Some people think if you are a Dominant it is easier than a submissive, who has all the rules to follow. And pleasing her Sir unfortunately for the Dom there is more work involved . First if the Dom is training a sub then has tripled he has to know when to train his sub such us obedience training , has to have a plan for his sub to follow .
And inforce punishment when she does it wrong but reward her when she does a good job , he must be firm at all times when training in progress, as she reflects the Dom in public so she has to be as perfect as possible . When playing a lot of time the Dom will sit down the day before and plan the play session there 4 steps that I follow step 1 the beginning how to start you may went to start with sensual play with floggers "and yes they can be used for sensual play", or you can do hit and cold play .
Step 2 The middle session which could be again anything bondage tied to a cross or a stock or whipping bench , this can result in medium or heavy impact play .
Step 3 The finishing could be anything you can think of mine or light whipping to spanking and rubbing the areas that you have bruised . If she is in sub space you have to bring her down slowly that is stage 4 the mist important part of okay for the Dom.
If stage 4 is not done right the submissive will go into sub drop not a nice place for both . She gets depressed and some cry some get confused and the odd one will yell at you, don't take it that she is mad at you just the hormones. Ideal you take her to a couch and wrap a blanket around her have couple of bottles if water ,and sweet .
Why those three simple blanket to warm her as she comes back to reality she will shake and gets cold , the water she will be dehydrated, and sweets bring her sugar levels up . While all that is happening you must softly talk to her reassuring that she was great and how proud you are of her .
While in the play the dom must always whisper in her ear if she is okay and that she is doing great . All this needs to be planned so yes it is hard work to make it look good . On top of that if you want to have music what to use for each stage and lighting sets the theme .
