was always commenting on schoolgirls.. i reported him immediately. No space for such things on that noble profession. That type of person is questionable at best on a job that has to have sound judgement.
Your supervisors should have identified that.
Its just bad you and others have had to deal with it.

3 weeks ago

IceGirl(switch female) - I don't wanna be a problem they just wanna have people show up to work and help people not manage drama.

This sorta stuff is not only childish it feels unprofessional. I just hope reporting him doesn't hurt my employ.

3 weeks ago

Mr Right(dom male){Mr Right} - I am so happy you wrote to managers. Even if they won't help - there are institutions who will.
Not sure witch ones in USA, but fuck retards - from your side it seems you where polite as possible and he was still acting a way to hurt you.

Mt suggestion - make secret record of your conversations with him just to be sure, to have proof.

Guck how much I hate ppl like that guy ..

One "no" should be more than enough.

Stay safe.

Mr Right

3 weeks ago

IceGirl(switch female) - I think the thing was when I showed him the texts on the 25th and told him that he should apologize or I will report him and got him to admit everything that put it over the top for my company. That and he was a dolt of an employee anyway and this just made him more of a liability.

I am still nervous I don't want to get out my car to gun shots I will definitely be worried for a bit going to work.

3 weeks ago

Dom seeks Anal Sub(dom male) - You should be proud of yourself !! You stood up for yourself. How many women out of fear would have allowed it. And a lot of guys that are that way are a danger to everyone. Like the woman who was harassed and work and told him he's not interested and he stalked her. And kept on , so she got him fired and he killed her unfortunately. But it wasn't her fault and it's not yours. He needs help and might be off the meds. You should get a taser gun.

And I can absolutely understand your fear of being hurt by him. That is absolutely a concern and should be. I suggest you find another company to work for if it becomes a toll emotionally. All you can do is hope nothing happens. But stay vigilant and aware. Also get mase, a taser anything that can protect you.

3 weeks ago

IceGirl(switch female) - People have told me today what I did was brave but I feel anxious and worried I wanna keep my job and he has been getting worse and worse for months if only I said something sooner I do think he might be on the hate me enough vibes to possibly attack me I never had a mortal enemy before.

I don't have much fear but he was coming totally unhinged.

3 weeks ago

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Reported a sexual harasser at work

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