With great power comes great responsibility" was originally written back in 1793 by Voltaire.
As a Dominant, you request that a submissive give their power to you willingly. That is the thrill of it, as I understand it. The willingness to do so is the ultimate act of submission. It is a submissive's way of showing that they trust you with their body, heart, and well-being. This is the "great power" part. Dominants give rules and routines that must be obeyed and adhered to or there will be consequences. We submissives do understand that these are in place for our own good and for your pleasure.
But is this submission free? Do submissives require anything in return? This is the " great responsibility" part of it. Our submission is never free and we do require quite a bit in return. We require our Dominant to live up to the fundamental rules that have been set up by us. If you expect an open and transparent relationship, we expect it of you also. We expect you to lead by example.
It is respect in it’s purest form. You ask it of us and we give willingly, but only when you give it first. Without that, it feels like a double standard and can cause resentment or hurt feelings. Treat us as you as you would want to be treated. Always keep that in mind.
We submissives need to take an active role in this as well. We need to give constructive feedback and reassurance. Ask questions and set boundaries, and keep in mind that no one is perfect. We all make mistakes
This great responsibility is no easy feat and none of us are perfect. It takes lots of communication and understanding. It takes evaluating the situation and finding ways to make it better. Done properly, the responsibility part shouldn’t always feel like work. Sometimes it can be the fun stuff.
