Tersely Pertinent

You have a very nice set of Tits!

As requested, here is the Castle Realm Checklist

For you youngsters or those that came into the lifestyle after the turn of the century, Castle Realm was one of the early (if not the first) websites dedicated to the lifestyle.  It was originally set up as a submissive collective to get s types data they needed to know to get the most out of their role and to keep them safe.

The checklist you see below is probably the first of it's kind.   It was developed as an aid to what is now known as "Negotiations".  I don't remember what it was called back in those days, I've always referred to it as "The Dance".

There may be terms here you have never heard of before, as they have fallen to the wayside.  There may be activities you do not agree with (there is at least one I know of), but I am presenting the list as it was in those days.   Some of the terms are cringy today.   We were not as enlightened back in the mid 90s as we are today.  But in preserving the history, I decided to keep it as it was.  

Some of these terms have changed over the years: if you need definition for those days, let me know and I will provide.

Enjoy! 

Castle Realm Checklist:

24/7
Abrasion
Age play
Anal plug (public, under clothes)
Anal plugs (large)
Anal plugs (small)
Anal sex
Anal Toys, Other
Animal roles
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)
Asphyxiation
Auctioned for charity
Bastinado
Bathroom use control
BDSM Furniture
Beastiality
Beating (hard)
Beating (soft)
Bedroom Only
Being bitten
Being serviced (sexual)
Blindfolds
Body Worship
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (light)
Bondage (multi-day)
Bondage (public, under clothing)
Boot worship
Bootblacking
Branding
Breast whipping
Breast/chest bondage
Breath control
Brown showers (scat)
Cages (locked inside of)
Caning
Catheterization
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chastity belts
Chastity Play
Chauffeuring
Choking
Clamps
Clothespins
Cock worship
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Competitions (with other Subs)
Consensual Non-Consent
Corsets (wearing)
Costumes
Cuckolding
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Cum Eating
Cutting
Diet Control
Dilation
Domestic service
Double penetration
Edging
Electricity
Emotional Sadism
Enemas
Enforced chastity
Examinations (physical)
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy abandonment
Fantasy gang-rape
Fantasy rape
Feathers
Fisting (anal)
Fisting (vaginal)
Flogging
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced dressing
Forced homosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity (around others)
Forced nudity (private)
Forced servitude
Full head hoods
Furry
Gags (cloth)
Gags (rubber)
Gags (tape)
Gates of Hell (male)
Genital sex
Genital Torture/CBT
Given away to another Dom (perm)
Given away to another Dom (temp)
Golden showers
Guided Orgasms
Hair pulling
Hairbrush spankings
Hand jobs (giving)
Hand jobs (receiving)
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Having clothing chosen for you
Having food chosen for you
Head (giving fellatio)
Head (receiving fellatio)
Headphones
High heel worship
High Protocol
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hoods
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Housework (doing)
Human Furniture
Human puppy dog
Human Sex Toy
Humiliation (private)
Humiliation (public)
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Imprisonment
Including others
Infantilism
Initiation rites
Injections
Interrogations
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Involving Others
Kidnapping
Kissing
Kneeling
Knife Play
Leather clothing
Leather restraints
Lectures for misbehavior
Licking (non-sexual)
Live Cam
Locks
Manacles & Irons
Manicures (giving)
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Master/Slave
Medical scenes
Mind Games
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Mummification
Name Calling
Needle/Piercing Play
Negotiations
Nipple clamps
Nipple weights
Oral Sex
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Orgasm control
Orgasm denial
Outdoor scenes
Outdoor sex
Over-the-knee spanking (OTK)
Paddling 
Panties
Penetrative sex
Pet Play
Phone Conversations
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)
Pictures
Piercing (permanent)
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Pony slave
Prison scenes
Public Bondage
Public exposure
Punishments
Pussy worship
Religious scenes
Remote-Controlled Sex Toys
Restrictive rules on behavior
Rewards
Riding crops
Riding the 'horse' (crotch torture)
Rituals
Roleplay
Romance
Rope
Rope body harness
Rope Suspensions
Rough Sex
Rubber/Latex
Rubber/latex clothing
Ruined Orgasms
Saran wrapping
Scratching - getting
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving
Serving as a maid
Serving as art
Serving as ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as toilet
Serving as waitress/waiter
Serving orally (sexual)
Serving other Dom/mes (supervised)
Serving other Dom/mes (unsupervised)
Sexting
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Shaving (body hair)
Shaving (head hair)
Sissification
Slave Training
Sleep deprivation
Sleepsacks
Slutty clothing (private)
Slutty clothing (public)
Sounding
Spandex clothing
Spanking
Speculums (Anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Speech restrictions (when, what)
Spirituality
Spitting
Spreader bars
Squirting
Standing in corner
Stockings
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Supplying new partners for Dom
Suspension (horizontal)
Suspension (inverted)
Suspension (upright)
Swallowing semen
Swallowing urine
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tattooing
Teasing
Temperature Play
Tickling
Trampling
Triple penetration
Uniforms
Vaginal dildo
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator on genitals
Video (recordings of you)
Video (watching others)
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Water torture
Watersports
Wax Play
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling

I find it so utterly hilarious to find myself blocked by someone for simply liking their profile.  

Being a voyeur pervert, I liked reading people's profiles here and on Fet.  I find them windows into their world and why they find BDSM so captivating.   Sometimes it is humorous, other times it is heartbreaking.    Still other times, it is nothing but a void.

Those that I find interesting, I will like.    The profile tells me a story, good or bad.    I especially will like profiles that are well written.  To me, a like is simply a "Good job!" and I wish them well.

The chance I am going to write them a message is vanishing small.   While I have made some good friends across the world though the message system here, I don't go out of my way to message everyone.   If I do, it is to clarify something on their profile or checklist (I have a copy of the old Castle Realm checklist, which I use to test people.   You would be amazed on how well it works).  

I understand women on here need a defense from unwelcome predators and don't get upset when they use it on me.    It is their right and there is a reason the function exists.   Nor do I suggest they should give me a chance.  As I said, the chance I am going to message is small.

But really?   Blocked after a simple like?     I didn't realize I was that scary.  

As I wait for various tools and materials to arrive, I thought I would spend a moment to discuss my basic philosophy on the D/s lifestyle. 

For me, what it all boils down to is the idea that s types need to submit to someone.   They have a need to give power of themselves to someone else (for discussion purposes, I am boiling things down to a one on one relationship).  Be it mental, emotional or simply physical reasons, they find the need to turn over control to another to make themselves feel complete.  

For this to happen, there has to be somone on the other side of the collar.    Thus enters the Dominant  (yes there are other terms, but see discussion purposes above).    For most, this seems rather obvious, but sometimes the obvious is rather ignored.   After all, what good is a Dom without somone to submit to them?     Is it just a person with an ego screaming orders at a wall?

My personal philosophy is to be a real Dom, one must inspire submission, not take it.

Any fool can force, or attempt to, submission from another.   However, only a few can inspire s types to really give of themselves to another.   By building trust, though actions or discussion or being an example, can real submission be created. 

How that trust is built is another dissuasion. 

Thus Endith the Lesson 

Cumming Attractions

That telling someone to call you "Master" shows how much of a moron you really are.

and I do did enjoy his work <sigh>

https://variety.com/2025/tv/global/neil-gaiman-allegations-sexual-assault-1236272893/

14 Inches Here in Kansas

also

some snow

Kansas Is Now Closed!!

Due to snow fall and drift, All the highways here in NE part of the state are shut down.     So far, we have had about 8" (real inches, not internet ones) and still coming down.   

Luckily, we were prepared here, so no worries.     We are hunkered down watching Hercule Poirot movies and getting out the snowblower every couple of hours.    Going to be an interesting couple of days to come.

Addition:

It is worse that that,  Jim Cantore is here in town

My deck currently:

I'm sorry kids, but I need to make a small rant.

Due to the recent American election, I made a change to my profile.  The change indicated those with a certain political leaning were unacceptable to me as possible connections.   Now I get it that this change upset some people, but that is not what I am ranting about.

What I am ranting about is:

Quit being a coward with sending me messages and then blocking me.

If you want to tell me I am wrong, then have the spine to have discourse.  If you are going to block me, then keep your yap shut to begin with and then hit the block button.   

(Apologies to the Non-US users who have to put up with us goofball Americans) 

Looks like someone is going to take it up the ass this weekend: