Hi! I want to brain dump some things I've learned about men from being on this website for six months or so. I will not mention names, stories, anything personal because that is just disrespectful and unethical behavior. I want to try to save some other people time, heartbreak, or potentially getting killed if I can, especially other autistic females (or any female).
This doll fetish stuff is time consuming and I'm already really busy as is, so it's time to start dropping some knowledge so that I can feel that I wasted my time a little less. I also want to see people not screwed over and be good. Also, these are some of my particular red flags, you may be different. Our goals may be different. I could be wrong about some things. I don't know how much longer I can keep up these blogs with everything going on so I'm trying to be useful.
People in chat here were clowning me about expecting messages that were longer than one sentence long. Some of these folks were fellow women. Another woman was trying to shame a woman on twitter for considering an ice cream date the bare minimum for a first date. Predators want you to feel bad about yourself so they can get you at a discount and put no time or effort into you. And predators who use this info to try to run game on me feel free to try and lose.
My Red Flags
- Low effort messages (i.e. one sentence, what's up, you are pretty and nothing else about them)
- Doesn't tell you they have a girlfriend or are polyamorous RIGHT AWAY. This means they are trying to manipulate your feelings and get you to accept something you don't want. It's not OK. No shame, just be honest and upfront.
- They have naked pictures or cartoons in their profile that you don't approve of.
- They have their dick in their photos.
- No information in their profile.
- They message you on that Bond thing a lot when you don't reciprocate interest.
- They use feminism against you. Like saying they are a feminist to not have to protect and care for you.
- Rush sex talk too fast - Rushing phone sex too fast. If someone rushes sex too fast without getting to know you first, it means they don't prioritize getting to know you.
- Talks about your children too much (I'm sorry to bring it up, but child predators sometimes use women to get to their kids)
- No age in their profile (that's only acceptable for women to not want to disclose age)
- No location in profile (what are you hiding from?). Same with not disclosing relationship status. The less info they have in their profile, the more lazy, not invested and/or secretive they are.
- Their username is stupid like trying to compare themselves to a deep thinker, very rich or successful person unironically, any mention of comparing themselves to G-d. Also, there are acronyms folks from certain communities use to refer to their penis. If that is in their username, I run fast.
- They hit you with a sob story before you even know if you like them yet. Like on the 1st or 2nd message. Usually its being taken advantage of by other women, gf or wife cheating, death in the family, etc... It's a manipulation tactic
- This happened to me way too much: they fake being autistic if you are autistic to get close to you. Whatever your 'autism' is. Depression, single parenthood, injury, you'll know.
- They write things in their profile about 'women or subs earning their care and affection'. Like they think they are the woman and a prize?
- They address their profile to 'all the women' or say things like 'sometimes the dick just wants what it wants'. shit that they use to try to not claim responsibility for their own actions.
- They talk about how all women want is money, all these women are gold-diggers, shame you for talking about money like it's not a major topic we all deal with etc... If they randomly bring this up, they are cheap and I run.
- This one used to happen in my community a lot and is not true of everyone but I'm a jerk if I don't warn people: If someone outside your ethnic, religious, racial, social community talks crap about the women of their own community and tries to lift you up as a better choice, this person is TRASH and needs to be discarded immediately.
- They brag about how they just obtained a passport as an adult like that's some real flex.
- They discuss their frequent travels to third world countries with their boys (The truth is that they go there to take advantage of beautiful and impoverished women).
- They neg you, like trying to make fun of your clothes, looks, weight, they think your boobs are too big or too small
- Click on the button to see if they have forum posts. If they say a lot of excessively shitty things about women, they may not like women and need to be avoided. No you are just like the other girls/ women. He hates all of us.
- They focus on your job or what you have. This is a very feminine trait and means that they are poor, cheap, or want to rob your ass because masculine men don't care what you have. They are too busy trying to impress you with what they have.
- They don't text or call as much as is comfortable for you. A lot of the undesirable guys watch this mgtow or andrew tate BS and try to over-communicate to get you invested and catching feelings, then they go cold and get 'busy'. When you try to discuss it with them, they get weird and try to call you needy.
- They violate your boundaries or consent.
I'm sure there are other things I'm forgetting. These are just my red flags. Like I said, could be wrong. And I'm single, so just like sway, I do not have all the answers. And some of these bullet points are mistakes I made or things I overlooked that went bad so I'm not perfect either.
Be well folks.
