Did you know that BDSM is not all about sex? Does not have to include sex?
For many dynamics and play partners, sure, sex is a real and vibrant part of it. But it doesn't have to be. For some sex never ever enters the picture.
I remember when I first started going out to the dungeon, I would be so confused that people thought I went to a sex party. That was the immediate assumption. Or when people ask how turned on I get during impact play. It simply is different for everyone. Am I a sexual being? I would like to think so. And with the right partner(s), sure.
Thank you for coming to my sparkly TedTalk ? go out there, do what works for you. Stay safe. Practice enthusiastic consent
Apparently I felt compelled to share a very similar message October 2021...
