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Rose's Thorns.

A general pondering.
3 weeks ago. Fri 24 May 2019 10:57:32 PM IDT

so some of you know this is my nickname. I can be a little prickly. 

im like this as without it, it can feel like getting steamrolled at times, that my opinion despite it being mine is somehow invalid, wrong or not even worth considering.

secondly, being open about who i am and sex topics in general as woman, when your not used to it, is still very freeing. But can also lead to some miscommunications too. 

so with that in mind...

im becoming aware that when trying to put a point of view forward, i know what im trying to say but often i think I've put it across and then realise it could be read another way. I don't know if this is me being cautious as im not used to being open and it not being clear or the dyslexia or .. Both. 

so again with that in mind.

i am going to try and work on improving my communication and come across a little less abrasive. Although thorny has been needed and will likely need to come out at times, there is a way of being assertive without being abrasive ... Im not sure how yet but want to get better with it. 

i also am concerned that as mentioned when i write sometimes i think it says what i want it too and then realise it can come across a different way. So im going to try to improve how i word things. 

im putting this up as im going to try a few new things and want to improve but also know something might go unintentional wrong while im trying to improve. I really hope it doesn't. 

trying to be a more improved thorny. communicate better be more welcoming less abrasive but still assertive. 

Rose xx

3 weeks ago. Fri 24 May 2019 08:00:20 PM IDT

its so rubbish my new bestie is my hot water bottle.

4 weeks ago. Thu 23 May 2019 03:18:20 PM IDT

okay big sigh... 

i have seen on a few profiles now that a sub is in no way in charge. That a Dom has control and in charge of every aspect of the dynamic and its a woman's natural place to not be in charge and be by there side. 

i would kindly suggest people re exam in there wording. 

A sub although on her or his knees is actually the one with the control. Not the Dom. 

i know im going to get so much flack for this. 

A sub can stop at any point. I do mean ANY point they choose to. Which is why a sub is in control. 

A Dom has power over nuances and situation. A sub has control as that situation can not take place without there yes there consent or happiness otherwise its stopped. Infact a sub can guide a Dom with amber green and red. 

Wanting a woman in her 'natural place' to wait on you isn't a Dom unless the sub agrees....

seeing a pattern here? 

This is not the place for egocentric wanting to be waited, women to second class, on needing to control everything with possessive intent. That is not BDSM. 

on many Dom profiles, this is how its coming across even if its not meant that way, i would kindly think about rewording. 

waiting for the first arrow to fly. 

4 weeks ago. Thu 23 May 2019 12:12:18 AM IDT

im considering creating a routine myself, but i could do with some advice 

for a while now i don't eat as i don't realise im hungry but then it takes about two hours to decide what to cook ...eyeroll... 

This sort if goes for a few things at the moment and i seem to be very indecisive so im thinking if i make my own routine it might help. 

some advice would be appreciated thanks. 

4 weeks ago. Wed 22 May 2019 04:03:02 AM IDT

this sub is. 

4 weeks ago. Mon 20 May 2019 11:10:37 PM IDT

im becoming more and more tired as time goes on. I don't think tired covers it, flat might be a better word anyway... Im tired of having to keep putting myself back together. Things happen in life that can stick with you, even when delt with. Im tired of having my head put in a blender every few years or at least that's what it feels like. 

Im good at being strong but the truth is its exhausting. It would be nice to not have to, to have the option. 

Im also tired of keeping my walls up, they are getting heavy; but they are there for good reasons. 

Im tired of not being respected as a single woman. Of the messages requesting kik or images or unwanted images being sent to me. 

im considering going back to vanilla, even though i know my identity as sub. 

the one thing that's stopping me is its often worse. 

(after posting this, im likely to get messages 😞)

 

1 month ago. Fri 17 May 2019 04:49:16 AM IDT

it would be nice if someone my own age took an interest in me. Someone who wasn't +20 years my age and was actually single 

1 month ago. Mon 13 May 2019 01:14:02 AM IDT

im so fed up and board. Im trying to come up with a list of fun things to do over the next few weeks. Any suggestions?

im currently trying to relax and trying really hard to sit still.

1 month ago. Thu 25 Apr 2019 12:51:17 PM IDT

there is a slapstick comedy bdsm show on Netflix called bonding  if anyone has watched it, is it any good or just likely to annoy me with stupidity? Thanks 

2 months ago. Mon 01 Apr 2019 08:23:17 PM IDT

are the simple things. Holding a door open with a slight smile, pulling a chair out and feeling the connection as your coat is taken off. 

walking around the house with no underwear on as a surprise when acting out by moving something to the wrong place on purpose. 

going for coffee and smiling at the tie being worn. 

having someone say sit down when your pacing or make you a cup of tea. 

going out in a crowded place with your partners hand on your hip. 

going to get drinks getting hit on and going back to the table the two of you are on, keeping an eye on you but knows you can handle things yourself.... Also staring at your arse as you go to get the drink, how anyone knows this I don't know but somehow you do. 

not being able to make up your mind of what you want to eat and he makes a suggestion. 

things that seem simple and non bdsm but can be and mean so much more to the two of you.