A scent of Woman

THE 4 TYPES OF WOMEN 🔞
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[ This post is not to judge, but it came to help the couple, the intimate relationship with their partner ].

When you have a wife and you want to satisfy her sexually, the first step is to know what kind of woman she is...

There are generally 4 types of women in terms of sexual pleasure:

Clitoridian woman:
these kinds of women do not reach orgasm by penis penetration. They only reach orgasm if you gently touch the clitoris. Thus, it will be necessary to adopt a gynecological position so that at the same time the man can penetrate and stimulate the clitoris with his hand.
Woman G point:
the G-spot is a very erogeneous area located in the upper part of the vagina, just a few centimeters from the entrance. G-spot gives woman more pleasure than clitoris.
Vaginal Woman:
they can't withstand clitoris stimulation. Their pleasure is caused by penis contact with the vagina wall. Thus, the man must avoid entering straight. he has to point his 🍆 in all directions (left-right, front-back) so that the penis touches the vaginal walls. They like it a lot when the penis lingers inside the vagina for a long time.
They like to move too much, question of allowing the penis to touch all the corners of the vagina. These kind of ladies like big 🥒 and really like to smell the penis inside tight tight.
Woman deep spot:
they reach pleasure if the penis touches all the way (2 cm from the cervix). Hence a strong penetration. These kind of women like very long 🥒.
If the man is on top, they hold the man tighter to get a strong penetration.
In every home, the man must understand what category his wife is in, otherwise the sexual failure of the home is guaranteed

Trainer
Trainers are experts of not only their particular craft, but are well studied in how to pass their skills on to others. Trainers may provide a myriad of roles but their key purpose is to pass on information and skills to another frequently known as a pupil.
Best Practices indicates training methods, philosophies and techniques may vary widely between trainers; be sure to select a trainer that you are compatible with.
Training Theory
When retraining certain aspects of the Three powers whether for s-types or d-types it is good to know that for most it takes approximately 90 days of intense training to do so. The first 30 are to break the old habits, the next 30 are to replace the old habits with new habits, and the last 30 are to reinforce those new habits to make sure they stick. The US military schedules their training programs along a very similar timeline and structure.
Relationship specific training
Training in the context of a Relationship indicates an advanced stage in a relationship an ongoing effort of D-type and S-type to learn the finer workings of what the D type expects from the s type that would be in service to them. This includes teaching the submissive how to act, behave and think for the pleasure of the D-type. Training for these purposes tends to come after a collar of consideration, but before a final collar, whether modern or classic, if such collaring customs are conformed to.
A period of training is often considered to be approximately 1 year in length and often utilizes a training collar, but this benchmark is not universally conformed to. During the start of this process usually specific Protocols and Rituals will be experimented with and refined to conform with the specific needs of the relationship dynamic.
This period of training is entered into with the D-type taking the majority of the responsibility of the relationship into their hands as they will have the majority of the power in the Power exchange, and thus if the relationship is to fail and end horribly they are to bear the brunt of the responsibility for the failure.
This period will end with either both partners going separate ways after a period of transition for the S-type, or result in a permanent collar. The application of a permanent collar often includes a Contract and Collaring ceremony but does not indicate that the S-type is to cease learning or that the D-type is to cease being responsible, but instead that both have reached a very mutually rewarding relationship that is set up with a strong foundation for long-term success with the intention of that arrangement to be permanent.
While revocation of a training collar is considered to be a majority failure on the part of the d-type, revocation of a permanent collar is to be often considered entirely the fault of the d-type and that any forseeable problems that might arise that could be attributed to the s-type will instead be attributed to the d-type as a failure on their part to have the insight and skill to plan and train accordingly, and that they should not have issued a permanent collar if they were not fully prepared for that level of responsibility.
S-type Training
Training need not be to learn how to serve a specific individual for an s-type. Many of the skills that an s-type might use are practical when serving any D-type and can be learned without being owned. Further, many D-types will send an s-type to learn from an experienced expert to expedite and enhance training efforts.
In this case the Trainer is a person(s) who prepares the s-type for the future or present D type. Trainers can provide a wide variety of tasks and experiences so that the trainee can have a broad understanding of etiquette, knowledge of current traditions, use of tools and service based experiences/skillsets just to name a few of the roles.
During this time the s-type may or may not wear a training collar and will negotiate very specifically for what duties that their indentured training will include. Much like Best practices concerning Mentors, it is wise to be cautious of those that seek to train with ulterior motives.
D-type Training
Much like training for the s-type that is not relationship specific, the d-type will often enter training to enhance certain d-type skills. This may include mirroring or shadowing an experienced Master for a period of time with lots of mentoring conversations and may include some exchange of services, though a training collar is not traditional unlike with the s-type. Further the types of skills being learned will vary greatly from the s-type, many of which are theory, ethics, processes, and other abstract concepts that when finely honed make one a powerful d-type. In this case the Master training the D-type is usually looking to focus the strengths of the D-type in training and shore up any extreme weak points and overall push them to be better versions of themselves.
Pet Training
Pet play animals can be trained by their handlers, but reception to training will often differ based upon the pet play animal and the individual role-player in question. Some pet play animals may even prefer to be feral and undomesticated. Most of the same training used on humans can be used on pet play animals, though they may be required to be creatively adapted in some cases. Usually the types of calls and responses being trained for may vary by animal type.
If the pet is submissive, it may be possible to train them out of negative behaviors such as scratching or biting, though some believe training a human pet out of normal animal behaviors and overly domesticating it can be detrimental to their pet space.
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PUNISHMENTS VS FUNISHMENTS

Punishments Vs Funishments
Whether you're brand new to kink or been around for awhile, you've probably heard of the term “punishment”. After all, it gets tossed around constantly – almost to the point that you might think punishments are required to be in a BDSM relationship!

A term you may not have heard of, however, is “funishment”. Similar to “punishment”, “funishment” is a helpful addition to your language library in order to help explain your interests – and distinguish them from the habit-building use of punishments.

Punishment vs Funishment? What's the Difference?

If you haven't heard the term "funishment", don't worry; you're not alone. It isn't some common term you've just missed out on; it's very specific to the kink community - and pretty specific to those kinksters who enjoy punishment-fueled dynamics.

The difference is this:

Funishment is the roleplay of a punishment for arousal's sake while punishment is a negative consequence, designed to eliminate a specific behavior, after doing something wrong.

See, a lot of people fantasize about being "punished" - only, in their fantasies, the punishments are hot and arousal-inducing. Those same punishments might even end up in orgasm. Misaligning the tablecloth (so you earn a spanking!) or sloppily mopping the floor (so you have to get helplessly “locked up” in the dungeon) are pretty common fantasies.

And "punishments" that are such a good time that they end in sex are probably not the types of negative feedback that are teaching you to avoid committing the same act in the future.

This is where the term "funishment" came from. "Funishments" are roleplay scenarios crafted for fun and arousal where one person intentionally does something "wrong" - but only so both partners can enjoy the resulting "funishment".

This leaves punishments as an unwanted, negative consequence for doing something wrong that's designed to reinforce the idea that you don't want to do that again in the future.

If you want the resulting punishment for doing something wrong, it's probably a “funishment”.

Still confused? Let's talk about some common examples of both.

Ideas for Funishments

Turned on by the idea of being "punished" for some arbitrary wrongdoing? Funishments are probably the category for you! Whether you both choose to go into roleplay characters to add the realism - or just enjoy funishments within your own, everyday dynamic, "funishment" can be a fun way to instantly shift the dynamic into some kink play. All it takes is a poorly completed chore.

By labeling it what it is (“funishment”), the two of you are able to pre-plan a scene and idea – which ensures everybody is on the same page. The top knows that the dishwasher was loaded poorly because you both agreed on it as a great way to segue into a spanking scene – not because you didn't listen to their instructions last time they lectured you.

You can see where the distinction between “funishment” and “punishment” can come in handy when we start talking about the expectations around chores and assignments. When you and your partner have very different ideas for a resulting “punishment”, frustration and resentment ensue.

If you're the bottom who's intentionally getting things wrong in hopes of that big "funishment" - and your partner doesn't know - you're just going to look disrespectful of the dynamic. Your partner may get frustrated that you regularly seem unable to complete the most-basic tasks - and that can lead to a lot of resentment.

If you're the top who's attempting to dole out "punishments" to turn your bottom on, you might find yourself surprised that your partner isn't responding with arousal at all; they feel terrible that they let you down! If the miscommunication continues, your bottom may feel jerked around by the dynamic. How are they supposed to know when their poor job on a task is about to get them a stern talking to - or an orgasm?

Having a discussion about your desire for "funishment" - and potentially talking about when/where you want to act out those scenes - can be a great way to ensure everyone is on the same page. This ensures both parties are excited (and ready!) to get turned on - instead of confused, angry, or frustrated.

After you've had your discussion, here are some common "funishment" ideas:

• Clean down the countertops – but leave an obvious mess that should have been cleaned up – then earn yourself an over-the-knee spanking

• Load the dishwasher improperly – which means you lose your clothing privileges for the rest of the day

• “Forget” to take out the trash – then get bent over the kitchen counter for a paddled spanking

• Leave a corner of the bed untucked while making the bed – then get cuffed up to that bed as punishment

• Vacuum the floor – but don't finish vacuuming a room properly – then get your face pushed into the floor from the “punishing” rough sex afterwards

• Clean the oven – but miss an obvious spot – for some “teach you a lesson!” wax play afterwards

• Track mud into the house with your shoes for a “get under my feet and worship them!” punishment session

Ideas for Punishments

As we clarified earlier, punishments are done to help prohibit or change a behavior. As many kinksters still end up in punishment-based dynamics, punishments get used a lot more often than you'd think - especially in power exchange relationships! Especially for some, the idea of getting their penance done and over with - physically - and then moving on can feel extremely cathartic. It can be mental reassurance that the transgression is forgotten and everything is back to normal.

What types of BDSM punishments exist, though? Well, it depends on the specific person and the specific couple.

Picking out a specific punishment is an extremely personal experience. This is because every single person has a unique pleasure profile. For one person, eating hot, spicy peppers is akin to a terrible punishment - for another, that's just a good lunch.

The same happens in kink realms. One person may find standing in a corner for an hour to be a boredom-inducing punishment. Another might have an ignore kink - and find it hotter than hell that they're being entirely ignored for an hour.

This is why it's important to know the person who is receiving the punishment. Knowing what turns them off, what they dislike, and what they hate will give you most of the information you need to craft punishments that are perfect for them - and punishments that suit the "crime" they're being punished for.

Because while you want to punish them, the idea isn't to go too far into abusive or mentally harmful activities. For example, for someone with a phobia of spiders, making them watch a pet spider in its cage for an hour may be going too far - and leave them with lasting anxiety from the entire experience.

So, the punishment needs to be unpleasant – but not something that provokes large amounts of anxiety or a fight or flight response.

With that in mind, here are some common punishments you can explore with your partner:

• Require them to stand in the corner for an hour with no external stimuli

• Make them complete the task - only to perfection. For example, if the forgotten task was to vacuum the living room, now require them to vacuum the living room - but also dust the living room, get the ceiling fan, vacuum the floor boards, and move around furniture to ensure every inch of the living room is clean

• Prohibit them from playing their favorite games for a week

• Require them to complete the forgotten task on a much-more-frequent basis. For example, if they missed their weekly living room vacuum, they now much vacuum the living room every day for the next month.

• Force them to read a book (and discuss the book with you) on something related to their transgression

• Write the same sentence on a piece of paper - over and over. Something related to the punishment like "I will vacuum the house at least once a week for Master." may be good.

• Require them to write an essay about what they did wrong, why it happened, and how they will prevent it from happening again in the future

• Make them watch a documentary about something related to their transgression

• With a parental lock, lock up all of their extraneous, fun-inducing apps on their cell phone

• Take away their favorite foods for a week

• Control their entire diet for a week - and ensure it's as basic and nutritious as possible (salads every day? yes please!)

• Add on additional chores for a period of time as help them "prove their devotion" after their mistake

Found this thought it might be helpful to some!
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The 40 Red Flags
The following are warnings that a Dom/Domme may not be all that you think they are. Please be careful if the Dom/Domme:
1) Tries to separate you from your friends, family or BDSM community.
2) Avoids talking about personal details. Gets mad when you ask or quickly ends the conversation or answers questions with questions.
3) Has no BDSM references or friends you can talk to.
4) Gets angry when you ask for references or ask around about them.
5) Is inconsistent with details about themselves.
6) Does not give you their home and work phone number at the appropriate time.
7) Only communicates with you at strange hours and gets mad if you try to contact them at other times.
😎 Criticises the BDSM community and refuses to participate, especially if they never were part of it.
9) Consistently breaks promises.
10) Always finds excuses for not meeting real time.
11) Always puts blame on others for things going wrong.
12) Does not take personal responsibility.
13) Has bad relationships with most or all of their family members.
14) Pressures you into doing things you do not want to do.
15) Does not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.
16) Pushes you into a D/s relationship too fast.
17) Swears undying love before even meeting you.
18 Hides behind their D/s authority and says that their authority should not be questioned.
19) Tries to make you feel guilty for not being good enough. Says that you are not a "True" sub.
20) Loses control of their emotions in arguments and regresses to yelling, name calling and blame.
21) Puts you down in front of other people.
22) Turns instantly on their friends, going from best friend to arch enemy at the drop of a hat.
23) Treats you lovingly and respectfully one day and then harshly and accusingly the next.
24) Never says thank you, excuse me or I am sorry to anyone.
25) Lies or withholds information. Cheats on you or is overly jealous.
26) Will not discuss what your possible future relationship could be like.
27) Tries to keep you in the dark about what might happen next in the relationship.
28)Does not respect your feelings, rights, or opinions.
29) Belittles your ideas.
30) Blames you for your hurt feelings.
31) Abuses alcohol or other drugs.
32) Is constantly asking for large amounts of money from you or others.
33) Threatens suicide or other forms of self-harm.
34) Deliberately saying or doing things that result in getting themselves seriously hurt.
35) Wants control of your money or finances and you are not living together.
36) ONLY interacts with you in a kinky or sexual manner as if role- playing.
37) Will not have normal everyday vanilla conversations.
38 Never shows you their human side. Is emotionless. Hides their vulnerability behind their D/s role.
39) Has multiple online identities for interacting within the same communities.
40) Disappears from communication for days or weeks at a time without explanation

12 Ways To Stay Safe In The BDSM Lifestyle
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Education & knowledge
1. Before diving into BDSM activities, invest time in educating yourself about the practices, risks and saftey measures involved. Read reputable sources, attend workshops and seek guidance from experienced individuals. A well informed approach is the best step towards a safe BDSM experience.

Communication
2. Open and clear communication is the one of the foundations of saftey in BDSM. Discuss boundaries, desires, limits and the type of play you both desire. Establish safe words and signals to ensure ensure effective communication during scenes.
Regular communication and check-ins with each other about experiences, comfort levels and concerns.

Consent and Negotiation
3. Before consenting in any BDSM activities it is advised that you have a negotiation process with your partner. Clearly defined roles, limits and what type of play that you both desire, obtain consent. Communication throughout the scene ensures everyone feels safe and respected.

Establishing Boundaries
4. Understanding boundaries and respecting them is crucial in the world of BDSM. Clearly communicating what activities are off limits and establish a framework for consent within those boundaries. Regularly re visiting and adjust as dynamics evolve or comfort level change.

RACK Risk-Aware Consensual-Kink
5. Understanding (RACK) Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, acknowledges that BDSM activities inherently can involve some level of risk. Be aware of potential risks and try to minimise them, while ensuring consent at all times contributes to a safer play environment.

Safe Words and Signals
6. Safe words can act as a slow down or a immediate stop. Choosing a word that can be easily recognised is best. Make sure you discuss your safeword/signals with a potential partner and that you both have a understanding of why they are used.

Safe Play Spaces
7. Try to prioritise the saftey of the physical place, making sure it is well-lit and free from potential hazards. Know the saftey exits and saftey protocols, whether at home or at a dungeon prioritise the saftey of the physical place.

Safe and Consensual Drug Use
8. Avoid engaging in BDSM activities while under the influence as they can impare judgement and coordination. If part of a scene practice Consensual and responsible use, ensuring that all involved are fully aware of the potential effects and risks.

Safe Equipment
9. Regularly inspecting and maintaining equipment ensuring it is in good condition. Wether its restraints, Impact tools or other play gear. Checking for wear and tear minimises the risk of injury or accidents.

Aftercare
10. Aftercare is a very important saftey component of BDSM. After a scene provide emotional and physical aftercare to each other. This may include cuddling, verbal reassurances or other comforting activities. This should be discussed before a scene is started.

Health Check Ups
11. Activities can involve physical exertion, having health Check Ups can ensure you and your partner are physically fit for certain activities. This can be important for activities that may involve intense physical exertion or impact play.
Health Check Ups can also include staying safe with STIs as well as safe sex practices .

Trust Your Instincts
12. If something dosnt feel right trust your instincts and speak up. If a situation feels unsafe or uncomfortable communicate your concerns immediately. Everyone should feel that their well-being being is top priority. In the world of BDSM that we all love Saftey is not just a guideline, it's a fundamental principle

Impact Play & Human Anatomy

Risk Awareness What Is
Impact play is the act of one person hitting another consensually. The most common type of impact play is spanking, but there are many other types of impact play to enjoy, too.

It can involve using hands, feet, knees, or tools like paddles, floggers, or canes. While there might be a sexual element for some, others enjoy it purely for the physical sensations and the dynamics of the scene.

Impact play can take place within a BDSM power dynamic (between a Dominant and submissive) or without any power exchange (between a Top and bottom). It is a popular kink and is frequently seen at dungeon parties and kink events.

Those who engage in impact play from the left side of the slash typically enjoy sadistic physical activities (hurting someone) while those who engage in it from the right side enjoy masochistic physical activities (being hurt by someone else). Kinksters who enjoy both the role of sadist and masochist are known as sadomasochists or switches.

The reasons kinksters enjoy this type of play are rarely simple. Reasons range from emotional release to empowerment through ownership of previously traumatic activities.

Is impact play physical abuse?
No. Impact play, like all of kink, is a mutually consensual activity between adults.

That being said, impact play is violent; it’s the act of one person striking another. In some cases, it can be so violent as to leave permanent marks on another person’s body. But just as a tattoo artist would not hold someone down while they drew permanently on their body, a real kinkster would never hit someone without their expressed consent.

What are the different types of impact play toys?
Impact play can involve toys that span a vast range of sensations from those that snap at the surface of the skin, creating a stinging sensation (what we call “sting” or “stingy”) to those that have a sensation of going deeply into the body to be felt in the muscle tissue (what we call “thud” or “thuddy”).

The majority of toys will fall somewhere between sting and thud, and each person has their preferred toys. Some of the most common include: crops, floggers, paddles, and canes.

We should also note that toys aren’t a definer of impact play; they are just a style of it. Many people enjoy .

How to Prepare for an Impact Play Scene
Inspect and Disinfect Your Toys
Tops should thoroughly inspect their implements before each scene to ensure they're safe to use. Damaged tools, such as canes with splits or wooden paddles with cracks, should be discarded to prevent breakage. Bottoms should also be allowed to inspect any implements before the scene begins.

Porous materials like rubber or certain leathers should be disinfected before and after use to avoid infection. Leather tools (such as floggers or whips) can be wiped with a damp cloth and dried immediately after use. If any implement breaks the skin, it should not be used on other people.

Avoid Drugs and Alcohol
As with all kink activities, both the Top and bottom should refrain from drugs and alcohol during the scene. These substances can impair judgment, affect pain tolerance, and blur the lines of consent. Clear-headedness is crucial for both parties to communicate effectively, negotiate boundaries, and engage in aftercare.

Mind Your Mental State
Both Top and bottom should ensure they’re in a stable emotional and mental state. A Top feeling angry or agitated may risk causing harm if they lose control of the intensity of the scene. Similarly, a bottom feeling depressed or anxious may be at risk of emotional overwhelm or subspace without proper precautions. Remember: the goal of impact play is to hurt, not harm.

Maintain Self-Control
It’s essential that both participants maintain self-control. Bottoms may be restrained to prevent sudden movements during the scene, ensuring their safety and consent are respected. Tops should always retain control over their implements. Some tools even come with wrist straps for additional grip security.

Parts of the Body to Strike in Impact Play
With proper preparation, awareness of the human anatomy, and adequate post-scene care, both Top and bottom can enjoy the physical and emotional benefits of impact play while minimising the risk of injury or discomfort.

Many areas of the body are considered safe for impact play, including:

Buttocks

Thighs

Calves

Upper back and shoulders

Chest/breasts

Areas Requiring Extra Care
Some areas require caution to avoid injury:

Face (Only strike the cheeks, never the eyes, nose, or mouth)

Genitals (Requires particular care and communication)

Hands and feet

Abdomen

Avoid the following areas entirely:

Joints (e.g., neck, hips, knees)

Kidneys

Tailbone

Head

Impact should be applied to parts of the body with sufficient muscle or fat to absorb the force. Striking these vulnerable areas can lead to serious injury.

Risks and Post-Scene Care for Impact Play

Watch for Wrapping
When using floggers or whips, be aware of "wrapping" — where the implement strikes the intended target but wraps around and impacts unintended areas, potentially causing injury.

Understand the Pain Response
Pain responses vary based on the implement, its use, and the body part being struck. Pain can range from sharp "sting" to deep "thud." Stingy implements (like canes) create sharp surface-level pain, while thuddy implements (like paddles or some floggers) provide deeper, muscular sensations. Always assess the response and adjust intensity accordingly.

Stay Hydrated
Impact play can be physically demanding. Both participants should stay hydrated, with breaks for water, especially for the bottom. This is crucial for maintaining energy and health during extended sessions.

Be Aware of Subspace
Bottoms may enter "subspace" — a trance-like state of heightened endorphins and reduced awareness. If the bottom becomes non-verbal or unresponsive, the Top must be prepared to end the scene or offer immediate aftercare. Always monitor your partner closely and be mindful of their mental and physical state throughout.

Post-Scene Wound Care
If there are any cuts, bruises, or abrasions, clean the wounds and apply appropriate dressing to prevent infection. Avoid further impact play on any injured areas until healing is complete. Persistent wounds should be treated by a medical professional.

Impact play can greatly enhance the dynamics of a BDSM scene, but it’s essential to prioritise safety, communication, and consent.

Do I have to like impact play to be kinky?
It’s totally acceptable to not like impact play. You are still a kinky person if you enjoy activities that are outside the realms of what you consider to be normal.

Kinksters who don’t enjoy impact play are more common than the kink community might have you believe. Impact play is just a small subset of a much larger universe of kink. Many kinksters are pain-adverse and prefer to engage in other activities that do not involve impact play. Such activities can include things like sensual play, breath play, some forms of bondage, needle play, and much more.

Beginners and veterans alike can sometimes feel like they aren’t kinky enough because they don’t find an attraction to pain.

If you fall into that category, just remember that everyone’s path is unique and your kink journey is your own.

It's sad when you realize that maybe the best way to live life is alone. You get older and realize that finding someone solid to build a life with might not happen. People are often too self-centered, stuck in the past, or attached to an ex. Some enter your life, causing enough disruption to keep you around but never commit fully, yet they don't want to let you go either. We live in a generation where being toxic is normalized. It's depressing to think that staying single is the better option because it's the only way to protect your peace and well-being. The concept of a genuine relationship seems almost impossible now, as honesty, commitment, and communication are often lacking. It's heartbreaking to know what you can bring to the table but feel like you'll never have a table to bring it to. It so sad on here we have so many fake people or ones who don’t have the same values or manners or respect in what there give out. When most just come to cheat or lie or give you False hope.so lot give up on looking and lose the hope one day to one day to find that one special person.

RULES AND PROTOCOLS

Rules, Protocols & Expectations...

Rules, Protocols, & Expectations
What IsBeing KinkyEssentials
As we’ve mentioned before, you and your partner can create any type of power dynamic that you wish, provided everyone is on board with the basic tenets of that relationship. In power exchange, these tenets are called the rules, expectations, and protocols.

What is a rule in BDSM?

In BDSM power exchange dynamics, a rule is an explicit and understood principle that governs a component of the power dynamic.

While rules have traditionally been proposed by the Dominant partner and negotiated between parties, a submissive can certainly bring their own desired rules to the table. In D/s contracts, these rules are a key component listed out after being first negotiated and agreed upon by both parties. Rules can vary in their level of strictness and frequency.

For example, a Dominant may instill a rule that their submissive must always refer to them with an honorific (e.g., Sir, Ma’am, etc.). A Dominant could also require that their submissive always wear a collar or representation of their submission, such as an anklet or subtle piece of jewellery. These rules are intended to deepen the bond between a Dominant and submissive, and for many are a key component to acting on their power exchange kink.

What are protocols in BDSM?
Protocols are the enacted procedures or behaviours that govern various aspects of the power dynamic. In other words, protocols are composed of rules.

Protocols are negotiated between the Dominant and submissive in the given dynamic and can vary depending on different settings or venues. For example, how a submissive behaves around their Dominant when alone with them in their home can be quite different from how they behave in a ‘vanilla’ setting or at a kink event.

Protocols also depend on the degree to which the Dominant has control in the relationship or scene and how many rules are in place as a result.

High protocol is a style of power exchange in which the submissive is expected to follow a strict etiquette in regard to how they interact with their Dominant (and in some cases, other Dominants).

Low protocol by contrast is more informal and casual, with less prescribed rules or expected behaviours.

Examples of high protocol include:
A submissive must always refer to their Dominant with an honorific (even in vanilla settings)

A submissive may not speak unless spoken to by their Dominant

A submissive must always walk behind their Dominant

A submissive must ask permission to use the bathroom

A submissive may not speak to other Dominants without the express permission of their D-type

A submissive must assume a specific position when their Dominant comes home from work, gets ready for bed, or any other agreed-upon moment in time

Examples of low protocol include:
A submissive refers to their Dominant with an honorific only in private or when a scene is at play

A submissive only follows the rules when a scene is in motion but doesn’t have to abide by any of them once the scene is over

A submissive can approach and speak to other people, including Dominants, without the permission of their D-type

A submissive is able to come and go as they please, without asking permission

What are expectations in BDSM?
In power exchange dynamics, expectations are what you and your partner want out of the relationship or scene.

Every relationship in life comes with expectations. You likely expect your friends to treat you with respect and to be there when you need them. You expect partners to be supportive and emotionally available for you.

The only difference between expectations in those contexts versus in BDSM is that kinky expectations are more likely to be preemptively discussed and agreed upon by both parties.

Whether you choose to have rules, protocols, and expectations interwoven into your scene or relationship is entirely up to you. Most likely, your negotiations will cover these items but may not label them as such.

It’s important to remember that there is no “one true way” when it comes to power exchange or the dynamics inherent in these types of relationships.

Kink 101

WHY DO WE RUSH

☮ A Man Who Takes His Time… Have You Ever Met A Man Who Takes His Time? A Man So In Tune With Your Energy, Your Mood, Your Expression That He Knows What You Need Without An Explanation? A Man Who Doesn't Push You Away When You're Upset Or Frustrated. A Man Who Knows How To Stand With Firmness & Calm In His Masculine While Your Feminine Works It Out. He's Taken Time To Get To Know Your Mind & Your Body. He Sees You, He Listens To The Little Things, Even When You Don't Know He's Listening. He Learned How To Connect With Your Mind & He's Learned How To Touch Your Body. He's Able To Slow Things Down & Read Your Body's Response To His Touch. He Doesn't Rush, He's Not Pleasing You For His Own Release. It's For You With No Expectation, No Pressure, No Manipulation, No Games. You Can Let Go Because He's Created A Space Of Absolute Respect & Trust. He Knows When To Kiss You Softly, When To Hold You Gently Or When To Consume Your Mind & Body With Masculine Power & Intensity. Only A Man Who Takes His Time Gives A Woman Time To Experience Every Level Of Response, Layer By Layer, Deeper & Deeper Until Her Mind, Body & Soul All Explode Together. Only A Man Who Takes His Time Can Give Her A Release Of What Lays Caged Beneath Her Surface. And Only A Man Who Takes His Time Will Ever Glimpse The Heights Of Ecstasy A Woman Is Capable Of, Her Secret Remains Hidden To All Others
I always said it the connection on the mind you need first to see her for all she is not a shell of her or what she can do in bed. Forr it about going slow for her to come to understand her to sit and listen and you Absorb her mind to full in love with who she is inside of her own thoughts 💭
To Capture the Essence of her mind as as you show her who you are in your own Vulnerability of your own soft self on the man you are. In the van
It not you trying to Impress her by what you may have or what you can offer her
Your own true self is what she will want.
No lies no Deception noting to hide from her this is why I take my time to come to understand her as she comes to understand me.

Ladies have you realized how USELESS you become once a man chop you? Have you realized how silent men become once they eat you? You will be in his dm talking to yourself…hey how are you doing? How was work? Have you eaten? How is your mother doing? Bla bla bla and sometimes he doesn’t even respond or he will respond after hours and hours🤣 not that he hasn’t seen your message, he’s got his phone in his hand and he saw your message but he can’t respond because you have become USELESS and he doesn’t need you at that moment. All of a sudden he was good in the beginning, responding on time, calling you and all but once you give him the fruit from the garden of Eden he disappear like the snake that gave eve fruit 🍎 This must tell you something ladies, if you can’t be educated or if your education cannot give you value at least your private part must give you value “🍑” you must protect it and value it by all means to make sure it’s not easily accessible. Men don’t respect women who can be accessed all the time infact they don’t even value women that can be eaten or chopped at any time. You must add value to yourself by making sure your 🍑is well taken care of and it’s not easily accessed. Relationships are not hard to find but because you decide to reduce value and open your legs to anyone you reduce your value by not being marketable. A valuable woman is not the one with PHD, Degree or driving expensive cars but a valuable woman is the one who knows how to take care of her private part. I know a lot of women who are educated but very useless and they share their private part to anything that drives and give them money and that’s not value. Protect your private parts because that’s where your value is!! All men need it, they need it 😀so you must make sure you realize that it has value. How well you take care of YOURSELF DETERMINED HOW VALUABLE YOU ARE