Ice Girl's public thoughts.

intenseoldman​(dom male) - I think the fear you have about losing your job comes a lot from you being on the inside looking out. From the outside looking in, it's pretty clear he's a liability to your company and needs to be shown the door.

I am really disturbed that even after you informed him you had a girlfriend and weren't into him, he persisted. It wasn't just being rejected that angered him, but more, a fear and disrespect for people who aren't his orientation. He even tried to gaslight you... saying you think you're superior to him... trying to play on your empathy

I know you're a sensitive person. Your background and struggle with society and even your own family to find your identity and be accepted fuels the empathy you feel for others. In this case your empathy became your vulnerability.

This asshole took advantage of your kindness, but your intelligence saved you when you got him to apologize and confess, something he did out of manipulation not contrition.

You did everything right, and, yeah, he shouldn't have had another chance to be your friend after you made it clear and emphasized why you would never be into him.

Maybe there's a lesson about sensing earlier when your vulnerability is being taking advantage of. Yeah, you can't help that you like only girls, but you can't help the empathy you feel for others, either. You can just be more aware of wolves in sheepskin.

He's weak and cowardly but not so stupid he turns to physical violence. I think he wants to preserve what's left of himself and once he realizes he's lost, will walk away.

Not that you shouldn't protect yourself and your job.. just, if possible, from a way lower level of anxiety... from 6-7 to about a 2. Lean into all your support like you seem to be, and please don't entertain any notion of blame. You can't help who you are, and even though you tried, you can't help who he is.

I don't know anymore about you than I know here. But from what I've read, you've had your struggles, and you've fought to be who you are and where you are. The courage it took for this is the courage you have always had just to be you. The way you handled this, Ice, you should be proud of yourself.

IceGirl​(switch female) - I appreciate you're support I did have a lot of challenges and although I have had a few male friends I never dealt with male rejection all that often.

I did feel bad when he told me I put him and others down I know that's not true in the slightest.

I was trying to explain to him why and how I am not like that.

It says a lot as you stated he tried to play on my emotional needs and how much I do genuinely want to please people.

I don't know what the fallout will be. I am trained in martial arts but if someone gets the drop on you or has a weapon when you don't it makes such an imbalance of power.

I wanted to see his life improve even now I feel bad that this might negatively impact him. I didn't want to effect his life.

I have had people with a crush on me before that I had to let down this sadly went down one of the worst ways.

I personally wonder if there was a solution I just didn't think of.

intenseoldman​(dom male) - You are making his problem your problem. The effect on his life wasn't you. It was him. Sounds like working together you formed an intimacy that he wanted to be physical even though he has a girlfriend, even after you explained to him why you could never have any desire for physical intimacy with him. Every effect after that is the result of his issues which he had long before he met you. That he has no respect for others in his life, for you, for his girlfriend, for his job.... is not your fault or anything you can fix.

You're obviously an empath, Ice. You come upon a sick person you believe you can heal them. It's out of your hands. He had his chance. He didn’t listen. He didn't learn. Now his Karma is his Karma. Whatever happens.. it's what he needs.

lambsone - You did the right thing reporting it. You may have saved others from being an object of his choices as well. Remember they are HIS choices to react as he has. Don't feel bad caring for yourself. We have to from time to time.