After writing that abuse post, the fake doms still DM me. After I wrote that post about BDSM and abuse, I thought a lot about what I could do to help other women, especially autistic women dealing with men, especially in the online BDSM scene that clearly attracts low level predators. I read a post on another forum that got me thinking. I'm not going to link it, because the cage gets weird about that shit if it's another BDSM forum. Makes no sense but whatever. A guy wrote a manual for his fuck doll to use while they were doing scenes. As an autistic person, this really spoke to me because we need a lot of direct instruction.
I want to write a safety manual for autistic women. Do I know anything about BDSM? a little tiny bit, but no not really. Definitely not enough to write a book. But I have learned a lot about how fake doms try to manipulate and hurt women with autism, and I want to get this info out. So avoiding BS for autistic women:
Today's topic: Negging
This is when fake doms try to put you down by insulting you. The idea is that they say something negative about something you wrote, something you are wearing, aspects of your appearance, or things you are interested in, especially your 'special interests' that they know you care about. They do this because they know they don't have a chance with you in real life because you are too good for them. They are typically ugly, way older or too young for you, toxic and broke. And they want to harm you. They say negative things to you because they want to trigger an emotional reaction, because a loser prefers you being upset and thinking about them rather than you being happy with yourself, because it gives them power. Trying to knock you down a peg. Stupid, I know.
The other reaction they are hoping for is you questioning yourself and looking to them for 'help'. They can't help you because they can't even help themselves. But they will lie to you and pretend they have shit figured out so they can fuck you, abuse you, get your cash, whatever...If anyone on the internet insults you for any reason, lovely autistic lady, block them and move on. This is a manipulation technique that low level predators with tiny dicks and even tinier brains use and you have no time for that!
EDIT: If they start out negging from the jump, they have contacted you before using a dummy account or their real one and you have turned them down. Fake doms often have several accounts on several different websites that they weaponize to mess with women.
I get multiple 'negging' style messages per day. On the cage I only got one today, so thanks for doing better guys. Someone tried to make fun of my rapping. I am a former hasidic jew from the hood. I made it out of the hood, I've been through some shit and found myself back in the hood. Got out of the hood again. I'm used to people making fun of me for liking hip hop. come on. And I'm the best rapper in the world and you are just jealous (I am not actually the best rapper, that's eminem or Nas, I was just fucking around...but you have to double down when the fake doms attack with their weak bullshit).
So ladies, don't let them neg you and go get your freak on (if you want to) responsibly!!!
