The Culture that has been here all the time

Sex is much more than physical satisfaction. Writing this in a BDSM blog is like preaching to the choir (sorry for the cliche). I mustn't assume that all here are experts, nor that all here are lovers with long-term experience. Deep emotional bonding and deep sexual satisfaction are not mutually connected except in one way: through communication. Too much communication, however, can diminish sexual excitement by diminishing spontaneity, so we must somehow ensure we keep room for something unexpected in the mix as well (an important balance). If you consider that men and women introduce variation according to their sexual identity, then addressing this is important. Practice may be the only way to keep both sexes mutually happy. I am almost sure we all have experienced someone (maybe even ourselves) being sensitive about being criticized concerning us and sex.

I will ignore the exceptions to this statement: Sexual fulfillment is a blend of excitement, physical satisfaction, and emotional completeness unique for individuals because we are all unique in certain ways not limited to but illustrated by our individuality.

Examples:

Fingerprints & Toe Prints: The friction ridges, loops, and whorls on your digits are formed in the womb and remain entirely yours. Even identical twins have distinct prints.
Iris Patterns: The complex, pigmented muscle structure of the eye forms a unique pattern of folds and crypts that differs between both eyes and all individuals.
Tongue Prints: Like fingers, the surface ridges, bumps, and pits on your tongue leave a one-of-a-kind impression.
Ear Shapes: The size, folds, cartilage structure, and curvature of the outer ear are highly individual.
Lips: The exact dips, crevices, and wrinkles (known as lip prints) are unique to you.
Retina: The intricate arrangement of blood vessels in the back of the eye is completely unique to your nervous system

I'll stop here if you're interested in this subject. There is a plethora of information online.

I suspect most people who describe their ideal partner as a soul mate are referring to an emotional and psychological description. I firmly believe that sexual compatibility is an extremely valid point, and mating is not the only reason we have sexual relations. Typically, with intimate tactile involvement, tactile involvement covers a multitude of mistakes.

"Sexual joining" typically refers to sexual intercourse (or coitus), the physical act where individuals intimately unite their bodies. Biologically, . . ."

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You can increase your sexual pleasure in several ways. This site TheCage has many doors leading to that knowledge. I will start with the one sure way that is universal.

Abstain until you feel like Mount Penatuboe about to explode.

Next, you and your lover tease each other until you are propelled to embrace one another and fall on the floor.

If you and your lover have a disagreement, hold out for a reconciliation until make-up sex is the only option.

And finally? List all the kinks, fetishes, habits, and experiments listed on this site and work on one at a time or as many as you can at a time. Focus on what you have never done with your lover or what your lover has done with you.

"Albert Einstein had an active, often unconventional personal life marked by multiple affairs, two marriages, and a view that monogamy was an artificial, "bitter" social construct. He famously quipped, "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love," and maintained roughly 10 intimate relationships outside his marriages."  the equation ?  Sex=love x pleasure²

The major piece of my life that is missing is making love. Not just sex, not just being satisfied, but the wonderful effect on the human body when engaged in making love on a regular basis. Religion has only two justifications when criticizing making love: 1) Unwanted children, but birth control has that covered if a person is smart, and 2) STDs, and at this time, open source knowledge is readily available to avoid them, and healthcare can cure most forms. The health benefits acquired by making love at least once or twice a week, even in old age, are well known.

HYPOCRACY. I know firsthand how duplicitous some religious people are in depicting themselves as "celibate" and abstaining, knowing full well that state of being is a myth, and even if a human tries to adhere to those guidelines, they will fail, in my opinion. We just are not made to not make love.

I miss making love so very much that I feel I am being tortured.

From a sexual point of view, entering puberty and senior status have some things in common: erotic dreams.

When we are young, and our sexuality (hormones) is influencing our body and mind, we can do very little but ride out the storm.  Erotic dreams point to the future when we will be able to enjoy our sexuality (even though we may not truly know what that means). Adjusting to the limitations as we age is not as challenging if we are open-minded and have a partner who understands what it means too.

Since life has taken me this far, I have learned several things about aging sexuality: 1) You need to adjust to bodily changes and not fear them; 2) Desire doesn't go away; 3) Adjusting socially to be able to engage in sexuality necessitates new attitudes and expectations.

Without a partner and no option to engage in sex, our minds pick up where we were in those days of puberty: we have erotic dreams.