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The dom with the blog about stuff concerning intellectual capacity, emotional intelligence and general compassion for other human beings.
2 years ago. November 10, 2021 at 10:37 PM

Noticing that people look down on and pick apart most if not all subjects that address a man getting satisfaction, happiness, contentment, or physical release. I think it’s because a man who is horny and distracted makes for the best customer. It’s bad for any business if a man is clear headed with a shut wallet. I’ve seen boobs, makeup and ass used to market cars, houses, burgers. And 86 cents of every consumer dollar is spent by women. So on the money side, it makes sense to keep me starved for emotional connection and sexual release. That’s what is best for social businesses. 

Just facts: I’m a high value man. 6 figures. Veteran. Single father. Clean background. Upon showing up, make eye contact, pay for the date and speak my mind. I want to have more positive experiences. 

lo and behold, I talk to 7 women through regular means. None are emotionally available or sexually up front. Open my phone and there are thousands of escorts, hookers, onlyfans girls, strippers etc etc.

I can’t help but think that with 50 billion a year spent on makeup, cosmetics and surgeries to enhance sexual Appeal, could be more of a reason for the objectification of women. Instead of just men egging things on. 

tracking expenses: 

Regular dating and apps in a 6 month period: 

cost $3200

Result: mental health at risk, messy house, trust issues, lack of sleep, ladies show up late and time water. 

Escorts and porn stars in a 6 month period

cost $2500

Result. Even sleep schedule. On time companionship. With physical needs met, my brain calmed down. Twice a week, a half naked woman cleaned my house, cooked a nice meal, and deepthroated me to sleep before leaving. 
In addition the talk up was easier. I was asked for a std and background check. We talked politics and fun events. Went to some concerts with a hot date. It felt good to feel good. 

With a looming 60 percent divorce rate. I don’t think I’ll ever again try to date or take a sub if it’s on me to provide and entertain. 

I don’t have any “advice” or theories about everyone, just my personal experience. I’m feeling used, ignored, at risk, and degraded every time I try to date an American woman. Every time I have shared this, women point out what I could have done wrong. I think…..I think choosing to pursue American women is the root of the problem. Current divorce statistics support this, as does the fact that more and more men are outright leaving the country forever. 

I no longer want to be happy with someone. I just want to be at peace. Or talking business. I want my moneys worth. 

 

 

Lazuli - It begs to question, what is it you are doing here?
2 years ago
TalentedOptimist​(dom male){open} - Writing my blog and breaking out of the preprogrammed notions of American society and culture.
2 years ago
Lazuli - No judgement was curious. I see people get fed up a lot but they do the same old shit.
So I wondered.
2 years ago
Submissively Your's​(sub female) - Unfortunately Disney fairytale do not exist.........I have resorted to my Hallmark movies for that. While I am hopeful that I find the connection I am looking for, I think your perspective is on point and I couldn't agree with you more...........Best wishes....... for peace and pleasure......... and peaceful pleasure 😉
2 years ago
TalentedOptimist​(dom male){open} - Thank you for the well wishes. This means something and it’s good to hear from all sides.
2 years ago
ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) - I understand your frustration in the dating world. However, to piggyback on PrecorX’s post if you’re looking for women who identify high value men as what you described, you can’t be really surprised at the results you’ve had. Also maybe your distain for American women shows during the date even unconsciously.
I hope things turn around for you.
2 years ago
TalentedOptimist​(dom male){open} - I can be surprised by anyone who takes advantage of others. There are different versions of high value men, and finances, military experience and emotional intelligence are required factors in all versions. In either case, when there’s a sucker and a criminal. That’s what they are. I was a sucker for a while. I fell for games and spent money on women who I didn’t have the foresight or experience to see what they truly were. I accept that.

My version and understanding of being high value, of supporting my family, serving my nation and being highly successful in my career. Makes me high value and it would be ridiculous to lower myself or accept degradation from those who aren’t in my corner.

And many women have disdain for men in general. Vented through a vetted level of caution because why? Because no one wants to feel like a victim or used. I’m feeling like that now. I’m practicing a similar approach. If that’s disdain. So be it.
2 years ago
ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) - Your clarification makes more sense to me. I was going off what you originally described as high value and imagining that being how you “advertised” yourself. It’s very money oriented and that’s going to attract more superficial women.
There’s nothing wrong with using past experiences to make you cautious in the future. Generalizing American women as the problem admittedly irritated me. I mean really you think men have nothing to do with the divorce rates? I’ve had my own bad experiences with men, but I still believe there are worthwhile men out there. Even American ones. 😆
2 years ago
TalentedOptimist​(dom male){open} - Believe what you want. I’m tracking and figuring what I know based off what’s in front of me. And noting the absence of the opposite.
While noting that bad women have a record, impact and effect. while good women have a unverifiable amount of hope to meet one day.

I didn’t generalize American women. I’m noting that pursuing American women has always ended and disaster and probably always will. Given our averages as a nation.

If I’m part of that problem. Then that means it’s still a problem to date American women. So….here we are.
2 years ago
Linniegirl​(sub female) - Maybe it's not you it's them. I think you might not be picking the right women in the 1st place. But you are not alone. I don't know how to either..pick a man though. There should be a class....
2 years ago
TranquilStorm - Your post is a bit hard to reply to since it feels half rant, half advice-seeking. So not sure if you value an outsiders perspective from the small glimpse you allowed us into your life.

My main advice would be to step out of the game. Money is a theme in your post and thus dating life. Money is fleeting, so try to connect through different means. Anyway, good luck!
2 years ago
TalentedOptimist​(dom male){open} - It’s not either. It’s a open air realization about the better state of my mental health and finances, specifically when it comes to dating, bdsm and sex.
2 years ago
TalentedOptimist​(dom male){open} - Different means?
Is that in the same line as “one day the one will come along.” What hallmark does everyone shop at for these vague perspectives on the core logistics of modern day interactions between men and women?
Because I can see where it’s lead so far.
2 years ago
TranquilStorm - Nope, different in the sense that you connect through a common interest and hobby. For example, your post insinuates (to me; this is highly subjective) that you consider yourself quite the catch financially and potentially otherwise. However, imo every good (life) story shows, not tells. Let a potential partner find that out herself over time. Don't show all your cards right away.

On the practical side, let your date pay her own share the first few times. The keepers stay anyway.

In the end, don't let your frustration or disappointment guide you.

Peace and good luck.
2 years ago

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