Double Bind

Have you ever been like: "It is what it is" but deep inside, your heart wishes shit would be different?
 

I need that someone whom wants me just as much as I want them. Their gentle touch goes deep enough I can feel them running through my veins. Time wrapping us into ancient days where a kiss united our souls. Steals away our breath. When apart, my heart and body's memories of us are indistinguishable. Palpitating heart hearing the knob turn, soaked hearing their voice again. Yearning desires betraying body language. Starved for their embrace.
 

Yes. I wish shit would be different.
 

Raven

A True Dom/me doesn't just take control of you or try to order you around. That's not Dominance. That's bullying. A True Dom/me is ALWAYS respectful. They will guide you, support you, instruct you, encourage you, help your and drive you to reach your full potential.

Not just in the bedroom, but in LIFE.

A True Dom/me will be the most supportive person you've ever met.
They'll challenge you and teach you things about yourself you've never knew.
They'll bring out the very best in you.

A True Submissive is his safe space. Emotions are expressed without judgement.
Concerns given and heard.
Understanding that H/She is human too.
His/Her feelings equally valid.
They can be held and precious those moments.
Pain is acknowledged.
Frustrations worked through.

That knowledge, that trust, sets B/both free.
In this balance, nothing can challenge Y/your commitment to the other.

It's the deepest and most intense relationship you could ever have.

Those that have lived this lifestyle know the journey, from beginning, middle, end. But how do you achieve this? One doesn't give the gift of submission freely and a Dominate doesn't just take on a submissive recklessly.

To be truly Dominated submissives gives over mind, body to the Dom/me.
The Dominates consistency, actions, commitment, show themselves. Bare and True. B/both are given freedom in a world unique to only them. Should anything try to separate them, waste to the world begins.

Through fire would I for my Daddy's soul. He in turn would pluck me from River Styx.

Just as every encounter is unique of itself so is Your Journey. "All who wander are not lost." Be at peace. Be good to the other. That's all we can do anymore...besides...the sex is AMAZING! Even when it's making love.

A one night stand.

Man fucks woman. Subject man, verb fucks, object woman.

That's okay.

Woman fucks man. Woman subject, verb fucks, man object.

Why is that not so comfortable?

Double bind

Nov 19, 2021

From a young age we tell boys to stop crying, be tough. We are creating a concept in our boy's, that they are criticized for having emotions. That suppression of feelings is what a man does. Just put your head then and move forward. This is perpetuates an emotional disconnect as men go through life. The fact that their emotional state doesn't matter is ingrained. That they have no safe space to express those emotions. That no one cares.

How do men connect then? Sexually is the most common way for men to feel that emotional connection. To be intimate, his desires, his love language is literally physical. The only acceptable way is in this manner. We see this confirmed socially by other men elevating themselves in societal hierarchy  by the number of said sexual conquests. This is their language, so  different from mannerisms from women.

Girls are emotional creatures. Allowed to live out childhood fantasies and encouraged to feel and talk out their thoughts. Most cases how to be a homemaker, caregiver, and professional. Our need to express our feelings, often times over indulged in romanticism and fantasy create a false expectation that men kill themselves to achieve. Women communicating, even at times over communicating, can be perceived to men as nagging. Why? Because women want you to do what you were raised not to do. Women get frustrated men always wanting sex sex sex, trying to give that emotional connection to us but each other not knowing the other's language ride a merry go round of mis interpretation.

Societal norms created these barriers between each other. Women not receiving that emotional connection verbally can literally not crave or desire sex. Men wanting to show us emotional connection but being denied their language that is physical are trapped and feel rejected, unloved, unwanted, confirming the rules that we set as a society.

Round and round it goes. Nagging vs sex.

We must change this way of raising small humans. Boys and girls. The lack of effort or recognition of the problem will continue this cycle. Any small step taken is the biggest step any of us can make.

But...i am an upbeat, optimistic, radio active ball of fucking sunshine. Here is the glass half full, anything can happen twist.

Sexual revolution, with healthy discovery, awareness, and, heh heh heh deviancy I have and will continue to reach out to man needing that safe space to emote. Communicate to women this love language and they can also do the same.

This cycle, for me, stopped when i discovered BDSM. That may sound cheesy, but in all honesty, we are in a dynamic that E/each speaks the O/others languages and actually conversate. Support in the bedroom and life by the O/other. Pushing boundaries and peeking behind curtained doors. 

That E/each have the O/other to go to when before there was no one. When T/they really need someone to just listen. Be there. Let T/them get off T/their chest T/their worries and fears. Knowing with Y/you, they will not be judged or ridiculed. What is said is never used against T/them for selfish needs or blackmail. T/they are valid in those emotions experienced. T/they have and T/they are feeling them for a reason. T/they, like everybody, are an ever evolving individual with the human right to do so in a healthy and supportive environment, surrounded by people that only lift T/them higher and not drag T/them down.

I'll take that every day all day over "normal" in others eyes. Be there when your Dom/me needs you the most. They are there for you every moment of every day.  Revel in the knowledge that you B/both would rather set the world on fire than to not have the O/other. Rebuild in a different perspective., stronger and more rewarding than mundane ever heard mention of. This is the world i exist for. But I'm just one person... on a box and open for conversation.

What say you?

Raven