I've been trying to get back into single land recently and realised something I would like to share on here.
I've gone back to vanilla land...
i hate going back to vanilla land but not for the reasons you might expect.
I've been single for a few years now. im happy to be the fun time girl, but there is a reason im not. Guys often complain about being led on or having blue balls or not scoring. This wouldn't bother me and didn't for years, i have been moving away from this more recently. As a woman finding a guy who respects you is rare, especially one who respects you in bed, even if your into bdsm. This would be easy to blame on porn but i think its something bigger. Many men just care about themselves enjoying things in bed. Imagine being with 30 girls and only 2 ever cared about you even enjoying sex.
And even then one still thinks its okay to call you a bitch half way through because you happened to mention your into bdsm. Feel free to look at my limits. Keeps touching my ribs and then apologizing afterwards.
im saying this because i don't think men can realise just how painful this can be for a woman and i mean physically as well as mentally. Enjoying things with men time after time and never getting to be fully there.
i had a coil change the other week and screaming all the way through because of how difficult I found it.
i gave up on being with someone a while ago, but the next time you think about scoring with a woman, think some respect and caring if she has a good time can go a long way. how can you make sure she has a good time i hear you ask? Just caring is the first step, and ask her. Don't assume something that you have seen or has worked for someone else will work for who your with now. Xxxx