I was into BDSM and kink from the get go at 17. I started off on the bottom, and quickly learned that I was definitely a Dom Top. Fast forward 30 years to present day and I have a situation that I’ve never faced before. A few months ago I met a sub that is not just an amazing sub, but also an incredible person all around with stunning good looks. The issue I have is that when we play he tells me what he’s in the mood to do. I’ve never had a sub do that before. He’s into electro, CBT, pain, restraints, degradation, and a lot more. But having a sub tell me what he wants isn’t setting well with me. What I do with a sub has always been my decision and I’ve never had any issues. I realize that a “true sub” is defined differently by everyone. Yes he’s a great sub, but is it acceptable for a sub to dictate what he is in the mood for? It’s definitely not a turn on for me and sometimes the session just ends because we are not on the same page. Sometimes we start a session and he will say “I’m not feeling it tonight” and it abruptly ends. Not feeling it tonight? What? No! You don’t just stop like that! Is that allowed?
How would you handle this situation? Has this happened to you?
3 years ago. January 21, 2021 at 4:20 PM