subtle thoughts

There are Dominants who are warm, playful, emotionally literate, and still terrifying in the ways I like. There are others who are like a statue. And statues are great to look at. They are terrible to love, submit to, or build anything human with.

Then there are those who seem far more interested in consumption than connection. Let’s be clear: I am not your sexual content. Not today.

And amidst all of that, some unknown percentage  who either do not know what they want or are not honest about what they want.

The same could be said, I’m sure, about submissives. For my part, I will figure out what I truly want; who I truly am; and how much I’m willing to trust this process before I fold my tent and retreat back into my insular ways.

I am finding it precarious this path we walk to meet.

You do not have to prove your dominance to me.  I need to know that you learned what it means to be a dominant-- intentionally from multiple sources-- in order to be sure you embody it in a safe and emotionally intelligent way.

I need to know that you are open to learning something new.  Accepting new data from a new model and adjusting accordingly.

I need to know you see me as an individual, not simply another unit to be inspected and evaluated.

It's difficult though. That's what we're doing, right? Evaluating. Sifting. Choosing.

Let's remember we each are human. With hopes and faults. Quirks and strengths. Needs and scars.

I wish all the best in their journey.

☮︎, 🖤 & 😈