I am not an airport. I don't announce my departure. When incompatibility is met with mutual effort, I will gladly communicate and negotiate an exit. But when you are simply useless? You don't get a dismissal. You just find yourself in a blog post.
Last night, I watched a prospect instantly disqualify himself from my life over $53 and a phone call.
The Scenario: He suggested a hotel so I could rest while waiting for his late work shift. A great idea—a gesture of containment.
Then came the collapse:
He tried to delegate the one thing he was supposed to manage. "You book it, I'll pay you cash when I get there." He wanted me to front the money and expend my executive function energy for his plan.
He failed to solve a basic logistical problem. When I told him I don't front money, his response was, "I'm a caveman, I can't do online stuff." He couldn't even manage to call the hotel on his cell phone and book the room himself.
This wasn't a minor flaw. This was a catastrophic failure of all my non-negotiable protocols.
My search is for a Dominant who provides structure, competence, and a reliable anchor against chaos. He introduced chaos and then threw the responsibility back into my lap. He showed himself to be fundamentally incapable of providing the high-integrity containment my system requires.
He lost a deliciously dirty night and any future with me because he couldn't handle $53 and a single act of initiative.
I was up at 10:30 PM, ready to give my energy and my submission to a sexual partner. Now? My time is saved, my peace is protected, and he is gone.
Lesson Learned: If you claim authority, be competent enough to wield it. If you can’t manage a $53 transaction and a phone call, you certainly cannot manage my system. I just disappeared. Have a good life.