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Hello Friends,

My best friend could not decide whether he preferred a woman with blonde, black, brown, or no hair. He met a woman he liked and had her shave and wax all her hair. Then, he bought wigs of various colors and shades along with theatrical makeup to change her complete body appearance and began to experiment. Ultimately, he chose the hairless option with the wigs and theatrical makeup kit as the permanent solution. 

But then he changed his mind and he selected a bearded woman covered with hair as his permanent mate.

Hello Friends,

Mr. X had some depression to deal with, and there was mild erectile dysfunction at a liveable level. Along with that, there was a tendency to experience premature ejaculation. Things went along like that for a while, but one day, his life took a serious turn, and stresses and depression were accentuated. More meds were prescribed. The net result was erectile dysfunction concerns the common meds worked but with some limitations. The erection time was limited to about thirty minutes, and premature ejaculation was replaced with difficulty reaching orgasm. Why? His doctor told Mr. X it was the anti-depression and anti-anxiety medication. It seems like a true "Catch-22".

Hello Friends,

Exploring variations of human relationships, I discovered a fundamental truth: Natural instinctive emotions remain even in unorthodox and creative relationships. 

OK, Love, joy, pleasure, satisfaction, contentment, and feeling fulfilled are there, but so are the negative emotions.

"Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others, and reduce your confidence and self-esteem, and general life satisfaction. Emotions that can become negative are hate, anger, jealousy and sadness."  

"Terror: Fear, Apprehension
Rage: Anger, Annoyance
Loathing: Disgust, Boredom
Grief: Sadness, Pensiveness"  

"About negative emotions
Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others, and reduce your confidence and self-esteem, and general life satisfaction.

Emotions that can become negative are hate, anger, jealousy and sadness. Yet, in the right context, these feelings are completely natural. Negative emotions can dampen our enthusiasm for life, depending on how long we let them affect us and the way we choose to express them.

Holding onto negative emotions causes a downward spiral
Negative emotions stop us from thinking and behaving rationally and seeing situations in their true perspective. When this occurs, we tend to see only what we want to see and remember only what we want to remember. This only prolongs the anger or grief and prevents us from enjoying life. The longer this goes on, the more set the problem becomes.

Dealing with negative emotions inappropriately can also be harmful – for example, expressing anger with violence.

Emotions are complex reactions" 

We all must be on guard when we may fall into negative emotions and have a way to avoid the spiral downward.

Hello Friends,

What if your lover develops a health issue, and the two of you can not have normal sexual relations? The effect may be permanent in fact. How long can you accept this situation before you feel left out or deprived and want to find a new lover, temporary or permanent? Can you abandon your sexual desires permanently if that is what the situation requires?

Hello Friends,

The most expensive coffee beans in the world come out of an animal: The Cevet Cat eats them, partially digests them, and excretes them; they are then collected, processed, and produced into the most expensive coffee in the world.

Hello Friends,

How Long Have I Been Kinky?  All my life.

The conventional perspective led me to think I was odd, even perverted because I was adventurous in sexual matters for as long as I can remember. I concealed my playful desires and hid them from others. Denied they existed. Having a religious family background and again in mid-life didn't help. Odd as it was, my conservative wife got me out of my self-imposed restricted zone (at least in our home). When things changed, and conservative influences diminished, I began to see the "kink light" in me and realized it was bright. So, my mindset has changed, and I have a lot of time to make up for now. Living outwardly with my kinky side coming to the forefront. I hope it isn't too late as I continue to abandon the chains of artificial constraints that made me feel odd in the wrong way, like a deviant. The primary good kinks deliver are they offer and extend the excitement of the first sexual experiences throughout life. Adding or trying a kinky thing is akin to when we had our first sexual experience or close to it.

Hello Friends,

Thoughts and memories of old friends and prior lovers don't amount to much, and for every event or memory, there could be a thousand that are forgotten or vanish in the mist. What counts is "the Now"; living in "the now" is not always easy. The Now is what is really happening. It will become a memory and may have begun as a dream, but it is what is real, not what we imagine about the past filtered by our selective, less-than-objective thinking. Images in our memory do not age; images in our memory morph; good becomes great, and wrong becomes not so bad if remembered at all.

So do not jump to the conclusion that the pasture over the fence is greener than the one you are standing in.

Hello Friends,

Ok, everything seems to be in balance and going along very well when suddenly you see a face in a crowd or a photo, and there you go, falling back in love with a prior flame. Immediately, I fear I will get burned. I never let love turn to hate ( maybe for an instant, then puff, ill feelings are gone), and all I recall is the love we once had. Yes, this may be a weakness of mine. In  39 years of marriage, I had a way of dealing with challenges. Since 2017, my wife's early-onset dementia has had me descend into new territory, and my life has had many unexpected changes. Some reflect the philosophy in me for forty years, and new challenges have evoked deep thought and philosophical revision.

It is like I stepped through a portal and was confronted by a wide vista of new possibilities. Old memories pop up, new memories intrude, and options present themselves in a way that tests my resolve to keep my old self. The one crucial aspect?  I find an array of possible "love" situations, and some sear into my heart and brain as if they have become branded by a hot iron. I move along, thinking nothing happened. "Bam!" I glimpse a face, and the emotion is burning bright once again. Like a deer in the headlights, I am frozen in my tracks. 

Without explanation, I believe specific encounters have morphed from fantasy to as solid as stone, no matter how tenuous and fleeting. What does this mean? What will it evolve to become? It does have some meaning, but what it may or may not become is not known.

Hello Friends,

Yes, happiness is different for different people. My questions today are: Is it elusive? Is it ephemeral? Can it be permanent? Is it a state or just a feeling? 

"People also ask
What defines happiness?
Typically, happiness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of joy, satisfaction, contentment, and fulfillment. While happiness has many different definitions, it is often described as involving positive emotions and life satisfaction.Nov 7, 2022"

I am not limited to religious thought, simple contentment, or theoretical philosophical thought. I will explore what may be the very basic thought as I see it.

"Happiness is only partially determined by your genes — the rest is up to you and your environment. The hallmarks of happiness are feeling satisfied, enjoying daily activities, and feeling purposeful.May 18, 2022"

Let us imagine our emotions with respect to happiness like the surface of a body of water: The waves representing moods.

... Lake Titicaca is the largest freshwater lake in South America and the highest of the world's large lakes. ... 3 810 m above sea level . . .

The Dead Sea is the lowest lake in the world. It is located in Israel's Jordan Valley, which is also the lowest elevation point on Earth's surface. The surface of the lake is approximately 1,385 feet (408m) below sea level. U.S. Geological Survey. Land Below Sea Level by David K. Lynch. 2010. Retrieved online at: 

The bottom represents depression, and the tips of surface waves represent happiness with its ups and downs. Using that illustration, I ask myself, am I a bottom dweller or a surface dweller, and am I in a high-altitude body of water or a low-altitude body of water? 

Hello Friends,

Look around. Your partner, lover, or friend may forgive someone you disapprove of, but isn't forgiveness the higher moral ground? Are there unforgivable sins between humans aside from causing lethal harm? Even ordinary people express forgiveness when a fellow human harms one of their family members (sometimes that seems unbelievable). Without forgiveness, wars would never end, relationships would never mend, and stubbornness would never bend. What are some of the outcomes of forgiveness?

Will people adjust their behavior?

Will people love as before?

Will people help repair what damage was done?

If forgiveness is avoided things would be hanging in the air ready to happen again.

If forgiveness is avoided, communication will probably be cut.

If forgiveness is avoided, what could have been might never be.

Forgiveness, like love, is a word of action. When it is genuine, it brings positive results and helps a relationship mature and become strong enough to endure the assaults the world can hurl at it.