Just as a reminder, we are doing a get together tomorrow afternoon for those that are interested.
If you are planning on going and have not received the info, please let me know.
This will be in a Vanilla setting just so everyone is aware. Everyone is welcome and discretion will be used.
Sometimes we meet people that causes us to dive deeper into who we are as a person. Maybe just part of a conversation that makes you rethink what you think you know. They unknowingly challenge you.
These moments can cause unexpected growth. They should be cherished because we should always be in a state of self growth. Knowing who we are and bettering ourselves not only for us, but also for our partners or perspective partners.
Even knowing yourself, you can gain further understanding by knowing what makes you…you. What areas can you put the work into to make you a better version of yourself than you were today?
I can tell you that from personal communications with others, that I have, and still do, dig in and self evaluate to create a better version of myself. A deeper understanding.
Ask your self, “Who Am I?”
You may find out that the answer isn’t as simple as you once thought.
Thank you to those that have knowingly and unknowingly made me ask that very question.
Mixing the vanilla into lifestyle.
Seems as though we tend to forget that when you are in lifestyle that there are still the vanilla things that we do.
Even in 24/7, we need to look at the day to day things that we as Doms or subs deal with. (Switches too, I am not excluding you)
It is easy to loose site of what our partners need from us on the vanilla side of things. We can fail miserably when it comes to the vanilla stuff.
The thing is that we don’t have to. We can still give our partners what is needed, but we need to recognize it. We can still get what we need from our partners if we own our shit and communicate it.
I don’t know about the rest of you, but I failed Mind Reading 101. And no matter how good I might be at anticipating a need, I still miss it sometimes.
Sometimes it is not Daddy, Sir, or Master that I need to be. Sometimes, it is just the vanilla side that is needed. And sometimes I need that also.
First and foremost, we should be partners, no matter what the dynamic looks like.
So I challenge each and every one of you, whether you are in Dynamic or not, to take some time and be vanilla. Just be for a bit. No masks, just be.
See what happens and how it may change you and your partner if you are in Dynamic.
Be conscious of yourself and your partner.
Overtime Part2
Written By: Masque
Read By: ErosRising
Original Story can be found HERE
Overtime
Written By: Masque
Read By: ErosRising
Original Story can be found HERE
So I know that there are a few of us Minnesotans that have talked about doing a get together.
So here I am writing this post at this time while soaking in a bath. Yes a bath.
(Men like them too!!)
Sooo, who would be interested in doing a get together in the near future for food and drink at a public location?
You do not have to say it publicly and can message me if you are interested.
Once we know how many there are, we can figure out when and where as a group.
And anonymity will be a high priority in case if anyone is wondering.
So I heard a song earlier that I haven't heard in a while and it struck a chord with me. (No Pun Intended)
So I decided to sit down with my guitar and learn it this evening and share it.
This song has different meanings for different people
I hope you enjoy. ❤️
Patience
Patience and Love agreed to meet at a set time and place; beneath the twenty-third tree in the olive orchard. Patience arrived promptly and waited. She checked her watch every so often but still, there was no sign of Love.
Was it the twenty-third tree or the fifty-sixth? She wondered and decided to check, just in case. As she made her way over to the fifty-sixth tree, Love arrived at twenty-three, where Patience was noticeably absent.
Love waited and waited before deciding he must have the wrong tree and perhaps it was another where they were supposed to meet.
Meanwhile, Patience had arrived at the fifty-sixth tree, where Love was still nowhere to be seen.
Both begin to drift aimlessly around the olive orchard, almost meeting but never do.
Finally, Patience, who was feeling lost and resigned, found herself beneath the same tree where she began. She stood there for barely a minute when there was a tap on her shoulder.
It was Love.
………………………………………………
“Where are you?” she asked. “I have been searching all my life.”
“Stop looking for me,” Love replied, “and I will find you.”
- Lang Leav
I was going to try and record this and I still may at some point. Just not today.
Thank you Morley for posting this challenge.
The challenge can be found Here
While I have faced challenges in my life that are tragic and heartbreaking to say the least, I choose not to give details.
There are a couple of people here that know some details and 1 that knows more than anyone.
What I will tell you is that I am very intimate with death and grief more than most. I will leave it at that.
The things that have happened in my almost 48 years do not compare to some of the posts that I have read, but that is my path and my journey which has given me the ability to look at others with empathy, compassion, and forgiveness.
To those of you that have gone through hell and back, my heart breaks for you. I am happy that you are here with us to share your journey.
To those of you that are still going through and still dealing with it, we are here and we hear you and will stand with you. Never feel alone.
As for me, I am still dealing with stuff. But I will take the peaks with the valley as they come. And I will always be here for those that need someone to listen, someone to vent to, or even someone to cry to.
Remember, once again, you are not alone.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
R.I.P.
My Brother
My Mother and Sister
My Father and I
My Mother in her professional singing days.
(Not speaking about play partners only in this post)
Sitting talking to a couple of friends of mine in the lifestyle, we came to realize something.
It seems, more so than ever, that more and more Dom’s are shifting.
My opinion, as if it matters, is that they are only looking for the rainbows and butterflies in dynamic.
It seems as though they only want the good and not the bad and the ugly that goes with a D/s relationship.
It seems as though when the going gets tough, they tuck tail and bolt.
I have heard this on to many occasions so hence why I say a shift.
Where does this leave the subs? It leaves them in turmoil, sometimes shattered or worse.
When you are in a D/s relationship, it brings a deep and powerful dynamic that is stronger physically, emotionally, and mentally.
A relationship that is supposed to be built on communication and trust.
For me personally, if I am entering into a relationship, I want it all. I want the good, the bad, and the ugly.
I am going to be there no matter. My Dominance does not stop when my submissive is going through something. This is when I lead from beneath to steady her and lift her up.
It will be in the darkness of what is going on that she will need me the most. This is where I need to be.
This is how I was mentored. This is how I was taught.
To see and hear the opposite now taking place and what is is doing to their partners is disheartening to say the very least.
If you are going to enter into lifestyle with a partner, enter it knowing that the bad and the ugly will happen and that this is when you are needed most.
You need to want it all!
(I will now get off my soap box)
