They go hand in hand! You can’t just take the cake and scrape off the frosting and eat it. I mean, I guess you can, but no. Stay on track with me here, people!
The cake is step one. You get this first because the cake is the foundation. This is the woman in me, or human if you prefer. Can you like the flavor? It’s baked with ingredients such as mother, caretaker, employee, student, sense of humor, artist, talker, lover of people, anxiousness, kindness, ferociousness, moodiness, love, spirituality, strength, oldies music lover, Dr Pepper aficionado, existentialism, cheerleader for good, the girl who holds the world in a paper cup, and many other ingredients. This cake has some cracks in it, but it’s still standing. You can’t find this recipe in a cookbook. It was God given and handed down from generations before.
The frosting is step two, but the frosting is what you see first when you look at a finished cake. How do you know if you like the whole product if you’re only looking at the sugary frosting? This is the submissive in me – the person that craves your control, pain, sex, humiliation, protection, harshness, and all the other kinky fun weirdness. The best part about the frosting is that even though all the ingredients are there already, they are amenable. You can add what you like. You can cover the cake how you wish. Put some frosting between the layers and cover the whole cake – make your own personal design in the frosting with swirls, lines, peaks – whatever you desire. Add sprinkles, or berries, or both! Then step back and love the finished product as a whole.
Sure, you may say that frosting is the best part of a cake, but surely we can all agree that after a few spoonful’s of nothing but frosting, it can make you sick and make your teeth hurt. You get a great sugar high from all this frosting, but like all good highs, there will be a crash afterwards.
Can you like both the flavor of the cake AND the frosting that goes with it? I don’t want to be the slice of cake that the frosting is scraped off of and eaten and then discarded with a plastic fork. I want a person who wants both together. Go ahead and be tempted by the frosting, but please make sure and ask what flavor the cake is before you talk to it. What? You don’t talk to your cake?
And by all means, when you get your cake, go ahead and eat it, too! ;)
But seriously, y’all. I’m not walking kink. There is a whole lot more to me. Remember that you’re talking to a real person when you send that message. I don’t want to be your downtime or your stupid game. I appreciate that you love my pictures, my shoes, my profile, and my BDSM test results, but that’s just the frosting! Cut into the cake and see what’s there. You may just like it, too :) And I promise that I won’t just pick out your naughty chocolate bits and discard the rest of the cookie. I’ll gladly take the whole thing, burnt edges and all.
2 different song lyrics, 2 different genres, 2 different generations of music – have fun!