This Deserves Some 💡
Normally, my words are silk and velvet.
But the truth? She wears the same boots as any Domme worth her salt — and that truth is a Harsh Mistress 😈.
There’s a chorus I’ve heard from subs for years — soft voices turning sharp when they say:
“I hate ghosting.”
“He ghosted me.”
“He blocked me.”
As if saying it explains everything.
So let me break this to you gently… and by gently, I mean directly:
How many good men or women did you step over? No, really — count them.
How many sincere people did you flake on?
And just because you were marginally honest about your flakiness, does that somehow make you better than the creep who ghosts good submissives?
You step over the solid ones chasing a “unicorn” that doesn’t exist, and then act confused when that same “perfect” person ghosts you.
The Usual Script
A submissive sits in their feelings, writing about being ghosted.
About the pain of silence. About how it “feels like abandonment” or “destroys trust.”
It’s always the same story:
I put myself out there.
They stopped talking to me.
I deserve closure.
They wrap it in sadness, vulnerability, and sometimes a plea for others to “do better.”
What I don’t see?
A post where they look in the mirror and ask:
“Why did someone stop talking to me in the first place?”
The Cat 🐈 and the Dog 🐶
I’ve learned there are two broad types of submissives:
🐈 The Cat – Independent, prideful, affectionate only on their terms. They purr when it suits them, vanish when it doesn’t. They love the feeling of “choosing you”… until you decide you’re done choosing them.
🐶 The Dog – Loyal, consistent, eager to please. They live for your approval, but sometimes that loyalty turns into complacency. They treat your attention like it’s guaranteed, not earned.
Both types can be intoxicating.
But here’s the truth for both:
When you play games, test my patience, or disrespect my time — I don’t chase.
And I don’t explain myself twice.
What They Call Ghosting
From my side of the leash, “ghosting” looks like this:
A submissive says they’re not ready right now… but is active on the same site every day, chatting up someone else.
A submissive says they value my time… but makes me wait days for a reply, then acts shocked when I don’t drop everything to re-engage.
A submissive claims they’re serious about a dynamic… but the second there’s structure or accountability, they vanish — only to reappear later with a story to justify it.
Every time, their blog paints them as the victim, me as the villain — and the truth stays hidden because it doesn’t fit their narrative.
Why I Go Silent
I don’t disappear to “punish” you.
I disappear because you’ve shown me exactly where I fall on your priority list — and I have zero interest in competing with your distractions.
I disappear because I’d rather give you nothing than give you a sugar-coated lie.
I disappear because you left first — not physically, but in every way that matters.
My silence is just me catching up to the reality you created.
The Part That Stings
If my attention mattered to you, you’d have acted like it before the silence.
I don’t chase cats. I don’t reward bad dogs.
And if you think being a Dominant obligates me to keep talking after you’ve wasted my time, you’re mistaking me for a pet store — not a Master.
So no — you don’t have to call.
It’s OK. 👌 Myself and every other decent Man and Woman on this site will be ok. And 10 years from now… you will still be here on the same shit 💩
Just know that if you ever do change your mind… you will find that we’ve already moved on to someone who knows the difference between being present and just being online.
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Good people need some vindication. I just sat and listened to someone cry for HOURS about a DOM/DOMME who CLEARLY doesn’t care. And I know for a fact that this person had quality people interested in them. I know some of the people that THEY hurt. But I have also been there. I have personally had someone say they were afraid that they would never be loved again and then flake on “me”. Sometimes you are experiencing the wake of another person just like yourself. Grow Up ⬆️ Stop living in 50 shades of whatever and bringing good people into your BS