New Ways Of Punishing a Sub

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TheMute​(dom male){My Liora} - As for what punishment would be appropriate would depend on the Sub. You can't punish with an activity they may actually enjoy. For example spanking a Submissive who actually can cum from it is not a very valid punishment. The punishment should in fact fit the offense, you should punish according to what it is the Sub would not enjoy. If they don't enjoy being in the dark, place a hood on them and sit them in a darkened room. If you wish to get some form of enjoyment out of it, then you would truly have to search for what it takes. Simply because a true Submissive will take pleasure in making his or her Dominant happy.

Gai H​(dom gender fluid) - I agree with the comment previous; it has to fit the sub and the situation/severity. A minor faux pas could bring on disapproval and restriction of certain things, or a light punishment. However, it does have to be a punishment - an undesirable outcome. If it isn't punative then it's just game.

As a deeply psychological Master, I reached the point where even my disapproving silence was a torment in itself. But then ordering the sub to do something for the entire day which they didn't enjoy, or to approach an activity I knew they disliked as a one off maybe - that also was a big part of it. But for sure, it is unique to the sub and the situation. I would say there cannot be any one set of sure answers, because for some subs at least, those answers wouldn't work out.

UnrulyNerdGirl​(sub female) - I think it all depends on what would cause the submissive discomfort without causing harm or crossing any limits. I enjoy corporal play for fun, but if done with a few modifications - like no warm up, with a meaningful and earnest scolding, with no safe word - it definitely becomes punishment. Being a little, things like cornertime, lines, enforced naps, early bedtimes - those would be punishments for me, but perhaps not for every s type. Some Dominants ignore their submissives for a period of time - and while not having the attention of their Dominant might be effective for some submissives, it would actually be detrimental for me.

Punishments are only effective if you remove something the s type wants or likes temporarily, or introduce something they fear or hate temporarily - again, without causing harm or crossing limits.

bunnylissa1​(sub female) - I think people misconstrue Funishment and punishment alot in bdsm esp those who are new to it. A punishment should be fitting of the action that caused it. Without crossing any limits or harming them ofcourse. It does depend on the individual sub. The silent treatment i do not feel should ever be used by any top. If your punishing them for say breaking a rule for the 1st time it should probably just be a warning nothing severe but if its a rule they keep breaking over and over then measures need to be taken but it shouldnt be something they like by far other wise youll just have a unbehaved bratty sub. And that reflects poorly on your domming skills. For example if they keep breaking a rule tht states sub is not allowed to tell top no (sub must give other words and indicate why its a no while not using the word no) Over and over again. Then maybe is online sub is banned from chat rooms for the rest the week. This onlu works if you have more then one way to contact them also or writting a paper on why they arent allowed to use the word no and not using the word no in the paper but js it should be something they will regret doing cause of the punishment. Something that makes them think and reflect on it. And all punishments should be discussed as to why its given and for how long it will last. One should never be blindly handed a punishment or hand one out as such.

Tiaana - The punishment should be fit the crime. Also, the punishment should teach the sub something constructive about themselves if possible. My Domme would make me learn recipes by heart & cook dinner, do the laundry & fold the clothes. Write down 10 things I liked about myself. Use your imagination.