Being a trans guy is hard around here 😮💨.
Being trans (and the way one chooses to present themselves such as testosterone vs no testosterone) can be a big part of this. I’m wondering how I can get more out there on this site as a transmasc. I think blogging would help. So here I am. Ta-da!
also, random note. What do ya’ll think of big age differences between a sub/dom/master/slave etc.? Do you think they work? Why or why not?
After having a PTSD trigger for the first time in a couple months, I just wanted to vent a little on my blog.
a lot of people in my dms always find themselves asking or pondering about my “no experience” remark on my profile. No experience means..no hand-holding. Never kissed. Never dated. It means /everything/. Being 22 I’m (semi?) ashamed that this is the case. A lot of people I work and go to school with have gf/bfs and children, even. Me? I don’t have a partner, never been touched, and, don’t have friends, frankly. My PTSD has robbed me of normal experiences growing up, so on top of being quite shy in social settings, I just..can’t help but completely avoid them all together.
although I’m still in the same place, I think BDSM and all it has to offer has introduced me to dynamics and people that are just that much more welcoming to virgins like me, and I’ve been peeking around the corner looking at what it has to bring. I hope I can experience all the things I’ve wanted to experience. Please bare with me.
Being trans is a weird difficulty, but it’s even harder in the dating and BDSM scene. Being a trans man is less so talked about within not only the trans community, but most communities such as LGBTQ+ groups. A lot of support goes toward trans women.
I haven’t had much luck on this site, especially when I claimed to be a trans dude. I think this is because the trans life means something different to everyone. A trans guy can be a guy on testosterone with a beard and abs and a flat chest. But it could also mean someone pre hormone drugs, with a binder and more feminine features.
Not really sure where I was going with this. Lmao. Have a good night
What is up with gay doms calling subs faggots? I feel like im in a Call of Duty lobby all over again LMAO
Sometimes I’ll get along with doms on here, and we’ll move to discord and they put in -2 effort. I have to be the one to reach out, and all I get are excuses and shitty responses (sometimes not at all). I’m not at all pushy nor clingy during these stages so I know it’s not a /me/ thing. What the hell? Are you not looking for a sub? It’s the same doms that say, “I’ve been trying to find a partner for years and it hasn’t worked out.” Yeah— probably because you respond like you’re a WALL.
then, there’s the doms I’ve come across that “want to get to know you” but also, “can I see your body, so I can see your body type?” What in the hell? I’m sorry, you call yourself a dom with social skills like that? How about you ask my favorite color? My favorite, I don’t know, animal? But yeah, okay. You want to see my naked ass just for science and good sportmenship. I even had a dom pressure me into listening to him jack off. Grossss. At least be hot if you want to do that, jeez.
My god it drives me insane guys!
Sometimes, I come across some doms and we get to know each other— I find it so odd sometimes. Some doms do not connect having a sub to loving them romantically. What do you guys think? Do you think a dom should love their sub romantically? Or are some dom and sub relationships for sexual needs and fulfillments only?
im personally the type of sub that will have nothing to do with a dom if he (or she) doesn’t love me. Isn’t the dynamic suppose to be full of love and trust? Or, is this strictly from my perspective and morals?
oh! Also, listen here doms, some of you? Do not take your role at all seriously. You’re going to tie your partner up. Break them down and build them back up — why rush? Why expect all of us to just throw ourselves at your feet so quickly and easily? I’m giving you my soul, you goddamn grim reaper!
It’s shocking sometimes considering how some doms don’t take this seriously! Why expect your sub to trust you so fast? Or feel frustrated at the pace? Sometimes “doms” give me immediate red flags before we even meet. What are some red flags you caught onto? (Doms and subs can comment!).