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Sometimes with song lyrics intertwined. What? You don't live in your music?
1 month ago. February 12, 2025 at 8:20 PM

I blink awake, unsure of what has roused me. Still sleepy, I feel one of your hands tangled in my hair while the other gently strokes my face. I sigh in contentment; a girl could get used to being woken up like this...

Smack!

The ringing backhander across my face jerks me wide awake instantly.

"Wake up slut! I've been waiting long enough!"

I see you slowly pumping your fisted cock with one hand as you roughly grab my face with the other and pull it toward you.

As I eagerly try to scoot closer to you, I realize I can't move. You have been busy waiting for me to wake up; I'm tied spread-eagled to the bed and my naked body is pulled taut.

Instantly my nipples harden into little round pebbles and moisture gathers between my thighs. I want whatever you have in store for me; already I'm breathless with anticipation.

You release me and climb over me, straddling my chest and guiding my head back onto your cock. In this position you know I can't breathe properly and have no control over the depth or speed of your cock sliding into me.

I try to relax my jaw and stretch it as wide as possible. It's always a struggle to take you as deep as you want and I know from experience it's almost impossible to take you all the way in this position.

You don't seem to care. In fact, you seem determined to force your cock past my mouth and deep into my throat.

Tears fill my eyes. When you see them you smile and you push even harder as I struggle not to gag and cough.

It hurts. But that's what you love. And as you push it further into my throat you reach back to finger my soaking wet pussy, you know that it's what I love, too.

With a sadistic twinkle in your eye, you begin to really let me have it, fucking my throat for all its worth, using the fist tangled in my hair to gain momentum, occasionally slapping my tear-stained face with your other hand.

As you get closer to the edge, your pounding reaches a fever pitch and I feel your cock swell and jerk in my throat. You pull out and your hot thick cum shoots over my face and breasts. You drop my head so you can fist your cock to ensure every last drop is milked out of your shaft and onto my body. Sticky ribbons of cum trail from my lips to the top of my breasts and I eagerly strain against my bonds to try to lick it up. You scoop up what I can't reach and slap my face again, leaving a sticky red handprint across my cheek.

The pain and humiliation make me burn with a need to be fucked and filled, but instead you just calmly climb off me, pat my head as you murmur "good girl" and tell me to stay put until you return.

With that, you walk out without a backwards glance, leaving me spread eagled and covered in cum.

My shoulders ache from where my body is stretched tight and I can hear you in the other room. The volume on the TV is unnaturally high; a message I think - you want me to know that you are busy and you don't need me.

Knowing this makes me wet. I know it shouldn't - I'm not supposed to enjoy being ignored by you, but the thought of being used like this has me dripping in anticipation, eager to satisfy you again.

I don't know how long it's had been when you return to me, but it's felt like forever. You're hard again, and I'm ready and willing to serve you, all previous pain and discomfort forgotten.

You don't say a word as you walk over to the dresser and select the object you want. Turning around you hold it up for me to see; dangling from your fingers is a set of nipple clamps - the really pretty gold ones that give name to the phrase "looks can be deceiving".

I give a sharp intake of breath as my nipples immediately harden and wetness spills between my legs; you laugh because you can see everything with my body pulled tight and open for you.

"Ah so my little slut wants the pain, does she? We'll see if you still feel that way in a minute"

You grab one breast, digging your nails right into my  flesh, immediately fastening thr clamp on my nipple. I give a sharp hiss at the sudden pain but remember to breathe through it and relax. You stand back and watch, the smirk on your face telling me you're enjoying my struggle to master the pain, before you administer to my other breast.

When you're done, you give a sharp tug downwards on the chain that connects the two clamps and you smile at the helpless whimper that falls from my lips. But I can tell from your slight frown that you are not entirely satisfied.

Instead, you reach for the chain again and this time pull it up towards my face. When your hand meets my lips you order me to open my mouth and you place the chain between my teeth.

You tilt my head back further so that the chain pulls tauter and I have to grit my teeth at the sudden sharp pain that shoots through my chest and I whimper.

"Stay put. Don't move. And do NOT let go of that chain whatever you do. Watching you hurt yourself for my pleasure is one of my biggest turn ons, so do me proud and do not disappoint me!"

With your words I moan in sweet surrender and raise my chin a fraction more.

"Good girl" 

You reach out and stroke the length of my body, occasionally pinching the sensitive skin around my pained nipples.  I cry out and my back arches off the bed, but I do not drop the chain. I'm pleased to have passed your test.

You leave my side to grab something and as you step back to me, the last thing I see is the steel in your eyes before everything goes black. I'm blindfolded and instantly on edge. I hate not knowing - seeing - what you're going to do and my breaths instantly become more shallow.

You lift my hips and slide something under my body. The feel of it on my skin fills me with dread. I hear you fiddling with buckles before straps are pulled tight all around me. Harsh, unforgiving leather. I stop breathing for a moment as I realize what you have in store for me.

"So slut, you know what this is? I guess that means we don't need the blindfold anymore"

As you tear it away I look down in dismay to see the leather forced orgasm belt firmly in place. Strapped to it is the wand.

I both love and loathe the wand. I love the incredible release it gives me - an orgasm like no other I've ever experienced before. But I loathe the controlling games you invent with it and I know that that's what's in store for me today.

You gently remove the chain from my mouth and release one tender sore nipple from the bite of the clamp. You take my swollen bud in your mouth and gently suck. It's so sensitive that even this hurts but I'm careful not to make much noise.

I fail completely when you bite down hard on the delicate bud and tears once again fill my eyes. You smile as you pass the chain behind my neck and back around to the released breast.

Reattaching the clamp, you tell me that you are being merciful - you know I'm going to need my mouth free if I'm to stand any hope of passing the next test.

Buzzing fills the room as you switch the wand on and immediately turn it to high. My eyes widen at the sudden intensity; a total overload of sensation I'm not accustomed to because you always start slow and build me up to this. Not today. Today I'm victim to whatever you throw at me,  and I know as stand over me staring, what this game is...

"No cumming slut!"

Desperation fills me as I panic and struggle to accept this task you've given me. There's no way I can avoid cumming with this wand strapped tight to my pussy. There's no escaping the powerful vibrations that resonate deep into my core.

My tired tight body aches and there's no release or let up from it. The only comfort - albeit small - is that with the chain removed from my mouth I am free to make as much noise as I like.

I take deep breaths and try to relax my body as I exhale. Immediately the vibrations overwhelm me and I tense up, already on edge. I whimper my frustrations.

I scream out as the muscles inside my pussy start to contract in the beginnings of an orgasm and frantically do the only thing I can think of to distract me from cumming; I reach my head over and with my teeth and take the chain back into my mouth and tug hard. Pain floods my body, sparking through me like an electric current and it momentarily distracts me from the orgasm I know is coming.

As I relax with deep breaths, I can't help but feel a small sense of pride; I didn't fail!

My sense of joy is short lived however as my awareness comes back to the pounding in my pussy. The wand is relentless - it demands satisfaction and it will only be happy with my failure. Tied up, spread eagled, aching sore nipples, there is nothing for me to do but focus on the sensation between my legs.

I feel my orgasm begin to build: my muscles tense. Goosebumps break out across my skin. My breathing becomes shallow and ragged. A light sheen of sweat covers my skin.  I try to breathe through it again. I bite my lip as a distraction. I hold my breath. Nothing is working and as I feel the tingling sensation give way to a burning in the soles of my feet I know I'm an absolute goner.

Every moment is like a message from you being driven home to me: you own me. Even when you're not here, I am yours and my orgasms are yours.

This knowledge sends me hurtling over the edge down into the abyss below as my orgasm tears through my body and explodes like fireworks before my eyes. A wild cry is torn from my lips and I sob uncontrollably at the release and shame of letting you down as the relentless wand that doesn't quit continues to drive my orgasm on and on.

My muscles weaken and I collapse into the mattress and cry. Even my orgasm mocks me by refusing to quit. I've never cum this long or hard before and I'm utterly miserable with it. I have failed you. I disobeyed a direct order not to cum. I know that even if by some miracle you didn't hear my scream of agonising ecstasy, there's no way I can hide my deceit from you: I'm lying in a puddle of my own cum - it's everywhere - the scent of me fills the room and my body just won't quit. I'm twitching and writhing as much as the bonds will let me and I can feel my body building for another release.

In all of this, I didn't even notice you in the doorway watching me with a smile on your face.

As the wand suddenly stops I'm alerted to your presence. I open my tear-filled eyes to find you towering over me, the plug to the wand in your hand and an absolute murderous expression on your face.

I gulp and try to shy away from what I know is coming.

Instead, you reach over and undo all my bonds. You tenderly kiss my forehead as you sweep a lock of hair from my sweat soaked forehead. You cradle me in your arms for a moment before laying me back on the bed, face down this time.

I allow myself to relax for a moment, somewhat soothed by your ministrations but at the same time, something inside me is not fooled and remains on edge.

You gently stretch my body back out into a wide 'X' shape and I know better than to resist. It's when you're quietly gentle like this that I know you're more deadly than ever. The bonds lock back into place with a snap that signals I am to be punished for my disobedience.

Your hands roam my body, stroking and gently slapping. I know what you're doing - prepping me for the pain that is to come. You move my hair over one shoulder and tilt my face to the side so that you can see my reactions. You warm my flesh gently from my shoulders down to the backs of my knees and are most thorough with my ass. You sharply dig your nails into my ass as you growl in my ear:

"You are such a fucking whore! What a useless sub - you can't even follow the simplest of commands" I whimper with shame as you continue "I had planned to introduce you to this new toy slowly, gently, but now you are going to feel the full force of its sting."

You move away and I hear the whoosh of air moving - I have a split second to register this alien sound - then pain like I have never experienced erupts like a scalding fire spreading over my ass.

I scream out in agony and you sigh "I haven't even started yet slut, so shut up and suck it up!"

I barely register your words as my mind and body try to cope with what you've just thrown at me. I have no idea what that was but I have no desire to feel it again!

As the pain quiets,I come to realize that the point of impact was long and narrow - it spreads the whole width of my ass but is thin. Not a crop or a paddle then. The pain is sharp - whatever it is has a savage and lasting bite.

I open my eyes to see your weapon of choice: it's a cane.

My eyes widen in shock that you would choose such a harsh weapon for my punishment - I've never experienced it before.

I draw in a shaky breath and begin to say "or-" when another agonising burst of pain shoots through my body and the safe word dies on my lips as it transforms into a tormented howl. The pain fires from the back of my thighs this time. You fist my hair and yank my head back so I'm looking at you.

"Oh no you don't! Don't you dare say you're reaching your limit on me slut - I haven't even started yet! Do one thing right for me and take this like the good whore you're supposed to be! You're always to desperate to cum. Did you enjoy yourself? Was your release everything you needed?" I miserably shake my head. "That's because I own you. I own your body and your orgasms. You might not realise it, but your body does. And even though you couldn't help cumming, you took no pleasure from it because I didn't say you could!"

You're right of course. And the realization only hightens my shame; it was all for nothing - it wasn't even worth it for this punishment or disappointing you. I know that I won't be able to enjoy cumming without your approval again.

You continue to cane me from my shoulders to my thighs. When I try to jerk away, I receive a stinging blow to the soles of my feet. I'm an absolute wreck and tears are streaming down my face. I'm so exhausted that I can't even scream or cry out anymore. My skin burns, and in the mirror hanging opposite of me, I can see bright red stripes zigzag across my body from thigh to neck. Large red welts have formed on my ass where you've been especially brutal and I know that sitting is going to be impossible for a while.

"Orange!Orange!Orange!" I scream out in one breath as the next hit becomes more than I can bear.

You immediately stop and release my feet. Then, you order me onto my knees - spread wide. You push them further apart, pulling my hips back and pressing my back down so my ass is presented up to you. Like this, my pussy is presented clearly to you and I wonder if you're going to fuck me in my favorite position.

"I know you're near your limit, and you've done well. I'm proud of you, you've taken this punishment like a champ. Do you think you can takes another three strikes for me? I promise I'll release you and fuck you then."

Your words start to mend some of the damage to my self-worth and I nod sadly, desperate to please you. You kiss my forehead with reverence and murmur those blessed words to me: "good girl".

Fire erupts across my pussy as you strike it rapidly with the cane twice. It's so unexpected that I cry out in shock but before I can register what's happening you hit my pussy again and this time a moan escapesmy lips. If I didn't know better I would have thought that sounded like a moan of pleasure! My pussy is throbbing from the force of your strikes and I can't help but think that it's a different kind of warmth - of pain - to the previous strokes.

Within seconds you've released me and I'm cradled in your arms as you lay me on the floor on my tender back. You push my legs wide but gently press them back to the floor when I try to raise my knees. 

"This is nearly the end of your punishment. I am going to fuck you." The cold, detached, clinical way you describe what is about to happen to me makes me wet and turns me on, even though I know it shouldn't. "I will not be gentle. This is for my pleasure, not yours. I shouldn't have to remind you, my little pain slut, but I think you enjoyed that pussy caning a little too much, so I will repeat: do NOT cum." An evil smirk follows but I'm distracted by the way your fingers and circling my clit relentlessly. "Keep every part of your body flat to the ground. If you haven't worked it out yet, you soon will!"

With that you slam into me with such force that my entire body shoots up towards the bed frame and a new kind of pain detonates throughout me. A strangled cry bursts free from my lips and I understand your sadistic smile now - your hard, relentless fucking is going to rub the wounds on my behind! Carpet burn is a killer at the best of times, but I fear this is going to be unbearable!

As I struggle to cope with your intention, all thought is forced from my mind as you slam into me again, bringing my full attention back to you - like it should be! I gasp and struggle to get my breath as you pick up the pace and begin to really let me have it!

The pain, the heat, the burning, is indescribable and I want nothing more than to cry out 'red' - but I don't. Two things stop me: the look of pure joy on your face that tells me this is a dream come true for you, and the knowledge and acceptance that I deserve, want, and need to be punished by you. As I give in to this realization, I embrace the pain as my apology to you. I promise myself that I won't fail you again, or that if I do, I will accept your punishment with grace and gratitude.

Suddenly you pull out and flip me over onto my front. Within moments I feel your hot cum hit my back. I feel it splash on the curves of my ass and thighs and I know you are pumping every last drop out. I cry now - giant heaving sobs that show how broken I am.

"You understand, don't you? Why I pulled out? You know that you didn't earn the right for me to cum in your pussy. You took your caning well I know, but this isn't what I wanted for us today and you had to be punished. I'm going for a shower now and for the final part of your punishment I want you to lie there and think about what you did and what you've learned today."

I'm laid exactly where you left me on the floor but I've curled up into a tight ball as I sob as though my heart is breaking.

I don't even notice your return until I'm gently scooped off the floor into your arms as you sit on the bed with me cradled in your lap. You rock me slightly and stroke my hair whilst making soothing noises.

Your tenderness makes me cry harder.

"Look at me."  Your command makes me bury my face further into your chest. "Look at me" you repeat and this time I hear the steel in your voice - you soften it with a silky caress but I know you're not to be ignored.

Reluctantly, I quiet my sobs and raise my eyes to meet yours; seeing nothing but tenderness and concern there makes me drop my gaze again and squirm. You run your fingers down my face and under my chin so that you can slowly lift my head back up. Once your eyes meet mine,  I'm trapped; I can't look away from you no matter how much I want to.

"Why are you crying? Is it the pain?" Gentle words fall from your lips once again and I shake my head. "Then why?"

"Because I failed you!" The words fall from my lips as I cry again,  awash with the shame of having let you down. I do not bear my guilt lightly and although I cannot bury my shame away as you hold my chin firmly in place, I can allow my gaze to break from yours as I drop my eyes in defeat.

I feel, rather than hear, as you give a light chuckle and press your lips to my temple in the tenderest of kisses.

"My dear, dear, silly girl. Don't you realize that there was no way you could have passed that test? If you had survived that round, I would have just come up with another to push you to your limit. There's no way you were walking away from this with any other outcome. I've been waiting for the perfect opportunity to introduce you to the cane. You did well. In fact, I'm impressed you lasted as long as you did with the wand - I don't know why that surprises me, you always impress me and exceed my expectations, my beautiful slut"

"Then why-"

"Why did I play this game? Why not just take the cane to your skin? Because I can, slut, because I can. Because I enjoyed every minute of today. Because you've never been more beautiful to me than you are right now girl: tear stained; streaked with last night's makeup; covered in my cum; & wearing stripes of honor that show me the depth of your bravery and love for me. I do this because I love to see you completely broken and at my mercy - not because I'm a sadist - although I clearly am - but because it is the mark of your complete and utter devotion to me."

With your speech, accompanied by the gentlest of strokes to my hair, face, body, I am soothed. Your words are punctuated with the sweetest of kisses and my tears have all but dried up.

"That's better, my sweet girl. Now I'm going to run you a bath and then I'm going to get to work doing what I love; taking this broken, devoted girl, who has more than shown her love and devotion to me, and I'm going to take my time worshipping her perfect body so that I can build her back up into the smart and sassy woman I fell in love with."

(This is an opinion piece)

For those of you out there who enjoy these things, more power to you! This is just me.  

I will never be impressed with your pictures of all your toys lined up perfectly on hooks and all in their places - your 8 different sets of cuffs and collars, or your red and black rooms with alllll the furniture.  Have you ever tied a girl up over the back of a couch ass up?  Or bent over a kitchen table?  That's good stuff!  (BTW, who decided that red and black was the way to go?  I like red and black just fine and I'm not saying that it needs to be done up in pinks and lace, but what happened to "normal"?) 

I want every room in our place to be that room.  I want to be used, fucked, kneel in, be tied up in, and crawl in every. single. room.  No fancy dungeon needed!  Maybe I'm the oddball here.  This is just something about this general lifestyle that I've never cared for. 

I will be impressed by the toys that are special to you and especially the ones that we pick up along the way, or the collar that you picked out just for me. I'll be impressed by any implement that you make me fetch from your desk drawer when I've been bad, the belt you wear every day, or the cane that subtly stands in the corner of our bedroom. 

I will never be impressed with how many books you've read on BDSM and how much of it you can regurgitate. (I am in no way saying that it isn't important to read and learn, so don't come at me! I've read a couple of books ;) 

Don't tell me about your dominance.  Show me in the person that you are.  A natural Dom is beautiful and that beauty comes out in his personality.  It's shown in the subtle nuances of daily life and in daily conversation.  If you have to work that hard to tell me who you are, then it's going to be lost on me.  

Can you make me laugh and make me fear you without missing a beat?  It's a tall order, I know, but I also know that it exists.  And I'm definitely impressed with THAT!  ?

Y'all take care.

 

I don't even like this song, but felt it was approriate to include it since it was my title inspiration...

"Be still"

"Shhhh.  It's okay. You were such a good girl for me"

"You can and you will"

"Lick it up. All of it"

"I don't care what you want"

"You're such a good girl"

"You belong to me / You're mine"

"We're not even close to being done"

"Whom do you belong to?"

"You're okay. I'm right here."

"I'm going to use you so hard tonight"

"That's my girl"

 

What are your favorites? 

 

 

I like you!

I like you, too!

How much?

This much? -------------

Oh...

Why?

I like you this much... ----

There's an imbalance.

What do you see when you see me?

A relationship.

Oh...

What do you see?

Fun dates??

Yeah, okay, I'm cool with that!

Are you?

Not really, but I'll pretend.

But you're going to develop feelings that aren't substantiated by anything tangible.

I'll just keep hoping you change your mind.

Fully knowing that I won't?

Mmhmm.

Well, that's delusional. 

Yes.

You're going to get hurt.

I'm aware.

Why would you put yourself through that?

Well I'd rather have some of you than none.

I feel like I should end this before it gets to that point.

Why?

Well the longer we see each other, the harder the blow will be on you.

So end it...

Mmmm... I wont.

Why?

Because I'm getting everything I want at your expense.  You end it.

I won't. 

Why?

Because I lack the self-respect to walk away. 

Hmm.

Maybe we should look for people that actually want the same things we do.

 

(This isn't my work, but I wanted to share)

 

 

 

 

I had to "phone a friend" last night to get some much needed sense knocked into me, and this is the gist of what he said...

(I'll of course use many more words because I'm great at making short stories longer than need be).

"YOU CANT SAY THE WRONG THING TO THE RIGHT PERSON!" 

Is there a text that you're overthinking?  A little crush that you've been hiding?  Perhaps there's something that you want/need/desire and you're afraid to speak it??  Go ahead and do it!  You can't say the wrong thing to the right person!  The right relationship for you is co-created.  The wrong people will see themselves out and the right people will make themselves apparent. 

It sounds so simple and yet I know that I'm not the only person that has a tendency to overcomplicate things.  Give yourself permission to speak what you want and often. ;)

That's all.  It helped me and maybe it might help someone else.

 

And for those of you who already do this?  Good on ya, you brave souls!  

It seems that many people, Doms and subs alike, come into this lifestyle hearing that "submission is a gift".  We've all seen the MANY pictures on this particular subject.  Here's the first 3 that came up on my Google search:

Before I get anymore into this, I'm not trying to say that you're not special or that your submission isn't beautiful.  This is a personal opinion piece, and like others I've written before, I'd love to hear your side.  Just clarifying. 

I was talking about this with someone recently and it really got me thinking...

I AM a submissive.  Period.  It's not something that a do, it's not a side gig, it's me.  Or I should say that it's part of me.  I'm also Caucasian, green eyed, right handed, anxiety ridden, artistic, kind-hearted, and many other things.  There are many things that make up who I am, and having to separate this one thing by calling it a "gift" isn't correct to me because it suggests that this part of me NEEDS to be separate.  If I give you’re a right handed hand job while smiling with green eyes, did I give you a gift?  No.  Well, maybe *winks*

I am never NOT a submissive, but that doesn't mean that I'm living my life on my knees.  My submission isn’t always physical act.  If my Dom and I are around family, amongst co workers, or in front of children, you're not going to see any physical act.  You may see me grabbing a coke for my Dom at a family picnic, but that's because it's an act of service and love that I would do in or out of a D/s relationship.  My submission doesn’t just disappear because the situation calls for it.  I think that those of you in 24/7 relationships understand this. 

Moving on to the fact that it's called "a gift" because it demands to be taken care of... You damn right it does!  But guess what?  I'd expect that out of a vanilla relationship!  Any time I join with another person to form a relationship, I expect that I'll be taken care of - and that I will take care of the other person, too!  If that man is my vanilla husband, I'm still submissive to him because that is what I personally believe in.  It won't be in the form of leather cuffs and fun sexy chains or commands, but it will still be there. 

I crave rules, punishments and pain, humiliation and degradation, bondage and submitting – things I can only get from a dominant man.  So I choose to be with dominant men. 

And your dominance is not a privilege or something you need to do to earn my respect - the human inside you does that.  If I don't respect you as a person, I'm sure as hell not going to respect you as a Dom.

It’s not a gift that I’m GIVING you.  It’s a part of myself that I’m SHARING with you.  It’s who we are and its beautiful! 

So you've had a Dom who didn't treat your submission specially?  Yeah, me too.  Just the same as I've had vanilla relationships that were abusive and D/s relationships that were completely unfulfilling.  

*shrugs* 

I’d love to hear your thoughts! 

Over the years of experiencing different styles and types of BDSM, these are the things that are consistent with me.  The things that give me chills, whether bad or good…

Things that I love with all my heart

-          That look your Dom gives you from across a room that makes you weak, and the way you always know what it     means.

-          Those trigger words that your Dom uses to communicate so many things in small ways.

-          Kneeling in your designated place.  This place sometimes feels like the safest place in the world.  Sometimes, I swear I could live there.

-          Aftercare.  Knowing that the soul who just hurt you with his hands can now caress you with those same hands – knowing that the one who hurt you with words can now speak gentle truths that lift you right back up. 

-          When your Dom asks “Who do you belong to?”  Dadgum! 

-          Being made to look him in the eyes. 

 

Things that get to me – in that oh so effective way

-          Disappointment.  I’d guess that many of us feel this way.

-          Standing in the corner.  Oof!  That is NOT something that I enjoy, but my body betrays me every time and tells me otherwise!  But this is seriously still an effective punishment. 

-          Lectures.  Ouch ouch ouch!  My body starts shaking just thinking about it! 

-          Being made to look him in the eyes.

This obviously isn’t an extensive list, and I love many things! Pain, humiliation, etc., etc., but these are the things that my mind always go back to when I’m questioning the lifestyle, or my submission, or something like that.  And I am highly questioning my submission tonight.  Ya know those days where you feel like shit for a sub?  Yeah, it happens

In the spirit of positive change, I went out today to buy a new shiny bottle of nail polish – just a little something for a little pick-me-up.  I wasn’t half way through painting my nails before deciding that my hair color needed to be changed, too.  So now with some glittery pink nails and some new red hair, I’m ready.  For something. 

More than likely, I’m just ready to put on some makeup tomorrow and dress in some clothes that actually make me feel good.  (Being sick and in pajamas for over a week has been the pits).  But I’m longing for something more as well…

Something that goes a little like this:

(This is about no one in particular – it’s just a longing that even if I’m afraid of, will still always be a part of me).

You dominate me - I submit

You teach me - I learn

You strike me - I burn

You lead me - I follow

You tease me - I ache

You use me - I smile

You nurture me - I grow

You captivate me - I surrender

You cage me - I prowl

You warm me - I glow

You invade me - I yield

You protect me - I thrive

You inspire me - I dream

You excite me - I tremble

You command me - I obey

You own me - I am yours. 

 

Night, y’all! 

They go hand in hand!  You can’t just take the cake and scrape off the frosting and eat it.  I mean, I guess you can, but no.  Stay on track with me here, people! 

The cake is step one.  You get this first because the cake is the foundation.  This is the woman in me, or human if you prefer.  Can you like the flavor?  It’s baked with ingredients such as mother, caretaker, employee, student, sense of humor, artist, talker, lover of people, anxiousness, kindness, ferociousness, moodiness, love, spirituality, strength, oldies music lover, Dr Pepper aficionado, existentialism, cheerleader for good, the girl who holds the world in a paper cup, and many other ingredients.  This cake has some cracks in it, but it’s still standing.  You can’t find this recipe in a cookbook.  It was God given and handed down from generations before. 

The frosting is step two, but the frosting is what you see first when you look at a finished cake.  How do you know if you like the whole product if you’re only looking at the sugary frosting?  This is the submissive in me – the person that craves your control, pain, sex, humiliation, protection, harshness, and all the other kinky fun weirdness.  The best part about the frosting is that even though all the ingredients are there already, they are amenable.  You can add what you like.  You can cover the cake how you wish.  Put some frosting between the layers and cover the whole cake – make your own personal design in the frosting with swirls, lines, peaks – whatever you desire.  Add sprinkles, or berries, or both!  Then step back and love the finished product as a whole. 

Sure, you may say that frosting is the best part of a cake, but surely we can all agree that after a few spoonful’s of nothing but frosting, it can make you sick and make your teeth hurt.  You get a great sugar high from all this frosting, but like all good highs, there will be a crash afterwards.

Can you like both the flavor of the cake AND the frosting that goes with it?  I don’t want to be the slice of cake that the frosting is scraped off of and eaten and then discarded with a plastic fork.  I want a person who wants both together.  Go ahead and be tempted by the frosting, but please make sure and ask what flavor the cake is before you talk to it.  What?  You don’t talk to your cake?

And by all means, when you get your cake, go ahead and eat it, too!  ;) 

But seriously, y’all.  I’m not walking kink.  There is a whole lot more to me.  Remember that you’re talking to a real person when you send that message.  I don’t want to be your downtime or your stupid game.  I appreciate that you love my pictures, my shoes, my profile, and my BDSM test results, but that’s just the frosting!  Cut into the cake and see what’s there.  You may just like it, too :)  And I promise that I won’t just pick out your naughty chocolate bits and discard the rest of the cookie.  I’ll gladly take the whole thing, burnt edges and all. 

2 different song lyrics, 2 different genres, 2 different generations of music – have fun! 

“People become masochistic as a way of regulating their desire to sexually dominate others. The desire to submit, on the other hand arises from guilt feelings over the desire to dominate” -Freud

Alright Freud my man, while I do respect several of your theories, this is one that I just cannot get behind.  Freudian therapists today still believe in this, and I’m not sure why since we have an understanding of most of the science behind masochism… 

Pain releases endorphins and hormones – endorphins and hormones act as painkillers – so in essence, pain + endorphins = no pain because you get very high on the endorphins.  Plus all the other good stuff that goes with it… the relaxation, the sleepiness, the letting go, the surrender, the aftercare… yep, good stuff.  It almost sounds like an addiction.  I’ll definitely have to look into that someday!  But obviously not everyone is like this, so while we might understand the science there, there is still no real understanding of why it’s such a turn on – or why some people like it and others don’t.  Please don’t make me go back to Freud’s theory.  He cannot be right!

I’ve been super craving pain lately.  Intense scenes.  More than I feel like I can handle.  And I’m not entirely sure why.   

I guess because it both calms me down and makes me feel no pain.  This was pointed out to me once before.  I still remember his soft quiet voice asking, “That calms you down doesn’t it?” and I was embarrassed to answer with a “yes” because I’m not sure if that was correct or not.  But there isn’t really a correct answer, is there? 

It’s interesting because here lately, my body is in pain a lot all by itself.  After a few doctors appointments and some tests, I still have no answer for this pain, but I’m obviously not liking it.  However, if you intensify it with an awesome sadistic scene, it all goes away and I feel great!  That may be a reason that I’m craving some pain right now, but I wonder what my reason was a month ago, or a year ago, or ten years ago, or 20 years ago?  Dammit, Freud, I don’t have a desire to dominate!!

In the last scene I had, after all was said and done, I felt more relaxed and pain free than I have in a long time.  For me, it’s like getting a massage.  That sounds so weird!  You may be right, I may be crazy, but it just may be a lunatic you’re looking for.  Bat shit passionate!  Crazy Type A personalities... I want that massage. 

If you’re a masochist, or don’t consider yourself to be a masochist but like that bit o pain that can come with a scene, why do you think you do?  What does it do for you?

And what about sadists?  What does it do for you?  So many unanswered questions...

This whole blog barely made sense to me, so have fun with it.  Find the lyric and you too can be the owner of a brand new shiny quarter. 




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