8 months ago. August 23, 2024 at 8:31 PM
“What I am looking for in my Daddy Dom? profile supplemental reading.”
Read to learn more about me and what I am looking for. I do this specifically because I do not want to waste anyone’s time when there are things that I want, that may be deal breakers for you or vice versa. I have put a lot of time and effort into this because I care about people as well as for myself, and I want the best match for them. I have changed this a little to go with information that I have given on my profile. It should enhance what I have there.
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In the middle of an amicable divorce.
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-My vanilla likes and vanilla life:
I love audiobooks, like a whole bunch. I tend to lean towards Romantic/Dark romantic/Romcom/Romantasy /fantasy books. I Would like it if Daddy would read me some of my stories too. Maybe glean some ideas? Also keep in mind that while I can read some dark shiz and it may turn me on, this doesn’t mean I would want it done to me, like a pew pew in Haunting Adaline, if you know, you know.
I’m in a couple of online/in-person book clubs. I love anime, but binge watching anime or K-Dramas with my stuffies when I find a good one is theee best. Even better would be if Daddy liked them too so we could watch some together.
I like walks in parks/ by lakes, or just beautiful areas where there are some types of paths. I want to get back into hiking but cannot do that alone for safety reasons. Hmmm maybe some bear spray? I also like to do some gardening with flowers and vegetables, and I love having berry bushes. All those berries are just so tasty!
I do love hugs, like when I can almost be enveloped in one. Feels better when a taller guy does this. I think it's because I can snuggle into his chest; it could be a scent thing too.
I love love love adorable things. I love my stuffies and cute clothes with mainly cute animals and anime stuff on them. I also like to wear kitty cat or fox ears. Maybe a cute little tail butt plug?
I do have an associates degree in IT, it’s kinda useless lol, but I sure felt awesome putting in my own heat sink. I went for my bachelors degree in psychology, sociology, and human development; however, I ran out of funding realllly close to the end, but I still find those three topics extremely interesting especially sociology. I love older world history, how cultures work, and how they are different from various other cultures.
I have an almost unhealthy obsession with organizing things and cleaning of certain things; I have a little bit of OCD going on so a Daddy should be prepared. It can be quite cathartic though.
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My wants and needs as a submissive Middle
I’m not property, so I am not in need of a master. While I am submissive, I do have a will of my own, but not in a brat type of way.
I am not a masochist, though I do like some pain and a little degradation during sex, it’s definitely not sadist level, so no Sadists please.
Need a firm and very Dominant possessive daddy. I will be his and no one else’s. He will need to be strong in his possessiveness and control on the things we have negotiated on. He will stand up for me, and show me how a man truly handles what he feels is important. He will keep in mind that I am a woman with needs that are not just sexual, I need the type of dominance that will be stronger than my own. I will not be a trad type of girl though.
With most things I’m very submissive, but overworking myself is hard to stop and a Daddy will need to give me a stop work time or time limit. I will also need support when I’m overwhelmed and catastrophizing. My mind always goes a mile a minute, and sometimes that leads to a lot of “what ifs”.
Also, I would like it if he would allow me to explore by being able to learn, go to educational munches, or just to be in kink bookclubs or activities with other like minded ppl. I don’t like feeling so alone and while I’m an introvert, being on an island with hardly anyone to talk to regarding BDSM type things is rough.
Again, keep in mind that I am a middle with some of the traits and the love of some super cute things just like littles; what I do and how I am is not age play, it’s just me. I am still a little one, princess and baby girl that loves her stuffies/squishies, but I overwhelmingly love dirty talk, some rough handling, choking and other not very princess-y like behaviors.
I need a loving relationship with a daddy that will take care of me in all ways including first and foremost my well-being, but being honest and upfront with me as I am right now right from the start. I want my boundaries pushed a little by a handsome looking Dom (in my eyes, looks are subjective). Around 6 ft or kind of close either direction.
Handsome to me (I understand that looks are subjective, but chemistry is a must, so I will ask for a picture, please don’t take offense if I don’t see the draw from you; this goes both ways so please kindly do the same).
Short to no beard, i know, it’s kinda crazy with a mountain beard being all the rage now, but still.
Fit and cares about health. Doesn’t have to be “The Hulk” buff, just not a dad bod (def: like a beer belly.) In the Michigan area. Age range 30-50.
Has some experience in the BDSM world and can be creative with sex, sex toys, and BDSM implements.
I will be looking to eventually do 24/7, not TPE. Further, it should never be just about sex, but that will be an enormous plus if you’re good in that department. I need to have structure, consistency, stability in all things, including a bedtime. I need rules, and punishments if I break rules. Routines, and not too many big surprises.
I do need to be a little micromanaged with food and ensuring I give myself self-care. I have a hard time with both. For food, I need my Daddy to be able to have portioned out items for me to cook or to prepare portions together to cook. Breakfast needs to be portioned to a serving that he feels would be best for me. The rest I just need accountability and support like exercising or doing certain things. If I don’t have management, I won’t eat meals. I will simply have cereal or snack all day. Snack could be on fruit, but whatever is easiest is what I will do.
I need the man to try and get to know me, but also open up himself to me and tell me about himself too. It’s a 2 way street. My middle side needs attention daily, so I really need to have a Dom willing to do that right off the bat. It could be a question a day or see how I’m doing that day, just something.
I wouldn’t mind starting online, but will need to be in person eventually. If you live far away from my area then it would be expected that eventually my Daddy will need to relocate me to him. Hmm I guess he could move to my area and rent or buy a place here too if he wanted to.
I give this little list ahead of time because there should be no surprises in the things I absolutely need/want.
I require:
Need a Non smoker (health-wise but also traumatic for me)
420 on occasion, like at a party or something outside.
No illegal drug users or recovering addicts.
No heavy drinkers, there should only be the occasional drinks, not full on hangover drinking or alcoholism. Traumatic for me.
Understand that I will not marry again; however, wouldn’t mind types of collars or something else instead of marriage, if that time came with the right person. This collar will be more of a choice the both of us made to belong to each other. Always my Daddy and I’m always his little one/baby girl. This would not be a slave collar. Nothing that literally locks around my throat.
I will not have any more children.
If possible, I do not want any kids in the picture. This may be a deciding factor for me in declining a relationship. If they are not already really close to being on their way to live their own life, then I will likely decline. I truly do not have it in me to deal with, most often, the poisonous friction of biological parents who are no longer civil, or a child that feels they have been abandoned by one parent or the other. Obviously, if adult children need to come back to the home for whatever reason that is understandable. They are adults though, so they can take care of themselves (Feed themselves, do their own laundry, will work and would hopefully have their own car ).
I don’t mean to sound like a bitch in this, but I truly need sanctuary, a safe place without a lot of drama day in and day out. Unfortunately, kids tend to be the epitome of drama. I don’t feel I would truly be moldable putty if I always need my walls to be up for the kids around.
Do not yell at me. I’m an emotional empath and I will shut down and possibly cry, but beware because I very well may leave soon after. I will NOT be in an abusive relationship.
Daddy must have excellent hygiene especially when it comes to mouth and nether regions. Very sensitive taste buds and high gag reflex.
As I have mentioned in the previous paragraph regarding my sensitive taste buds, I do not want to kiss with gross mouths. Morning breath or coffee breath can have me feeling nauseated. lol even my own morning breath. Coffee I just hate the taste even though I truly tried to like it.
My biological daughter is an adult already, but I will always be there/have a place for her no matter where I live or who I’m with if she were to need it. If this is something you do not intend to do this for me then please know this will be cause to decline a relationship.
My 11 year old terrier and my itty bitty crested gecko Ringo comes with this full-time package named the Kaji Deluxe Edition: Bomb Diggity Cuteness with Pets! (Batteries not included.) my puppers is in very good health for his age.my gecko is probably a year old.
I want to be seen as a companion, partner, and a person with opinions and ideas not a “yes wo/man” to everything doormat type, but in the end, my Dom will have a good deal of control over me once everything has been negotiated. I will bend to his will if it has been negotiated. This would include mentally, physically, emotionally.
I will need to be taken care of emotionally, physically, and financially since I will be doing my best to make my partner content in the life we share. I will do my best to excel at taking care of my Daddy.
I don’t want to ‘have to’ work but, I do like to work part-time (anywhere from 1-3 days a week of the school year). I require my small amount of money to remain mine. I cannot be as weak as I am now, if trouble arises.
Cats are iffy, I was immensely allergic a long time ago. Within a couple hours of being at a friends house that had two long-haired cats, I was struggling to breathe. My daughter also had a shorthaired cat that was a struggle to be around, even when it had to stay in her room only.
Lately though I’ve been in a house that has had one shorthaired cat, and as long as they or their litter boxes aren’t ever really in the room that I lived in most of the time, I didn’t have any issues with them. Most of the floors are wood, except for living room, and furniture is leather. Just thought it would be worth mentioning.
I will have freedoms when it comes to political ideology which I lean left (voting, supporting groups with likeminded goals, etc.). If you are fairly conservative, right leaning, we may not get along. I want to practice my religious beliefs if it’s something I want to do (Christianity, but it’s not likely that I will go to church), and to donate a portion of my time to a good cause within my community if that is what I wish.
If you speak multiple languages, speak in English around me. The last thing I’d want is to not trust my partner. I grew up with this, and I will not do it again.