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Public Shaming of Alternative Kinksters Is Bigotry

6 years ago. May 29, 2018 at 2:57 AM

Hi Kinksters 🐼,

So, in response to the confusion on my last post, I thought I'd write this to help clarify my stance.

First of all, let me say that I love it here. I don't want to leave! I am meeting my tribe, and I honestly have brotherly love in my heart for each of you, ESPECIALLY those I'm disagreeing with--even currently recovering from anger toward! I hope we can find a common ground. Please excuse the fact I lash out in anger...I do so because I have been attacked by certain members of this community, as have ALL ALTERNATIVE KINKSTERS!

I feel very, very hurt by the words and actions by some of The Cage Community. It's 100% the reason I no longer engage in Chat.

Let me be completely clear on what is hurting me:

ANY SHAMING OF ANY GROUP IS BIGOTRY

Alternative Kinksters ARE HERE on The Cage. We read the posts here, and when you publicly shame people whom walk a non-traditional, twisted, self-determined kinky path, it is NOT OKAY. I don't care what you learned in a weekend seminar! I don't care if you lived your mainstream kink lifestyle for a billion years! We are people, and we have the same rights as everyone else.

Our individually chosen, free-will driven, unique ways ARE NOT WRONG! Please stop attacking us. 😒

The Cage community and admins should be completely strict on this. If any further posts are made that attack Alternative Kinksters or Alternative Kinkster life are made on here, then I will not stand without a response. I will tell you that you are a bigot and a fascist. Please understand that I know the definition of those terms, and I DO NOT use them lightly.

I AM NOT TAKING THIS PERSONALLY FOR THE REASON YOU THINK. It is not my wounded ego. It is my moral sense of dignity, of my inherent need to take a stand against bullies EVERYWHERE. I AM taking it personally, however. And rightly so! It's personal to the fullest, because I hold MY lifestyle to the highest level of my heart connection with sex, women, Goddess, and the entirety of creation.

There is NOTHING more important than that, for me.

Please respect Alternative Kinksters. I ask one last time, politely.

Remember! Here, we are the minority. We don't deserve bullying. And we're mostly friendly folk...I know I won't blow up on you if you're not attacking my way of life, perhaps unwittingly? Thank you for your forgiveness and understanding...or not.

Namaste 🙏🐼,

Panda

P.S. I am deleting my previous post. Much of it was when I was very upset and feeling defensive. However, I stand by it. Any further attacks on Alternative Kinster Lifestyle I am aware of will be met with action to counter that bullshit. Trust.

P.P.S. I am not a danger to anyone! Please reach out if I'm scary, and admins I'm available anytime. I'm just intense and passionate by choice! Inside, I'm calm and resolutely standing up for what I believe in.

TakenLower - Oh great. Now we get to be the black sheep of the black sheep? Or maybe some of the black sheep wish they were white sheep? I’m going to continue being a grey sheep.

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - Go Tala the Grey!!! Tell our Guildmaster of the Greys Gandalf I say, "BLACK SHEEP SHALL NOT PASS!" hehehe :-* Love you, siSTAR & friend, thank you for your unique perspective. Namaste 🙏🐼

6 years ago

alawey(sub female){(OWNED BY } - ok here is my two cents. I personally don't think anyone is shaming anyone else here.

just by saying that education is a,good thing. ( classez, books,ect)

as,I stated in the forum post written by a friend. and I will restate here.

when we turn 16 we don't run out and buy a car and attempt to drive away ( or at least we shouldn't) we take classes ( safe driving , behide the wheel classes , and pratice with one whom already knows ( mentor).

but as I said just my two cent

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - That was extremely condescending. Who determines a kink education, exactly? You? I'd really like to know. Also, I didn't SAY ANYTHING about education being bad. I learn my way, am a LIFELONG learner. You learn yours. But I won't take condescending tones nor bigotry. Remember, passive aggression is still aggression. Take care.

6 years ago

alawey(sub female){(OWNED BY } - it was,not my intention to be condescending. . I am sorry that you feel that I was being so. as,I stated it was just my two cents..

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - Apology accepted! (wait...unless that's not given! let me know if this is off-base, not my intention!) Just to help you understand my stance, and not to get on your case at all, let me explain why I felt condescended to. It was the 16 year old driving instruction analogy. Besides the implied immaturity and representing that I don't know how to "drive" (or Dom, as the analogy implies), it was completely untrue for me. I never took training, and learned driving with minimal instruction from my brother in a late-night abandoned grocery store (Alpha Beta Market, ironically! lol). I was 12, and never needed any further guidance, FYI. I learned more, educating myself as an amateur race car driver, in a former life. Isn't that funny? I don't mean to be condescending, just thought you might find it interesting. Wish you all the best. Hope we can be friends. 😊

6 years ago

alawey(sub female){(OWNED BY } - ok I meant what I said I did not mean to come across as a,bully . though I was not saying u couldn't drive. maybe a better analogy would have been the need for surgery . I would for one want a doctor to perform it that had training. not my nieghbor. though I do tend to try an speak as simply as,I can when using an example for something.
I feel that the feathers are all ruffled up over by ppl misunderstanding what is meant or reading thing wrong. not to say any one can't read . just that sometime when ppl are already in a huff and puff they read or hear what they want to. not what is being said.

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - You still don't get it? I AM THE LEAD SURGEON. I don't require your education. I have my own, and I learn more every day, with good ass Subs and the UNIVERSAL SPIRIT AND MYSELF as the only worthy teachers. Maybe I'll write a book. Then you can make it law, when I meant only analogy and guideposts. Namaste.

6 years ago

alawey(sub female){(OWNED BY } - wbile yes we are,all different. I feel that to safety is a must there fore I will always say be educated whether it be books , classes, a mentor/s ,ect, ect.

just as,I would not recommend / or allow a newbie rigger suspend me or anyone else it just isn't safe.

if u care to look , check out my blog . though there are only four postings you might understand a bit more about me

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - Why do you keep implying I'm uneducated? Do you know me personally? I'd really like to understand.

6 years ago

alawey(sub female){(OWNED BY } - I don't feel that anyone was implying that you were uneducated or that anyone was for that matter. I feel as though you're taking it personally when it was not meant to be a personal thing it almost seems like you want to argue with someone at least to me..

and just for the record. You are NOT my LEAD SURGEON

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - I disagree, both you and your friends have continually implied that I am uneducated, and that you and your books are the one right way. If you don't like that, I don't care. It's reality. It personal to me, and I don't have to validate my emotions. And, for the record, when someone makes an analogy, don't try to hurt them by implying you don't want them. That's childish, and I'm sure you're not that, right?

6 years ago

alawey(sub female){(OWNED BY } - Okay once again was not trying to hurt you or anyone else we are going to have to just agree to disagree on what people are saying because this is ridiculous. No one is being condescending to you or anyone else there are people in the cage that go in the lobby that I'm not friends with that say the same thing be educated that is all we're saying and it wasn't directly towards you or anyone else personally but yet you're taking it personal I don't understand why and at this point I'm beyond caring why you're taking it personal I'm done with this think of me as however you want to think about me think of my friends however you want to think about my friends I'm above that

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - I can hear you're very stressed as you write! Peace. Let's stop, I wish you no harm. I am hurt, and I have REAL reasons, that are being defended by an entire group of people against just me. (well, with lots of support! Thank you all, friends.) Please be good to yourself. I don't want to cause you any more stress. Let's agree to disagree, and I apologize for not deescalating things earlier. Can you accept my apology? I would really appreciate it. Take care, hope you're well there, honestly. :-)

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - I am open to communicating more with you so we can reach an understanding, but let's sleep on it as friends? I would love that. 🙏🐼 Namaste, siStar.

6 years ago

dollMaker(dom male) - Its the same handful of people, the same dogma, rhetoric, and lack of tolerance for anyone with a different approach way of expressing their kink. I understand and support the teaching and encouragement of safe practice and toy use, but telling people they cant talk in third person, use honourifics, do online, manifest their valid expression in the chat room is kink shaming and bigotry. Just because these self righteous Pharisees don't personally like a thing does not mean it is not valid bdsm, maybe not for them, which is fine, but it is for others and that should be respected and encouraged not crushed with cruel, dismissive words.

My view, all those driven out of the chat room by this, return, and use the chat room. These individuals do not own this site, they are not the owners of the lobby and therefore while they have a right to respectfully express an opinion, as does everyone else, it is only that not an official Cage chat room guide or policy. So all those driven out, away come back and do your thing and those who hate, shame and seek to force a one true way on others, ignore them. Its as simple as that ignore them. To my mind their lack of tolerance, hatred, shaming, bullying ways, makes them individuals who are not worthy of respect.

They may have useful knowledge, experience to share but who is going to listen when it has been expressed in such a horrible, nasty and destructive way, and it has been, it has crushed and driven away lovely, genuine people who should have been helped, guided, cultivated and cared for not smashed under the jack boot of their one true way, shaming, hatred. They will say they haven't done that. Yes you have, and people have left chat and the site as a result of your words. Stand up to these people and there is strength and support here for those weeker than these bullying shamers. This must stop, and there must be no tolerance for it. I would encourage those bullied, shamed to report these incidents to the site owners, Cage Monkey and Evangeline don't slip away silently. The tragedy here is the beautiful unique voices lost to the site and chat room. Come back please. This should be a safe place for all not the personal knigdom for a few strong personalities.

6 years ago

SirPandaDaddy(dom male) - Dear Friend dollMaker,

THANK YOU. I am with you, and I'll try and work up the nerve to come back to chat. You are a soulful-being of real honor, and it does not go unnoticed by anyone! You personally, and other people on this thread whom I will address with individual respect, are the reason I will not be leaving The Cage.

That being said, you are the only reason. Not only is the problem these "Pharisees" as you call them, but the sycophants that support them, either with word, deed or inaction. On them, the solid core moderate members of this community, the true burden lies. To stand up, and support the side that's unpopular, yet morally conscionable. Or to bend to the will of the side that is established, and known to be intolerant of differing opinions & kinks.

I wish this were not the case, friends. Not to sound sanctimonious (how ironic! HA!), but history tells us another story.

Thanks one last time for the night, dollMaker. I will talk to you soon, one communication channel or another.

With Brotherly Love,
Your Friend,
Panda

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"In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." --Martin Luther King, Jr.

6 years ago

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