Organized Chaos

To the person who has lost their spark.

To the person whose get up and go, got up and went.

This is for you.

This is a reminder, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, all the time.

That's not what you signed up for.

Remember when you used to laugh? Sing? 

Throw caution to the wind?

Remember when you used to forgive yourself for not being perfect?

You can have that back.

You can!

That doesn’t mean you are letting people down or pulling away. 

It just means putting yourself first sometimes, and feeling brave enough to say no.

Allowing yourself to stop sometimes.

And rest.

It begins when you realize that you’re not who you used to be. 

Some of that is good, some is not.

Parts of you need to be brought back.

If others are not okay with that, they are not your people. Your people will be excited to witness that spark reignite.

If you have been fading away slowly, now is the time to start saying yes.

Yes, to the things that bring you joy and no, to things that don’t.

It’s pretty simple.

If someone wants to be with you and I mean truly be with you, he will do everything in his power to make sure that you know.

There will be no games.

No words with hidden meanings.

No endless nights where you read over your conversations to try and add the pieces to a love puzzle that you have created in your mind.

You will just know and it is as simple as that.

You won’t have to figure anything out because his words will make it clear to you, his eyes will tell you, and his actions will show you.

If someone truly wants to be with you they will do everything in their power to get you.

And if they don’t. If you find yourself questioning what he says or the things he does, if he confuses you and gives you mixed signals, if he implies that he likes you but he doesn’t say it then he does not truly want to be with you.

Let me tell you what he’s doing.

He is trying to hold onto all of his options so that he ends up picking the right one.

He is testing you to see if you are good enough for him.

And you, my love, are not an option for anyone.

So remember this well. 

If someone wants to be with you, he will be with you.

~ Unknown 

Dating a woman who’s found peace in being alone is a whole different experience. She’s not dating out of boredom, loneliness, or to heal from something. she’s whole now. So shes not dating multiple guys.

She's protective of her peace, and she’s intentional!! She asks herself: Why would I give up this calm, secure space for someone who brings anxiety, confusion, or doubt? At this stage, bare minimum effort doesn’t move her. She can care less about GM texts. she’s not looking to be rescued. she’s looking to be respected!!

So fellas, when you meet someone on this level, youre going to have to be a MAN!! Because let’s be honest. Alot of you these days think the first date is a ticket to sex.

That you’re owed something just because you paid the bill.

You’re not. That’s not being a man.

Here’s what being a man looks like. Especially in todays dating landscape :

– You take initiative
– You pick a decent place (not expensive—just intentional)
– You show up on time!!
– You listen! Make eye contact !!
– You ask thoughtful questions
– You lead the conversation with depth
– You don’t try to perform, impress, or manipulate

And when it’s done, you drop her off (or walk her to her car), and go home!! Alone. Quiet. Whole.

Because you weren’t there to score.
You were there to connect. To understand. To observe.

To be a man!

She doesn’t need you to act rich.
She needs you to act stable.
To have purpose.
To hold a conversation that doesn’t orbit around “vibes” and “what are we?”

Masculinity is not about domination.
It’s about direction.
It’s about presence.
It’s about control.

And control doesn’t mean control over her.
It means control over yourself!!

You don’t need game from dating influencers .
You need grounding.

Be a gentleman.
Not for her, but for you!

Because real men don’t perform.
They lead!!

Because when a woman is happy alone, she’s calm. She’s healed. She’s protective of her space. And if the vibe feels like emotional turbulence wrapped in fake deep conversations and inconsistent affection, she's out!! So your little mindgames you’re use to playing, are not going to work with her.

~ Richard Logan

A gentleman knows the power of being there. He knows when to listen and allow her the space to empty her heart.

He knows when to offer soft affirmations, reminding her she is not alone. And most importantly, he knows when no words are needed—only for him to wrap his arms around her, holding her tightly, kissing the tears off her face, and allowing her to feel his protection.

To love someone is not to always try and solve the problems at hand; there are times you have to be the peace amidst her chaos.

An authentic man provides her with tranquility, courage, and complete assurance of her being immensely cherished.

~ Neena Gupta.

At the lake. 

One more day of relaxation, then it's back to the grind. 

There's nothing like taking time to unwind to free your mind and make you appreciate what really matters.

I am truly blessed. 

"Why do you stop talking to people without an explanation?"

My response, "It's simple. People know what they did. I'm not wasting my time, trying to address it to a whole ass adult.

They moved how they moved, and I moved out of their way."

In short, my peace does not require an explanation. Period.

Before you put that ring on her finger, take a moment to ask yourself if you’re truly ready. Marriage isn’t just about a wedding or vows it’s a lifelong promise to stand beside someone in every season of life.

Have you been completely honest with her? Are you free from old habits like entertaining exes, flirting, or hiding things? True commitment isn’t shown in words, but in consistent actions. Can you be her strength when life gets heavy? Will you stay loyal, love her fully, and give her the peace of knowing she’s your one and only?

If doubts or dishonesty still linger, you’re not ready. She deserves someone who can match her love, loyalty, and devotion without hesitation.

If that’s not you, let her go so she can find the person who truly will. Be real before you make promises you can’t keep.

Love isn’t about convenience, it’s about sacrifice. And when you’re ready, you’ll know because choosing her will feel like choosing forever.

~ Big Ole Tex

Ladies, this might sting but it’s real talk: stop doing “wifey” things for a man who doesn’t treat you like a priority. If there’s no commitment, no effort, and no future in sight, what are you really doing?

You deserve clarity, respect, and long-term intentions not empty words and wasted time.

Know your worth, set your standards, and stop playing house with someone who isn’t building a home with you.

Don’t confuse convenience with love, or mixed signals with effort. The right man won’t make you question where you stand he’ll show you through consistent actions.

Protect your peace, value your energy, and never shrink yourself just to fit into someone else’s uncertainty.

A man who truly loves you will rise to meet your standards, not ask you to lower them. And remember loneliness with self-respect is far better than company that drains your soul. 

~ Big Ole Tex