If you’ve ever been Ghosted by a friend, family member, Dom or Sub. And felt blindsided without a clue of WTF happened. I’m going to help give you some closer, this is what the Ghoster is really saying by Ghosting you.
Hi,
I’m terrified of feeling uncomfortable, looking bad, and addressing emotionally mature conversations head on, but it’s really hard to admit.
Ultimately, I don’t want to feel any discomfort, or risk experiencing any emotions from you that are less than positive, so I just need to completely avoid the truth altogether, which is simply that I’m just not into this at this point in my life.
I have some work to do. And right now, my avoidance is more important to me than your feelings. Maybe one day I’ll be able to clear this up with you after becoming a functional adult. Until then: all the best! I hope you meet someone who is ready for what you have to offer, because I’m not yet.
Best,
Ghost.
Ask the tough questions up front, go deeper than the surface answers. Having people in one's life who are good communicators of their feelings, thoughts and impressions are the foundation of any healthy relationship. Pay attention to the red flags early on.
For those in need, I hope this little note helps, because chances are, you are not the problem.
🖤