Adult Babyhood, An Exploratory Guide

Firstly, whether you identify with an age or not is personal decision (or just 'is' for some) and neither choice is a wrong one. Having a specific little age can quickly communicate your preferences, provide a goal to shoot for, or just simply be more fun. It is not like we are beholden to be truly accurate and represent that age faithfully, if that is even a thing since everyone is different regardless of their age. 

I prescribe to a more broad label, to just embody the concept of baby. To mix elements like bottles and high chairs, with video games and coloring. For specific ages are more of a scene. Like for this period of time, I will be treated as if I am two with no exceptions. Day-to-day life and the dynamic is more generalized, with little facets of babyhood and even childhood threaded into my life, just enough to feel smol or enough to entirely dominate me. It just depends. 

Okay, so I am a bit eager to post some of my views on adult babyhood. However, I also want to hear other's opinions, experiences, and points of view. Every so often, I am going to try and post something purely to spark conversation. I will provide an answer to my own question in my initial post and do my best to reply to and share the comments in a subsequent post. Please let me know in your comments if I may highlight and include your comment in that future writing!

So my first question is: What makes you feel like a baby? Alternatively if you are a Caregiver or Bystander: What makes you feel like someone else is a baby?

It is a pretty broad question, feel free to answer with specifics or general statements. Anything is fair game, clothing, props, behavior, treatment, whatever sparks feelings of babyhood for yourself or towards others.

Rylie's Answer

For me, there are many different things, but as cliché as it is diapers stand out first and foremost.

When I wear and wet diapers, I feel that vast difference between babyhood and adulthood. When I know other people are using the toilet like an adult, that clear distinction makes me feel like less of an adult. That feeling is only increased when my diapers are on display, if others know I am wetting them, or better yet someone else has taken that choice away from me. I've never really had strong feelings about being changed, but being checked, told when I may change, or a simple swat on my padded behind push me further into feeling like a baby. It isn't just about that psychological distinction of wearing and wetting a diaper, but also how it engages my senses.

Disposable diapers feel thicker and softer than anything I usually wear. The way their crinkle sounds in my ears, especially when someone (consenting) notices and giggles at the sound make my heart flutter. When I know they peak out beneath a skirt or dress, from the legs of a onesie, or just over my waistband... I feel a bit shy, but happy inside. In particular I enjoy large capacity ABDL diapers, the way they make me waddle, especially when they are soggy. They have become this instant control collar, that when I am diapered I view select trusted adults as senior to me. A few of which have even expressed their mental image of me, always includes me wearing and wetting my pampers. 

I do enjoy other things as well though. Baby clothes feel cute, but without being seen they don't really make me feel little. I adore being told I am too little, especially for more 'mature' adult things. While I don't have much experience with schedules, what little I do have has shown me being put down for a nap or to bed. I feel really little when I am fed baby food in my highchair, especially if others are eating normal adult food around me. 

What makes me feel like a baby most of all, is that after a series of play partners and a mommy or two, certain things have become ingrained in me. I sleep in diapers every night, my bedroom is a nursery, and I sleep in a crib. All of this has become normal and lost its kinky thrill. Yet, that has been replaced by this sense of belonging and a different thrill that some parts of my life have become so different from a normal adult, that I must really be a baby, at least in part.

I look forward to your replies, 

Rylie-Nimbus

I welcome dissenting, supporting, and alternate opinions. I view every interpretation of adult babyhood to be valid as long as it is between consenting adults. Something, I feel is often lacking in online discourse, is real examples of this lifestyle and others being shared without devolving into fictional fantasies. So, if you have a story or experience to share, please comment. (I almost said, like, subscribe, and hit that notification bell. Perhaps a bit too much watching YouTube for this baby girl.)

Also, I would appreciate including original photography and particularly artwork from creators to illustrate future and past posts. I do intend to cross-post to my personal blog as well, but will only include images where I have permission, and never monetize without an explicit agreement and proper legal documentation. If you are interested, please comment and we can sort out the contact details in a way that is within the rules of this platform.

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my thoughts, feelings, and passion with you all.

Rylie-Nimbus

For most, the words 'adult baby' immediately conjures both an image and a feeling. In concept adult babyhood is one of the easiest roles to imagine, but in practice can be one of the hardest to navigate. It is often full of myths, assumptions, and misunderstandings on all sides. 

As a fetish, it can place us immediately at odds by placing some of the most innocent aspects of life right alongside some of the most mature. It isn't uncommon for the uninitiated to misunderstand and equate it to immoral practices best not mentioned. As a fantasy, it can be mistaken for or taken too far into a total retreat from adult responsibilities and healthy relationships. In my experience, adult babies frequently and caretakers occasionally strive for a totally helpless baby, completely incapable or not allowed to function as an adult. And in practice, adult babyhood is strife with stereotypes and assumptions of what must be included. For example, it is often assumed than an adult baby wants to wear, use, and have their diapers changed, a hard limit for some. 

Now, having covered what it isn't, what is adult babyhood?

Adult babyhood is a deeply personal and unique experience, melding a vision of babyhood with the fantasies of the fetish, tempered by the preferences and circumstances of those involved. At is core, it is about emulating or parodying aspects of babyhood to engender a feeling of babyishness for and towards an adult. The motivation and emotions can vary in a spectrum from innocent regression to an exaggerated domination, often a complex mix of everything in between. 

In my view, the vision of babyhood is an important foundation to define what adult babyhood means for you. That being all the elements you associate with babyhood without regard to you feelings about imposing them on, or having them imposed on you as an adult. Which isn't to say every element should be considered for inclusion, just what best sparks the emotions you want in your play or dynamic. You are drawing on your own impressions of actual babyhood without regard to a particular age or even the accuracy for what it takes to feel like you are or to see someone else as a baby.

An adult baby can be sitting at the coffee table coloring, yet still be spoon and bottle fed. Both are appropriate for children and can be seen as immature, but aren't typically associated with the same ages. Diapers can be substituted for training pants or other thick padding for the look and waddle of a toddler. Perhaps your image of a baby strongly aligns with a baby girl, regardless of the baby's actual gender they can be put into dresses and frilly rompers. 

The fetishes and fantasies associated with them build on that foundation. Whether you've long though about being or caring for an adult baby, or are new to the idea, the fact is you are all consenting adults with imaginations. The fact that the baby is an adult, allows you to exaggerate, subtract, or add elements that would never be appropriate for an actual baby. You can even mix and match fetishes, other submissive roles, fantasies of negotiated mock neglect and abuse, and include or specifically deny sexual activity. 

A caregiver can leave an adult baby at home confined to a crib or playpen without adult supervision. They can use their adult baby for sexual satisfaction than put them down for a nap denied, because they are too little. An adult baby can be spanked, paddled, or caned more harshly than one should ever punish an actual child. A maid can go about their duties with a diaper peaking out from their dress and a pacifier in their mouth. 

We touched on omitting or adding details in both previous parts because it is threaded through the entire experience. Your preferences and circumstances are important. If some element of babyhood or the fantasy don't work for you either due to limits, situation, or doesn't spark any strong feelings, simply discard it. Alternatively, if an element strongly influences the emotions you want from adult babyhood you can include it whether or not it aligns with the vision or the fantasy. Everyone needs to consent to it, but that doesn't mean it has to be on their list of things they want to do, if there is a desirable benefit.

If an adult baby strongly feels they need diapers and to wet them for their headspace, that doesn't meant the caregiver has to change them or permit messy ones. If a caregiver feels that a nurse or nanny uniform puts them in the mood, they can wear it even if they are the mommy without taking on another title or role. If a butt plug or dildo makes for a particularly believably squirmy baby, include it if it suits you. 

Most importantly, we are all adults. We have jobs, responsibilities, and relationships to maintain. Outside of exceptional cases, adult babyhood should never interfere with that. Caregiver's should never be on duty twenty-four/seven unless they want to be. In scene play, this is particularly easy. In full-time dynamics, it is possible even advantageous to thread babyhood into day-to-day life, without interfering with what is important.

Bedtimes can make maintaining healthy sleep habits easier. Diet control can be framed in the same manner as a parent controlling what their baby eats to aid in a healthy lifestyle. The baby can be left to their own devices in a playpen, or put down for a nap so the caregiver can return to normal life, without the baby having to leave headspace. Adult babies can wear onesies, or even diapers under work clothes without revealing their fetish to the world.

Adult babyhood is simply exchanging aspects of fantasy and childhood for those of adulthood. What is important is that the baby feels like a baby and that the caregiver can see them as a baby. It draws on your imagination and what you personally identify as babyish, without regard to age or physical size. Adult babyhood shouldn't negatively impact your life or limit anyone's options as an adult in ways they don't consent to. Adult babyhood can be for the short duration of a scene, the whole of a dynamic, or a permanent part of your lifestyle.

I've wanted to share my ideas and create a platform to discuss the possibilities and dispel the misconceptions around adult babyhood for awhile now. There are many resources out there, books, blogs, and entire websites dedicated to the topic. Yet, there are many forms of ageplay with labels and nuance that conflict and lead to misunderstandings no matter which one you use when meeting new people. Further complicating matters, the boundary between what is practical and what is purely fantasy is often blurred.

I'd like to share with you a view of adult babyhood as a form of power exchange, between a dominant and submissive partner or partners while also acknowledging the many variations that can exist within that. Furthermore, to help clear the divide between stereotypes, fantasy, and the practical realities of adult babyhood. 

As a submissive and adult baby, who doesn't experience mental regression, I can only speak confidently from bottom. My take on the dominant half of the equation is second-hand at best, and hopeful supposition at worst. Still, I hope I can provide insight for both caregivers and adult babies into the possibilities. I would encourage you to seek out the dominant and age regression views from other sources, with more experience in those areas. 

Rylie-Nimbus