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Hello, my Friends,

I have reflected on all the times I fell in love or thought I had. The bottom line in my thinking? I could never predict when or with whom I would fall in love. It remains a mystery, and I am glad it is that way. Why? I like the mysterious aspect because I am confident I will fall in love again when the right woman comes into my life. It won't be who I thought it would be. It won't be when it is convenient. It will be unexpected. Perhaps someone I knew or know now, but most likely not. That is all the better for me and whomever she will be. When genuine emotion overwhelms us, there will be no obstacle or reason to remain apart, no matter the distance or the circumstances. This will happen when we can enjoy each other, learn about each other, and enter into a secure relationship, overcoming all challenges.

There will be beautiful things to share: nature, flowers, music, and simple activities. We will be able to face life's challenges together with dedication to each other and confidence.

Hello Friends,

The performer who opened the Woodstock Festival was Richie Havens, a friend; Jimmi Hendrix performed in the same NYC  club where I cut my entertainer's teeth. Others performed in Greenwich Village during my time there. It means I have great memories of an exciting time for music in America. When Woodstock was performed, however, I had enlisted in the U.S. Army (Jimmi Hendrix was a Veteran, too, BTW). The most famous performers I met or rubbed elbows with were Peter, Paul and Mary, Bob Dylan, Arlo Guthrie, Dave Van Ronk, Richard Pryor, Jose' Feliciano,  The Lovin Spoonful, Neilson, and some I probably did not recognize or later became performers. After four years of active duty in the Army and a failed marriage, I returned to NYC only to find all my associates and contacts had moved on. Yet, I still have my fond memories. And, occasionally, I performed at a festival where I crossed paths with old acquaintances. I am content.

Hello Friends,

Most of us know about and rely upon the wonders of instant communication using modern technology, but do we understand its limitations?

Email and texts omit the subtleties of language and our reading of body language, leaving so much room for misunderstanding, assumptions, and ambiguous conclusions. Turn to video calls and messaging for some improvement, yet there is still room for errors in the communication. Nothing replaces one-on-one contact, and even that has flaws. How do we achieve better relationships that may have started with the above? Time.

Time allows for better mutual understanding and corrections of misunderstandings. The moment of resolution is as emotionally exhilarating as the moment we feel we are falling in love. Touch can not be achieved over the wire, internet, or phone, and touching is so essential in learning how to navigate a relationship.

Ways to avoid a close relationship: Don't Think Twice (original Version)

1. Don't make actual person-to-person contact
2. Avoid a dedicated pattern of meeting someone
3. Engage in a series of superficial, brief relationships
4. Reject a companion that appears to want to get closer to you
5. Never commit to anything between you and another person
6. Become hard to find online (ghosting) or ignore the person
7. Deliberately offend someone you wish to distance yourself from.

All this behavior will keep you from getting too involved with another person, and it is OK if that is your goal. If it is not, consider these if you are inadvertently applying them to potential relationships and decide which way you want to go.

Subltey in love is lovely:

Hello Friends,

"Forever and for Always."

Hello Friends,

I returned to thinking about "THE NOW EXSISTANCE."The now in the past becomes the now at this instant and quickly moves to become the in in the future. 

I recognize past and future "NOWS" are as real as the current "NOW" is. This true only if you allow yourself to be within it.

Living in the past (more than reflecting upon it) or living in the future (more than speculating upon it) is unhealthy for me.

I want to be in the moment as I live it, especially Experiencing love in the moment. This requires a keen understanding and a sharp focus on myself (THE SELF).

Hello Friends,

Songs speak for me but I can not promote my originals as it is a commercial activity. What I can do is share songs that mean a great deal to me and thus offer a peek inside my heart, soul, and mind. The first song is "Bonnie Raitt - I Can't Make You Love Me".

Hello Friends,

Yes, I chose to write a blog entry today. Lately, I have been feeling that at my age, I should not have a future outlook. Many well-known people and some not-so-well-known people have passed away at 76, my age: Jimmie Buffet, Melonie, Richard Tandy, Richard Lewis, OJ Simpson, et al. On the other hand, many of my family members lived into their 90's. So. If I want to adopt a positive attitude as a close friend encourages me to and admonishes me for negative vibes, this is a start:

"Yes, I am an older guy, and I have had an uncountable number of sexual encounters of many variations. I am settling into a pattern despite age related challenges: I desire a soft-spoken, affectionate woman who grows into a friendship, and once we know and trust each other, have sex from easygoing to whipped-up extremely passionate lovemaking as we learn to be lovers for each other. This takes time. Should I be in a hurry? No, I must not because the quality of both the friendship and the sex depend upon taking time to develop a relationship that can meet this goal."

My wife has a terminal disease, and its progression can not enable an accurate prognosis. What shall I do? I need to find the most profound amount of wisdom that I can summon to help guide me into such an ambiguous future.

The opinions are abundant, but the wisdom has yet to emerge.

I wish all those who have followed my blog good luck and farewell. JH

Hello Friends,

A king may abdicate, and a boss may resign or retire. How does a domant end his or her dominance?

A dominant must be in charge at all times (unless he or she is a switch) of submissives. Letting a submissive get away without consequences when not acting as a submissive, allowing the submissive to become in charge of a situation, and when a submissive punishes the dom for something the sub dislikes, this is the beginning of the end.

Sure, the dominant may drop the guise and become nothing or even submissive themself. This is a world of many possibilities.

When a dominant feels like they are falling short and abandoning the drive to act as a dominant, this can lead to being neither and then depressed and frustrated. There is no future to look forward to, and losing trust and hope is all part of this shift into nothingness.

The whirlpool of negativity swallows some people up. One negative experience or thought leads to another, and then, like falling into a black hole, there is darkness and nothingness. It can swallow you whole, and as the cosmological theory of black holes goes, there is a point of no escape when one passes the event horizon (the new now).

There is no need to say goodbye or offer parting words; simply fade away. "Old soldiers never die; they just fade away."

Gen. Douglas MacArthur, April 19, 1951

Hello Friends,

My life has been far from carefree, and now I see I have also been careless. Recent thoughts about myself center on the negatives—negatives that are not life-threatening but nevertheless negative. I am not good company, and I can only claim to be a marginal friend to anyone who gets close enough to notice. I will be 77 in July, which isn't very far from 80 years old.  My family reaching the 90s has been the norm, but if there isn't a reason to live that long, why bother is my thought. Once, I had so much enthusiasm to do, see, and learn so many things, but now I don't care much about that or those things. As a scientist, technocrat, artist, writer, and independent recording artist, I seem fruitless and shallow to me now.  Estranged from my children and isolated from people with few exceptions indicates I have a terrible character, and others see it. What is worse? I don't care enough to desire change.

Yes, I have a negative taste in my mouth, and I expect it will grow until it overwhelms me, and I will choose to fade from all social interaction very, very soon. All together.