In a monogamous relationship
I am 77 years old and, for the last four years, have been the only caregiver for my wife, who has Alzheimer's /Dementia/Aphasia. I moved to PA to be close to our family, who told me they would help with my wife's care but have not. Therefore, I am a "Stranger in a Strange Land". I am my wife's nurse. I only need a friend for me.
The master course was a big eye-opener, and I immediately grasped its significance. My wife, as it turns out, was submissive and served me well for 40 years now. (Of course, her illness prevents and has prevented a physical relationship.) I regard myself as a novice with a lot to learn about BDSM. Though the alleged "masters" course was bogus, it did introduce me to BDSM.
No feces, no blood, no torcher, nothing that risks the health and welfare of me or anyone I spend time with.
I am searching for a sub-woman to be a friend for me, not a nurse for my wife. I suppose a mistress for a short spell could teach me things about BDSM I am unaware of.