My journey Through Life

Something that i have come to realize is that the biggest barrier that I have is acceptance of self. The words that others may share with you may sometimes hurt us or even make us feel sad. That's okay. But the thing we have to figure out is. What is it that truly defines who we are or what we are. Do we hide who we truly are?  or is it better to change who we are so that others will be accepting of us. I have been going years and i mean years through life trying to figure out exactly who it is that others want me to be because being myself was never truly good enough for my family. Since being myself was never acceptable to those that should have loved and cared for me, I started changing myself to be whoever it was that they wanted me to be. I was so desperate to be loved and accepted that i was willing to do anything for them to accept and love me. The problem with that was I wasn't being my true authentic self. Then i decided that I wanted to go to college and get a degree and that's where i realized that what i was experiencing wasn't right. The thing is i have recently realized that i can't please everyone all at once if i try to do that i have burnout much quicker. I also have to be able to live with who it is that i become. The reality is that there will always be people who will want to change us. No one will be fully acceptable to everyone. Its just not realistic. The reality is that we have to make sure that who we become is someone that we can live with. We don't want to change ourselves to the point that we are acceptable to everyone we have to make sure that wo we are is someone we can live with. it is up to us to be the best version of ourselves. The reality that I have come to learn and understand is that we are in control of who we become. the only person that can define us is ourselves. The only one who can change us is ourselves. We are all human and none of us is perfect no matter how hard we try. Even in a dynamic as a submissive, we relinquish our control over our life to someone else. The thing we have to think about is if the person that we are handing the control over too is someone that not only we trust, but also the changes that we want to make and the person that they will be helping us to become is someone that we can find acceptable to ourselves. Change doesn't do us any good if the person we become within a dynamic is not someone that we are okay with being. When it comes to a dynamic, we need someone who will make us a better person then we were before we started.