A scent of Woman

TO THE BEAT OF YOUR OWN DRUM ?

Never forget what your heart needs is so important. Some days we all look at what is needed from within our own selves. Just listen to the rhythm of your own drum, to the beat of your own mind on the music that comes from your own soul. In what you read and your own actions will show who you are deep down.

As I reflect on my life, I start to look at the small things in it. Like a cup of tea and biscuits at night, the talks with my kids on any topic, people who you can talk to about anything. Be with someonewho will come back to talk to you after a fight. ?
It seems the small things are what we take for granted, like waking up every day not in pain. Take time out to write down your own dreams of one day doing. Remember it is so important knowing your own self deep down on who you are. Never lose yourself in making others happy when it's, you, who should be the happy one.
It's like a blindfold over the eyes on what you forget to see. It's how far you're ready to push your own self to get the best version out of you. Most only dream of what they want or fantasize what their life could be like. But how many of us push to make our own dreams come true?
What you feel inside for BDSM will be the direction in which it takes you. Most come here with a vision of what got them here in the first place:
Reading a book
Watching a movie
Watching kink porn
But we all came with a thought ? and that's what leads us.
I get a lot of people saying that they are lost and don't know who they are. I say to them, 'Let's go back to the basics, look at the things you love':
How do you see BDSM
How does it make you feel
What emotions does it conjure inside
What do you need from it

For me, it is the rhythm of who I am, inside me. It's my drum ? that beats to the one thing that makes sense to me on who I am. The Master in me wants to inspire with what I post, with the way the words touch people in a way that makes them think on their own lives. It's not a sexual act that I need. It's the mental connection, with love, to have her in my arms and give her a safe place where she can be free.
 

WHO IS SHE OF A SUB

The true essence of a sub "When you are transparent, you become unmistakable—no shadows, masks, or veils to blur the truth of who you are. In your transparency, others can look through you and into the core of your being, where your heart and essence glow with an unfiltered light. You stand as you are, clear and direct, with a kindness that needs no explanation. There is no mystery to untangle, no enigma to decipher. You leave no one puzzled or lost in the aftermath of your words or actions. You are not a riddle but a presence fully understood. In your honesty, you refuse to hide. You carry the courage to show up fully, stripped of pretense or armor. You are bravery embodied, raw truth in human form. In this nakedness, you don’t waver or seek approval. Your transparency is not a weakness but the purest strength. It is a declaration: "This is who I am". You let yourself be seen, and in that openness, you stand out in a world that often shrouds itself in layers of pretense. Your authenticity shines like a beacon, guiding others toward their own." And the true Master will see you for who you really are in the your true light of who you are. When you see a sub for who there are you see them for the first time in what there bare down showing you there full vulnerability of what there offer you.

WHATS MISSING FOR ME

I would like to share my thoughts and how I feel on what is missing for me in this lifestyle; of what makes a good D/s and Master seeing a sub for all she is.
I love the mind of a sub, in seeing her true self in who she is from inside her own mind. I love the vulnerable side of her, for her to give up everything she fears, to being at my feet. To be so vulnerable and having no fear of who she truly is. When we, as Doms, Masters, etc, can show her that there is nothing to fear in what she offers and see her when she is the best version of her true self and in her own light, then we are truly the lucky ones for we get to see the most beautiful side of her; her at our own feet, submitting her everything, her mind, her body, and her soul.
When she can be true in her own self, you get the very best out of her and can see her for who she is truly meant to be.
When you see her for the person she is, giving her all in wanting to be the best sub she can be, only for you.

Showing her in your own true Dominance, to never be fake in who she is, to not hide herself, but to be true in who she wants to be and bringing all her walls down and nothing to hide. She takes on what you truly want in a sub, you teach her to never be ashamed of who she truly is.

To me this this the true meaning of what
Is when you finding your true sub.

"She stood before him just as she was made to be, no lies, no judgement, no fake smile. She showed him the storm that raged within her, the strength of her heart, the stubbornness of her will and the soul that burned like fire and he.... He took all she had to offer…saw the beauty amongst the chaos…stared every flaw, every doubt and every fear in the face. He saw her spirit and ran free with it…he showed her the fire that ran wild within his own soul and together… despite the storms of life… together they set each other ablaze and danced in the flames." Let me envelop your weary soul with the warmth of my body and heal the places that have been broken for far too long.

This is the form that makes a D/s so strong in seeing her at her best with out No walls up and her own vulnerability is shown of who she is.

If you can give this to a true Dom or Master and he sees you for who you truly are you blessed with finding you own self in him of what you both give each other.

Her own mind is the key. It's not a door to what she learned; from the knowledge of what she sees BDSM is, and the way on how to be a sub. When it comes to understanding she knows it, it stays in her mind, with 80% mental and 20% sexual. The key was for her to learn who and why she was a sub as she looks deep into your eyes to surrender her whole self to you, knowing in that you're going to look after her, to keep her safe every night in your arms. To know yourself of the true responsibility she has given you, to look after her needs and wants.

This sums up on what I see is truly missing on how I see true Dominance

Any man can grab a woman by her hair throw her on the bed and rip her clothes off,sure tire up and call her a bitch or a slut and have rough sex with her.
But that’s not true Dominance.
That’s Rough sex or even violent sex
If She’s into it if can be fun.
But thats still not True Dominance.
True dominance is to be able to whisper Softly into her ear ? as she Obediently remove her clothes.
Methodically one pice at a time
As you watch as she kneels before you
Offering her entire self to after
Willingly with out hesitation reservation
embarrassment or shame
She will show you her most Vulnerable self.
You will know noting makes her happy then to make you happy.
And to me that what missing when a lot don’t have a clue on what it is to be a sub in my eyes.
 

"She stood before him just as she was made to be, no lies, no judgement, no fake smile. She showed him the storm that raged within her, the strength of her heart, the stubbornness of her will and the soul that burned like fire and he.... He took all she had to offer…saw the beauty amongst the chaos…stared every flaw, every doubt and every fear in the face. He saw her spirit and ran free with it…he showed her the fire that ran wild within his own soul and together… despite the storms of life… together they set each other ablaze and danced in the flames." Let me envelop your weary soul with the warmth of my body and heal the places that have been broken for far too long.

This is the form that makes a D/s so strong in seeing her at her best with out No walls up and her own vulnerability is shown of who she is.

If you can give this to a true Dom or Master and he sees you for who you truly are you blessed with finding you own self in him of what you both give each other.

TO UNDERSTAND

When you come here most only come here for the sexual side but that only a very small part of what true BDSM is about.
It like we all Rubik’s cubes.
Trying to unravel our own minds.
Yes some of us have more of it figured out of own selfs and Figured out then others.
My posts and writings help you to ask the questions on some of you who may not have asked.
Our own minds are the gate way to who we are in what we Want. Finding who’s we truly are.
I ask a lot of questions in my posts I put up infount of you so you may find yourself.
Find in working on your own self as in putting your own Rubiks cube back in order to know you own true self.
Do a lot of us work on our own selfs to give what we truly need back on the inside of our own minds.
Do we work in Structural way to give our own selfs the time we need.
I am deep thinker I understand a lot of minds on what makes them work.
The chaos can cause us not to shut down or to escape on the mind over thinking to let us not rest in peace.
Or what is missing from your own life in how you see your own self from who you are.
What missing out of your own life can make you shut down and not be who you meant to be it important to able to talk to someone who takes the time to get to know you from the inside of your own mind and understand you as a person to dig deep onto who you are where you come from.
I find a lot of people who just need someone to understand them not to judged them on who there are.
The more you learn on who someone is we can build on a deep understanding and make the relationship so much better it not always easy when the Focus is always the other side of fence.
We also have to remember there two people in any type of friendship or relationship and it nice to know you both can be Vulnerable and open and honest with each other.
Talking is the key to any good friendship or relationship but taking the time out and have that deep Intimate Conversations is so important to really know each other.
It can also set of Triggers.
When talking about things like Trauma and things that have happened and upset them in there lives but I just say listen to them and just let them tell you there story and do not try to give them to much Advice and work on just bern there to hear there stroy.
Sometimes we just want to be heard nothing else.
And other times there come ti you for advice.
I find my self being Vulnerable is a good thing to the right people it shows you got Notting to hide.
You can be fully open to them and there see how good you are as person.
Belive in your own self in who you are wait till the right people show up and just let you be who you are on the inside of you own self.
Witt know fear of been vulnerable
 

THE INNER DESIRE

My Dream is to create a space for a sub so she can be free from the outside world ?
Where we can be both Explore the most inner selfs of our own Emotions.
Create Memories and last long deep love In a place only for use under lock and key ?
When I can have my tools and toys and Equipment Designed and only for her own needs
The space is only hers to Express her deep needs of what she Deeply desires.
I want to build on love and making sure she has the deep connection with my mind and who she wants to be.
When you felel her own Presents on who she is you are full in contol of who Control of who she is in what she hands you in her own trust of you.
You must build on the most deep connection to understand of each other wants and how far you both go for each other when you look in to the eyes of connection you see the person for all there are.
If you have the passion for that come read more of who I am,
You may be the lucky one who gets to see all of me.

TO KNOW ME

To know Me

To know me is to want me

then to have me is to touch me

To touch me to get Close to me

To get close to me is feel me

To feel me to know me know me

To know me is know my mind

To know my mind is to talk to me

To talk to me is to reach out to me

The feel of the Shadow that walks beside me

The one who shows my dark side

but never Leaves me

To know me is to understand my mind

To want me is to know my mind

To keep me is to win my soul

To feel me is to know my heart

To love me is touch my heart

To win that special someone its more then looks it more then sex

It’s the most deep connection who knows your mind

And Knows your Thoughts

So next time you meet that someone special remember this

Madboy252M Master

TO BE THE BEST MASTER

What does it take to be a MASTER

Dedication
Knowledge
Understanding of BDSM
Understand a sub and her needs

To know your own strengths in
In what you can give her.

It’s so important to know what you bring to a table .

To truly know your self as what you offer a sub .

Showing her your own worth in how you touch her soul and mind I can’t say this enough 80% Mental 20% sexual.

Reaching into her mind before anything else build on her trust and learn tech her about you open up fully be an open book to her.

Learn everything about her who she is take the time to understand her in every way.

Do not push to her to call you a name like Sir Dom or Master.

Let her discover who you are with out telling her she soon see who you are in how you treat her.

Get to know her From her own life and how you going to support her in every way of her life.

Most impudently give her a safe place to feel loved safe and Secure.

You must show your vulnerable side to her so she feels like she can open up to you to show her vulnerable side to you.

It’s building foundations it bulding on deep trust and fully understanding her needs and wants.

Just listening to who she is.

What happen in her life and understanding who she is deep down.

This will take time do not push it let her open up in her own time.

Working out her hard limits making sure she can trust you fully.

You must become her safety blanket.

Give her your arms to feel safe in.

It’s about all the small things you do put that glass of water next to her bed.

Cuddle her after play times tell her you love her and show her shower down and take good care of her it so important doing aftercare.

Tell her she’s been a good girl kiss her on the forehead massage her slowly do your aftercare and it so important
You make sure she knows she done a great job in pleasing you.

flowing it up with the up coming days
The txts with how are you doing when you with her treat her right.

To the aftercare on knowing how to look after her in every way.

The long talks and making sure she looking after her self in every way.

Making sure everything is set out right for her in eveything you do for her.

Work on the little things she will appreciate it more.

It the small things that count like looking after her in the best way keep her safe.

Giving her inspiration for been her and trying everything she may not have done before.

Give her the training she needs ask her to do a Journal to write her emotions down daily.

Get her three books a rule book so you both know what is expected of her.
And do punishment list in it as well.

Journal book
Rule and Punishment book
BDSM Knowledge understanding
Like BDSM Poses things she can take notes down on

So you both understands what and she Agrees to.

I always trial things out frist before you set in concrete.

That goes with tasks as well.

Never Force on what you want.

Remember it’s a gift what she gives you her submission.

Not to be take from her or forced.

You must be humble when it comes to her. In her times of need.

and what she asked of you and how you treat her yes there’s times when you must step up as the Master and take charge.

But never push her over her hard limits

Give her time to process on new things you bring into Dynamics like new ways of play or tasks.

Trail and Era will be more in place around this time

She must alway Agree with it all

So important you give her the correct safe words to use before any type of play goes ahead

Learn what TPE is and make sure she understands it

Talk to her about sub drop

Talk to about sub space

Go over all the equipment you she’ll use on her

Alll the safety tips you put in place for her so she understands it all

Remind her who has the power to stop it at any time

Woe those are my techniques I use for a sub and I find there work good for me

I sure you can add more things in there

Master D
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WHY HIDE WHO YOU ARE

I live in A beautiful country but I live with lot of people who can’t show there own sexuality as you will be looked Upon different to the rest and not looked at it should not be taken seriously.

It such a shame and Disgrace when you can’t Celebrate who you are without been Ridicule or told it wrong.

It when your own Sexuality is been Judged by a few and when you want to Celebrate it and like to show who you are as a human.

It then taken away from you
As I see Notting wrong in who you are in your own Sexuality.

So the gay community painted a road crossing in rainbow ? colours and then you get the ones who are Against people who want to show who there are and come along and paint over it and say it wrong.

I find some of the people in my country are still living in the 50s of the bigots and think and sexual relationships of not of the vanilla type should be all keep away from eye of the public.

Why do people punish others for been them selfs when there are not doing anything wrong.

Do others in there county’s come across this when we meant to live in world of Humanity and treat the next human with respect and with manners.

What going on when we have to hide who we are as people.

The behaviour of some show us why we are like we are today of not been able show who we are.

Who come across someone who can’t tell someone what you are as person and tell them what you’r own sexual side like it more hidden out there.

I love your thoughts ? on all of this how do you deal with people who try to bring you down on who you are.

Is this a world wide problem or it just a small groups of people who just do not understand we are all different and not one of us is the same.

How do you tell someone who knows not must about BDSM are we giving enough information out on what true BDSM is about out there

As I been called every name under sun for doing and liking BDSM from a lot of people who do not understand the true meaning of the D/s or what it means to have a deep understanding of it.

Is it the way the world is bern told of what BDSM is it it been Betrayed as a bad thing I ask.

Where it gone wrong on how people Perceive what’s people Sexuality Reality is like.

I would love to open this topic right out there to you all to think about how it has Affected you in any way.
 

This is a great read I did not write it but brings home whats lots miss about BDSM and what needs to be said 

Madboy2 52 M Master
10 Signs You’re Confused About How Submission Really Works

It’s easy to believe that the only people who are completely confused about how Dominance and submission (D/s) and BDSM work are the wannabe Dominants. It would be unfair of me to say that the only problem lies with those who want to be in charge. There are plenty of submissives out there who get it wrong, with this and a few conversations with others who have gone through the same thing, I thought it might be time for a little tough love for people claiming to be submissive looking for a long-term relationship and seem to be getting it all wrong.

To be fair, I’m not referring to submissives who meet the wrong person or believe the lies. That happens with any type of relationship, vanilla or kinky – and it can happen to Dominants, too. No, today, let’s discuss how other types of submissives are getting it wrong.

Don’t offer your submission before you know their real name. I mean, really? I shouldn’t have to say this, but it seems necessary in a world of online-only kink and online profiles. You’re willing to let someone control your orgasms, the food you eat, and when you go to bed, but you don’t know their real name? Think about that for a second.

Don’t offer to submit through the comments of a blog, on a Facebook profile, or anything that involves some online public forum – as a replacement to an actual private conversation about it.

Think long and hard about why you only want to submit to married or otherwise unavailable Dominants. I have definite opinions on married people taking D/s partners without knowledge and consent from their spouses but that’s a post for another day. But if you seek out or seem to “attract” married Dominants who can never give you a full commitment, I challenge you to think about why that may be.

Build your relationship the same way you would in the vanilla world first. Get to know your potential Dominant. Let them get to know you. The D/s might be an inherent part of your personality, preferences, and physical, emotional, and mental well-being, but you’re both people first. You should know who they are, what they do, and hell, even their favorite colour

Don’t be surprised when you don’t always get your own way. If you’ve discussed, negotiated, and consented to a relationship where your Dominant has the power and control, you’re going to hear, “No” from time to time. This is part of the D/s package. Don’t cry foul when you don’t get your way. You don’t come across as a submissive when you do it – just a spoiled brat. Note: If you’ve got a real problem with something or it violates a hard limit, have a discussion with your Dominant – in a calm manner – and renegotiate. Also if being a brat is part of your power exchange, go for it!

Don’t assume anyone can read your mind. There is no “should know, should think, should anything” in D/s. If you want someone to know how you’re feeling, what you need, or what you hate, you have an obligation and a responsibility to speak up.
Don’t think this is all about you. I know many of us say that submissives have the real control because we can withdraw consent at any time. And I believe that. But don’t mistake that as an opportunity to think you don’t have to contribute to the relationship, too. The relationship isn’t all about you – just as it isn’t all about your Dominant. It’s a partnership and each side must give in order to receive.

Remember that your Dominant has a life outside of you. This kind of goes hand-in-hand with number seven. I’m talking to submissives who freak out when their Dominant doesn’t text back immediately, drop everything to talk to them, and give them attention every moment of the day. Dominants, like submissives, and like everyone else in the world, have responsibilities – to their children, to their families, to their job, to themselves. They shouldn’t ignore you for days on end, but a few hours without a return phone call is rarely a reason to combust.
Tell the truth, even if it’s painful. Don’t lie. Don’t lie. Don’t lie. We warn you about Dominants who lie, but I don’t think submissives hear this often enough. This includes everything from white lies to spare feelings to massive untruths to get out of trouble. If you didn’t do the task, own up to it. Yeah, you might have to face consequences for it, but that’s part of being a submissive.

Understand the difference between BDSM/kinky sex and D/s. If all you want is a rough tumble in bed or to be tied up and flogged, but you don’t want the responsibility of a relationship, you’re most likely just a bottom. And there’s nothing wrong with that. D/s is how you relate to one another in a relationship. Frankly, D/s requires a lot more work than any intricate Shibari scene or the negotiations for some kinky play in a dungeon with a stranger. If you don’t want that kind of work, no problem. No one’s judging you. But before you go around calling yourself a submissive, make sure you know what it is you’re looking for.

To be fair, some people like to play anonymously online as a “submissive” or “Dominant.” For them it’s pure fantasy. This post isn’t for those people. This list is to give a little tough love for anyone, man or woman, calling themselves a submissive, claiming to be looking for their forever Dominant, and who don’t seem to understand that submission requires work and time. If you’re not willing to put in the effort and just want some kinky play, own it, and be a bottom. But don’t get people’s hearts involved and then cause hurt and pain to people who don’t deserve it.