So I've found in my 'field research' that there is a (not so shocking) lack of creativity among kinksters lately.
It could be straight men or the lack of glitter generally.
This has happened before of course but I never made note of it. I'm deep into my own hyper fixations and of course I expect people I have fun with or chat with sexually feel the same about their own kinks! That being said I have noticed a distinct pattern of kink being hyper-specific and a self insert, or utterly predictable and without nuance.
It feels as if sometimes chatting with people that they regurgitate the same kink or message they have had for some time. I wonder if this is due to a lack of responses, or simply because they are very content with their own interests and needs. However; the question comes to mind- if you are searching for a submissive who is going to tend to your every want and need without regard for their own kinks or considerations- are you actually a Dom?
Or- rather a fetishist who hisses at the concept of sex work ?
I come from a nuanced and complex background where I can both sexualize and analyze sex work and the perceptions people have around it and I'm rather shocked to find that people will use submissives as 'sounding boards' or kink dispensers in the name of dominance. This has become more evident the more messages I get or conversations that involve men centering their desires and ignoring my rather fun (and I'd argue beneficial to them kinks). Like come on- who doesn't want a submissive who wants to know exactly what you like aesthetically and integrate it into her own daily life? IMO that's pretty hot.
Okay we get it Pup- You're bored.
I know I'm whining but you're still reading.
We're all horny, we all have kinks and I want answers. Random- but has anyone else noticed in D/S dynamics that are not hetero there is more variance to kink in a collaborative way? Like you're crafting a scene vs recreating a 90's porno that a guy wants you to mentally star in? Regardless- Moving on.
Doms, Have you considered that you may not be flexible enough in your kinks and how you express them to potential partners or even online dynamics?
Or- is it simply easier to send out en-masse messages and stare at an empty inbox?
I will leave you with this example, someone mentioned panty wetting and I was like 'lovely- quite fun! I had experience with panty wetting, watersports, a diaper on an occasion for a past partner-'
This Dom- fairly so, said ' Oh yeah no I don't do diapers sorry. ' and that was a hard ick for him. However- had he let me finish typing he'd have seen I wrote that I didn't enjoy them a ton, but I try things before I write them off.
So with that in mind, I'd like to hear what you've experienced on The Cage as well! Sub, Dom, Switch, straight, LGBT+
It is pride month after all- we might as well be a bit more colorful in our responses.
Gods know I've shared more than I should with the internet for the night.