As a submissive, it can be easy to fall into patterns of self-sabotage when seeking a dominant partner. The desire to submit can often be at odds with the need to prove that a dominant is capable and worthy. This can lead to behaviors that can be seen as bratty or disrespectful, ultimately sabotaging the very relationship the submissive desires.
One of the biggest challenges that submissives face is the need to prove themselves to their potential dominant partner. This need to prove themselves often stems from past experiences in which they were let down by a previous dominant or experienced a lack of trust in their own ability to choose the right partner. This need to prove oneself can manifest in various ways, such as constantly testing the boundaries or challenging the dominant’s authority.
Unfortunately, these behaviors can ultimately lead to the demise of the relationship, as it can be incredibly frustrating for a dominant to constantly have to prove themselves to a submissive. Additionally, these behaviors can be seen as disrespectful and even bratty, which is not the impression a submissive wants to give to a potential dominant partner.
One way to combat this self-sabotage is by surrendering to the dominant’s authority. It can be scary to give up control, especially when past experiences have taught the submissive to be wary of dominant partners. However, by surrendering, the submissive is able to fully trust in the dominant’s ability to lead the relationship and create a safe space for exploration and growth.
Additionally, it is important for the submissive to recognize and break any past behavior patterns that may be inhibiting their ability to fully surrender to a dominant partner. This may require some introspection and self-reflection, as well as the willingness to seek help and support from a therapist or trusted friend or hopefully your Dom.
Ultimately, the key to finding a healthy and fulfilling relationship as a submissive is to let go of the need to prove oneself and fully surrender to the dominant’s authority. This may require a great deal of trust and vulnerability, but the rewards can be incredible. By surrendering, the submissive is able to fully explore their desires and needs within the safe and consensual space created by the dominant partner. It is a journey that requires courage and self-reflection, but it is one that can lead to incredible growth and satisfaction.
Her heartstrings played by his skilled hands,
A masterpiece of sound,
He knew just how to make her sing,
With every note he found.
He praised her curves and kissed her skin,
A gentleman in all ways,
But in the heat of passion,
Their desires set ablaze.
He craved her more than just her body,
Her submission was his art,
He wanted to explore her soul,
And give her all his heart.
She never felt unsafe with him,
His touch was pure and true,
He showed her the beauty of submission,
And made her dreams come true.
Now she sits within her case,
A fine-tuned violin,
Remembering the moments shared,
And the pleasure that he brought in.
Though no one else could take his place,
She knows that she'll be fine,
For she's been played like a violin,
And now she knows how to shine.