Someone asked me how I was introduced to the lifestyle ( common question). I usually tell about the Discord I was in for Muslim women to learn about bdsm. It was great, private, there was a teacher and another expert. They taught from some book I can’t remember the title. That was my first official introduction to all the different aspects and terms.
But
I used to have this bf. One time he broke into my apartment while I was in the kitchen washing dishes. Bent me over the sink and fucked me until he made me kneel and came all over my face. He called me a slut, whore, etc. And I really loved it. I think that was my real introduction. Now having been in a terrible and sexually starved marriage it’s clear that play in general can really keep a relationship alive and strong connection. Obviously, it’s maybe 11 years later and I’m still thinking about it.
What is also clear is patience is a big part of this lifestyle as well. It seems everyone I speak to is just waiting for their person or people that they can play with for the rest of their lives and live happily ever after. Yes patience is important for longevity, authenticity, and connection. Nice to have places we can support each other….while we are being patient.