Not every Dominant will understand every type of submission — and that’s okay.
Brats. Service subs. Littles. Pets. Rope bunnies. Caregivers. Masochists. Obedience-focused subs. Sensual submissives. The list goes on.
Each one speaks a different dialect of the same language.
And if you don’t speak that dialect — it’s okay to say so.
What’s not okay is pretending you do…
Or misinterpreting someone’s submission as something it’s not.
A brat teasing you isn’t being “disrespectful.”
A service sub asking for structure isn’t being “needy.”
A little looking for regulation isn’t “trying to be a child.”
They’re all just speaking in the way they know how to connect.
But if you don’t understand that way — and they don’t explain it clearly — wires get crossed.
And suddenly someone feels rejected, unsafe, or shut down without meaning to be.
That’s why communication matters more than chemistry.
Before you label someone “too much,” “too silly,” “too cold,” or “too needy”… ask:
“Is this a type of submission I don’t understand yet?”
And if it is — say so.
You’re not required to understand every kink dynamic.
You are responsible for how you respond when it doesn’t match your own.
Respect starts with this:
“I may not understand your submission style, but I won’t shame you for it.”
And if you’re the one being misunderstood?
It’s okay to say:
“This is the kind of dynamic I thrive in. If that doesn’t fit you, I’d rather know now.”
That’s not rejection. That’s compatibility.
And honoring that is how we protect the lifestyle and the people in it.
Mr and Mrs Hellbound.
sharing my morning reading