Name' sake

Someone wrote a blog recently that made me reflect

And this song came to mind.

I hope you find it

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Language - specifically love language, has been on my mind lately. It occured to me that this subject probably doesnt translate any more poignantly than in the kink world.

It was Gary Chapman who coined the idea, we all fall into certain love "styles". 

Long long ago, in a far away land . . . I was in a relationship , yes - its true.

Aaahh the rainy, lazy, summer afternoons - just laying in each others arms - basking in the beauty of a new relationship . . .

Butt  ☝️

At first I was simply enjoying how much she was enjoying me.As time went on, as it does . . . The lights brighten a bit,  and you become more aware of the neighbors stupid dog that wont shut the fuck up . . . 

The "honeymoon phase" begins to wane.

One of said "rainy, lazy, summer afternoons", we were doing said "baskings"; when all of a sudden it occured to me "ya know, I dont really like what shes doing" .

How does one broach such a subject?

"How could one approach this tactfully?"

I thought to myself.

After careful consideration, I finally said to her 

"ya know, I dont really like what you're doing"

After the ringing stopped, and the swelling went down - I regained my bearings and picked myself up off the floor and attempted to explain.

She loved gently caressing my skin. That was her love language - its not mine. 

Dont get me wrong, I do enjoy the gentle touch, the soft caress - just not like what she was doing.

Enter - Mr Chapman's languages of love, "The kink addition". 

*its not but should be

Feel free to talk quietly amoungst yourselves while I go contemplate why I wrote this . . . 

This is a re-post -

Link to the original;

https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=25965&postid=89821

*please take a minute to read the comment section on the original, and feel free to put in your 2 cents here (or there)

(Can't believe that was almost 2 years ago!!)

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Please know, im not being funny or sarcastic, and certainly not trying to offend anyone. And this subject may have been very well defined by others in the past, but well, memory . . .  ya know?

I have had several, we'll call them relationships - people ive gotten to know very well, who ended up saying "I dont think im a submissive after all", and more recently, confusion over what being a submissive means, or entails, or "how to act".

Suppose I am brand new to the planet, I know nothing of human behavior - So, whats this "submissive" I keep hearing about?

Dictionary Definitions from Oxford Languages ·

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 adjective: submissive

ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive.

"a submissive, almost sheeplike people"

 noun: submissive; plural noun: submissives

a person who takes the submissive role in BDSM sexual activities.

"she's a submissive who likes to push the limits of the dominant partner's rules"

Is this right? ?

So, submissives are trouble makers?

Cast aside my position and know when to trust the arms that offer to catch me.

~ The Dom

"How to be a real man"

One of the channels I follow on gootube, their latest video - how to be a real man.

Last night an old love sent me a link to a facebag post - how to be a real man.

I'm not posting the link but it's basically the same thing.

A recent blog, etc etc.

I'm seeing it everywhere. 

I am going to write on the other side

"How to be a real woman"

(The audience tenses, silence ensues)

Sike! I'm not THAT dumb 🙄

Just wanted to share this picture from said fb post - they don't credit the creator/artist

(Photo Jacked from ebay)

'The power of true Dominance'

A male submissive perspective.

Iey yie yie,  where to start?

Ok, I got it - 

Once upon a time there was a boy who's baby sitter would beat him for misbehaving  . . .

No No 🤔

Once upon a time a young man got pulled over by a female police officer  . . .

Shit! This is hard!

Ok ok

Once upon a time a high school boy got called to the principals office for being a trouble maker in class. Miss Bonnie, as she was called, was a very strict principal and disciplined harshly . . .

😁

I honestly don't know if im qualified to write on behalf of this 'set' in the kink world

Butt ☝️ 

I had to open my damn mouth 😒 

What it's like from a male submissive perspective - from 'MY' perspective,  is this -

It's fun

Thank you!! Thank you!!

Good night everyone!

Thank you!!

👋

I get a couple hundred views on my blog every day

Butt ☝️ 

3 likes - 4 likes

Don't get me wrong, I don't post for the likes, but how is my self esteem ever gonna grow Like that!??

(Kidding, of course - I know my cat loves me - I mean, if I had one he would)

Anyway, the lovely "Curious mind" wrote a very good blog - 

https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=88346&postid=105343

And it got me thinking 🤔 

Dom/sub

Domme/sub

Are they really the same thing?

How many can you name?

Butt ☝️ 

For real yo

My patent application for the left handed pen was rejected. 😔

Then I got a "cease and desist" letter from them.

Sheesh!

Joke um if they can't take a fuck!

Mornin peeps  👋🙂