Tersely Pertinent

So in our last discussion, I asked everyone about their "Why".   This led me back to thinking on an old Fet post I did talking about the old journalistic questions:

Who

What 

When 

Where 

Why 

How

Being that I am somewhat tired from a bad night and waiting on things to happen here at the house, I thought I would do a small discussion on another section.  What I would like to know from you all is Where you think you like to practice the lifestyle.

Do you prefer:

The local Dungeon?

Your Living Room?

The Basement?

Out in Public?

Only in the Bedroom?

In the car?

In the Backyard?

Is one place more important to you?    Do you have space somewhere or it is merely a spot of convivence?   What are your thoughts....

Discuss: 

Because I am retired, I do spend a great deal of time here on Cage and on Fet.    It gives me time to indulge myself in one of my favorite perversions:

Profile reading.

Now most of you think I am cruising for naky pics (well naky feet pics, but I digress) when I am really wanting to see what people have to say about themselves and the lifestyle.  Mostly I am looking for the reason they they got attracted to the lifestyle to begin with.    This is what I call "The Why".

Now most people don't list their why.    They want to talk about their kinks or their fetishes.   Others want to list what they are not looking for.   Still others say nothing at all (this is a visual media, so if you don't put anyting, you get nothing out).   Very few talk about why they are here.

Now a good deal of that is they don't really understand their why.   They think saying things like "I'm a natural submissive" is ok.   They don't explain why they think this.   I often wonder if they even understand why they think they are so.   

However, I think the Why is deeper than that.    I have spent decades thinking on my why and have come to many different conclusions.   I started out thinking it was just the sex, but older me threw that out the window.   Long ago, it came to me that it was much deeper than that.    But that is personal philosophy is  now further reaching.    Though I sometimes wonder if future me will simply come back to the sex.   I don't know.

So kiddies, today my question is:

Have you thought about your Why?     

Better still, do you understand your Why?

Discuss:  

Sorry

Sorry Sorry

It was the snow being blown

Not me

Sorry for the Confusion 

Eight Inches here

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Some snow

So here I am playing my online solitaire game, while talking with people and trying out a new pizza sauce recipe when the Ad on my game comes out with:

"When you need Comfort, Bring out the Bob"

Really guys?    

Recently, I had a local lifestyle friend wanting to sell off some of his excess things.    So looking around, I found a set of leather/vinyl wrist and ankle cuffs.    He also had this nifty set of slim shackles.  Also wrist and ankles.  So me being me, my tinker brain started winding and thought they would go well with my interrogation chair.

The main problem was how to get the shackles to connect to the wood frame of the chair.     Then it hit me:

Magnets!

So I went online and found these 130 # pull ones and screwed them into the arms and legs of the chair:

Now the shackles didn't have the metal content I was thinking, so made a bit of an addition so it would work with the magnet and this is what I ended up with:

Currently, I am using a cotter pin (it really isn't a cotter pin, but that is what I call it) to keep the shackle locked.   I may go get some small padlocks, but want try the pins first for safety.    The shackle itself can be separated from the chair with a really hard pull.    But looks rather intimidating, don't it?

I decided to see if I could do the same kind of idea with the leather cuffs I first put on.    A couple of fender washers and, Voilà:

In the end, I got both wrist shackles and one leather cuff attached, but then ran out of fender washers.   Guess I need another trip out to the hardware store.     Here is the almost completed chair.     It looks fun, doesn't it!

So it has been some time since I have worked on any of my BDSM projects.    Life and non interest has been keeping from starting anything new or even finishing up anything.  However, my fuck machine was close and I was at the hardware store, so got the few pieces I needed.

So now it is all together and works.    The stool is not stable enough to keep from rocking on high power, but a foot on the step will keep it in place while it runs.    Guess if I ever find a Testor to stick the end of it into, I will find out how really functional it is:

After reading a good friend of mine's post here yesterday, I thought I would touch base a bit about something of a favorite subject of my own:

Humiliation

Now you see this subject a great deal within the lifestyle.  But, what you are really seeing is gawdawful attempts at it, which turn out really really bad.   Such as the attempt described in my good friend's post.   

Humiliation is a tricky bitch.   It isn't as easy as it seems, nor should it be.   The first thing you have to understand about the subject is: it isn't for everyone.   Just being in the lifestyle does not mean you should subject to be be subjected to this.    As I have told many, many, MANY people over the years, not everything in the lifestyle is for everyone.  It is like a Chinese buffet and  Humiliation is right next to that really spicy shrimp that looks like regular fried shrimp but when you bite into it, you have to down like gallon of milk to keep from dying.

Now personally, I love a good s type that can take humiliation well.   Not so much I enjoy seeing them lower themselves, but love what they are willing to put themselves for me.    However, this takes a good deal of time to see if they are willing to do so, and it is time well spent!   

To simply throw out a "You are such a slut" without testing the ground for mines is stupidity.  Particularly for doing to a female s type.   Such derogation have been used on women for non consensual control for centuries.   Not all women will react well to it.

Now on the other hand: Be honest about your Humiliation, on both sides of the collar.    Way too many say they are good/acceptable of it but really don't know what they are doing.   Don't say you are really into it then balk when something like peeing in a litter pan is brought up.   Be honest of what your levels are, giving or taking.    

Thank you for coming to my discussion.  What questions do you all have?

It's early in the morning and I have my annual Physical this morning, so I am gumpy.

(Yeah more so than usual)

So to keep myself occupied til it is time to go to the Doc's, I am here online and reading profiles.  Course being grumpy I get all pissed off at a given statement:

"I am feeling more of a soft domme"

I find this to be just a pile of crap.

One is Dominate or one is not.   There are no shades of gray in this.   What you really mean is you are strict or you are not.   Or it could be you are a Top instead of a Dom/me.    Or it could mean you are really just kinky and have no idea what you are doing what so ever.

Rant over, go about your business

(if you think you are going to tell me I am not be respectful or don't understand, you can just get in your car, take the road out of town, turn left and then keep going straight til you just fuck right off)