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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 week ago. Tuesday, May 12, 2026 at 9:08 AM

I have learned that almost anything in this world is possible, but I ignore the things that upset me unless I can do something to make them better. Realistically, we can only affect what is in our path, but now down to the real point of this post.

I met a woman who told me she was a sub and very kinky. She only wanted brief encounters. I want more than that, and will only entertain a brief encounter as the equivalent of an interview or screening, not a sight-unseen candidate to be my sub. Yes, I have recovered from recent emotional challenges and chose to be a dom in my self-proclaimed style. Now.

I met woman X using a website intended for adults only. We exchanged messages, and we arrived at kink compatibility topics. I always treat women in my life with respect and only ask for the same in return, but we must be erotic and open and able to talk about our sexual preferences in detail. The conversations came to this: As mentioned, she was only looking for brief encounters, but she added one interesting detail:

To arouser her and make her pussy soaking wet all I would have to do is say, "Good girl."

1 week ago. Monday, May 11, 2026 at 4:21 PM

Her eyes. Yes, watching a sexy woman walk catches my attention, but if she has compelling eyes that offer mystery and a promise of delight, I am all in - hook, line, and sinker.

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1 week ago. Monday, May 11, 2026 at 12:20 PM

Rust belt tribute in Oils and mixed media. Not For sale

1 week ago. Sunday, May 10, 2026 at 5:42 PM

I can't change the weather, end the wars, cure the sick, or improve life on Earth. Why I can not even seem to find a girlfriend?

So I may think I have free will, but the truth is clear: I am a prisoner of my own doing and the normal circumstances of life.

Not sad, and any glimmer of depression is well controlled.

The choice is clear: Accept The Now.

 

1 week ago. Sunday, May 10, 2026 at 8:42 AM

My priority is to find a lover/muse asap. I suppose I am mostly a Dom, but can switch to a sub for the right woman, for the purpose of learning, and as a potential way to make the unknown woman content and happy.

Not having a loving touch is horrible. And not being able to explore my kinky side probably is worse.

Not much else to say.

1 week ago. Saturday, May 9, 2026 at 9:36 AM

I may have been quiet and even absent, but I have been working hard on resuming my artwork. Though I made my living with science and technology and some music, I always had art in my life. I have sold paintings, been in exhibitions, and gifted some of my work. Having been more of an avocation, my records of where my artwork is are sparse. I have reenergized my artistic side.

I gathered as many of my paintings as I could from storage, reviewed what I had studied, and revised my intentions. I have now included figure paintings and have a major Titian study underway (in his style and colors of his time). One project is close to being done (7 paintings): a tribute to past industrial America titled "The Rust Belt."

Upon review and watching YouTube artists, I discovered the Casein1 medium. Somehow, I had not tried using it in the past. I am now equiped to work with the colors.

1 Casein artist paint is a fast-drying, aqueous, and highly durable medium that uses a milk-based protein binder. It is considered one of the oldest painting media, with a history dating back to ancient Egyptian times, and is revered for its ability to produce a matte, velvety finish. [1, 2, 3, 4]

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My dog also likes it when I practice guitar and sing

2 weeks ago. Wednesday, May 6, 2026 at 8:54 AM

This is worth my breaking my silence. My cat Sunny Day loves it when I play my guitar and sing to him LOL.

4 weeks ago. Friday, April 24, 2026 at 6:40 PM

I appreciate readers and a couple of friends, but I think it is in my best interest to stop blogging and focus on meeting people in person, no matter how difficult it is for me. I better visit my guru on a mountain top for a time. pixabay photo

4 weeks ago. Friday, April 24, 2026 at 6:32 PM

I did this drawing with colored pencils.

4 weeks ago. Friday, April 24, 2026 at 2:14 PM

You can increase your sexual pleasure in several ways. This site TheCage has many doors leading to that knowledge. I will start with the one sure way that is universal.

Abstain until you feel like Mount Penatuboe about to explode.

Next, you and your lover tease each other until you are propelled to embrace one another and fall on the floor.

If you and your lover have a disagreement, hold out for a reconciliation until make-up sex is the only option.

And finally? List all the kinks, fetishes, habits, and experiments listed on this site and work on one at a time or as many as you can at a time. Focus on what you have never done with your lover or what your lover has done with you.

"Albert Einstein had an active, often unconventional personal life marked by multiple affairs, two marriages, and a view that monogamy was an artificial, "bitter" social construct. He famously quipped, "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love," and maintained roughly 10 intimate relationships outside his marriages."  the equation ?  Sex=love x pleasure2

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