I often have this conversation around NEED versus WANT. Some might come into the lifestyle with the idea that they simply want to try something new or explore a fantasy. However, over time, many discover that what they thought was just a want is actually a deep-seated need.
The difference between NEED and WANT is significant. Want implies a desire for something that is not necessarily required for survival or well-being. This might refer to a desire for a specific type of play or dynamic. While wanting these things can be exciting and enjoyable, they do not necessarily represent a fundamental requirement for personal growth or fulfillment.
On the other hand, NEED implies something that is essential to an individual's survival, happiness, or overall well-being. This might refer to a need for power exchange, submission, or domination. These needs may have deep roots in an individual's psyche, and not fulfilling them can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction, anxiety, or depression.
The key is recognizing the difference between WANT and NEED. It's okay to explore different desires and fantasies but it's important to understand what truly drives us. Ultimately, fulfilling our needs will lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying life, both within and outside.
For those who discover that their desires are rooted in a fundamental need, it can be life-changing to find a partner who understands and supports these needs. A partner who recognizes the importance of fulfilling needs, rather than simply indulging wants, can provide a sense of safety and security that is essential for true exploration and growth. So while wants may come and go, needs are the truer of the two, and finding a partner who can help fulfill those needs can be the key to a fulfilling lifestyle. What do you ?