Stop assuming it’s another man just because she doesn’t treat you the same. Stop jumping to conclusions, pointing fingers, or accusing her of moving on before you've even looked at yourself in the mirror. Maybe... just maybe, it’s you.
Maybe it’s your actions that changed her. Maybe it’s not that someone else is giving her attention....it’s that you stopped giving her a reason to keep pouring her heart into someone who keeps draining her.
Sometimes a woman pulls back because she’s exhausted... not unfaithful.
She’s tired of repeating herself, tired of feeling like she’s the only one showing up, the only one trying, the only one fighting to keep something alive while you act like it’s all fine.
She’s emotionally drained from pretending like things haven’t changed, when deep down, she knows they have. She’s not colder because she’s hiding something. She’s colder because she’s been slowly freezing from all the love she’s given that hasn’t been returned.
You stopped noticing the little things. You stopped communicating with care. You stopped being consistent, affectionate, attentive. You stopped making her feel like she mattered. And now that she’s changed, now that she’s not smiling the same or laughing as much, you’re convinced it must be another man.
But what if it’s just that she’s done asking you to show up? What if she’s so emotionally tired that detachment is her only peace?
It’s easier to blame another man than to take accountability. It’s easier to create a narrative in your head than to accept the truth: she changed because you did. And if you’re not careful, she won’t just treat you differently… she’ll quietly walk away, and you’ll be left wondering how a woman who gave you everything had nothing left for you in the end.
She didn't stop loving you… she stopped fighting for someone who never fought back.
So no...it’s not always another man.
~ JH