There is something about an intelligent girl. Those who are passionate about reading and writing share a common thread. They all yearn for an equally intelligent Dominant who can reach deep into their erotic “centers”, rip the pages from their fantasies, and give them a lifetime of living, breathing memories.
An intelligent submissive appreciates the beauty of the dance on the fringe. She is a strong, independent, talented, capable woman in her own right, yet she hungers for a Dominant who can fuck her mind long before he touches her body. She needs a man who can respect her as an intellectual equal but effortlessly assume his role as Dominant - the only man she would ever consider yielding to. For her, this need is utterly palpable. She can feel his hands through his words, voice, and instruction.
And herein is my secret insight. Intelligent, gifted submissives are the naughtiest, sluttiest, hungriest girls imaginable. They can give themselves completely up to the man they trust and respect and go places they do not yet know they are capable of going. They are insatiable once leashed (note the irony). And they hunger to experience whatever their man challenges them and sate him with the gift of their bodies and talents.
Dominance is not about controlling a submissive. It is about leading and the submissive following. These words have been said thousands of times by thousands of people, and I suspect they will continue to be said for many years to come.
Submissives do not seek people to control them. They seek a leader who proves repeatedly that they are qualified to follow.
Mistakes happen. Wrong decisions are made. It’s how you handle those decisions that make you reliable and trustworthy.
* America The Beautiful ~ Ray Charles ~ America The Beautiful * Talking About A Revolution ~ Tracy Chapman ~ Tracy Chapman * Get Up Stand Up ~ The Whalers ~ Burnin' * The Times They Are A- Changin' ~ Bob Dylan ~ The Times They Are A- Changin' * Long Time Gone ~ Crosby, Stills, Nash ~ Crosby, Stills, Nash * Vote "Em Out ~ Willie Nelson ~Vote "Em Out * Get Together ~ The Youngbloods ~ The Youngbloods * Cult Of Personality ~ Living Color~ Vivid * Revolution ~ Beatles ~The Beatles * Throwing Stones ~ Grateful Dead~ In The Dark * America ~ Simon & Garfunkel ~ Bookends * Fortunate Son ~ Creedence Clearwater Revival ~Willy And The Poor Boys
~Throwing Stones ~ The Grateful Dead
Picture a bright blue ball just spinning, spinning free Dizzy with eternity Paint it with a skin of sky, brush in some clouds and sea Call it home for you and me A peaceful place, or so it looks from space A closer look reveals the human race Full of hope, full of grace, is the human race But afraid we may lay our home to waste
There's a fear down here we can't forget Hasn't got a name just yet Always awake, always around Singing ashes, ashes, all fall down Ashes, ashes, all fall down
Now watch as the ball revolves and the night-time falls And again the hunt begins and again the blood wind calls By and by, again, the morning sun will rise But the darkness never goes from some men's eyes (Well I know) It strolls the sidewalk and it rolls the streets Staking turf, dividing up meat Nightmare spook, piece of heat It's you and me, you and me
Click flash blade in ghetto night Rudy's looking for a fight Rat cat alley, roll them bones Need that cash to feed that Jones And the politicians throwing stones Singing ashes, ashes, all fall down Ashes, ashes, all fall down
Commissars and pinstripe bosses roll the dice Anyway they fall, guess who gets to pay the price? Money green, or proletarian gray Selling guns instead of food today So the kids they dance and shake their bones And the politicians throwing stones Singing ashes, ashes, all fall down Ashes, ashes, all fall down
Heartless powers try to tell us what to think If the spirit's sleeping then the flesh is ink History's page will be neatly carved in stone The future's here, we are it, we are on our own On our own, on our own, we are on our own
If the game is lost, then we're all the same No one left to place or take the blame We will leave this place an empty stone Or that shining ball of blue we call our home
So the kids, they dance, they shake their bones And the politicians throwing stones Singing ashes, ashes, all fall down Ashes, ashes, all fall down
Shipping powders back and forth Singing black goes south and white comes north And the whole world full of petty wars Singing I got mine and you got yours While the current fashions set the pace Lose your step, fall out of grace The radical, he rant and rage Singing someone got to turn the page And the rich man in his summer home Singing just leave well enough alone But his pants are down, his cover's blown And the politicians throwing stones So the kids, they dance, they shake their bones 'Cause it's all too clear we're on our own Singing ashes, ashes, all fall down Ashes, ashes, all fall down
Picture a bright blue ball just spinning, spinning free It's dizzying, the possibilities
Ashes, ashes, all fall down [Ashes, ashes, all fall down] Ashes, ashes, all fall down [Ashes, ashes, all fall down] Ashes, ashes, all fall down [Ashes, ashes, all fall down] Ashes, ashes, all fall down [Ashes, ashes, all fall down]
Love is someone saying "I see you and I will walk in that direction."
Sometimes you see, sometimes they see, sometimes you walk, and sometimes they walk. Healthy love is where all of that happens consistently. That's how simple it is.
Except... no one is born good at seeing or walking. We each have to learn—each of us, no exceptions. So, we learn, at different rates, in different ways. That's how complicated it is.
If it were easy and common, it wouldn't be as valuable, would it? We'd take it for granted. We wouldn't have so many songs and stories about love if it were just some convenient product, we could pick off a shelf.
Love is rare and homegrown. Each love is a unique work of art representing time effort, dedication, and all of the lessons learned along the way. That's why it's a priceless treasure. That's why it's a gamble and investment. That's why so many of us want it so much.
Learn to understand and be understood. Learn to approach and be approached. Don't get upset at anyone for learning -- including yourself. It's all part of the process we've each had to individually reinvent after thousands and thousands of years of humanity.
It is just two letters long and yet one of the most powerful words in the world, both empowering and inspiring. The little word is the word, no. There are times we all struggle to say this tiny little word. Maybe your fearful leader at work, aka the boss, knows that there is a project to be done by pushing the assignment to your desk, or friends/family know when there is a challenging task ahead to give you a call because you always lend a hand. Most people take pride in being a ‘go-to’ person, and being counted on but even though it is a hard lesson to learn, learning the value of saying no and sticking to it is empowering. Growing more comfortable with saying no is not only powerful in our daily vanilla life but is just if not more important in D/S.
A dominant, naturally, wants to have a happy submissive partner, and just like every relationship, a good and creative s-type will know how to ask for things allowing them to get what they want. It is very much human nature to do that and the desire to give approval to someone you care for but saying no is sometimes needed. One of the most memorable moments in a D/S relationship can be the first time the D-type tells their submissive no. When a dominant is saying no, they also need to explain why they are expressing disapproval and it is never acceptable to say “Because I said so”. Not only is it important to share the why behind the negative decision but to always listen and hear your submissive partner if they disagree with the decision. Just because the dominant is the leader in the relationship, it does not mean error-free, and sometimes the no might not be the best choice. Value your partner when they disagree and be open when discussing the why behind the no.
Many submissives often struggle with saying no because they love to please others. There are submissives that this does not apply to as they do not have a problem drawing the line in the sand in the career world or with family/friends but more often than not a submissive’s desire to please causes them to overextend and have their plate full of commitments big and small. This overextending can lead to higher-than-needed stress levels plus they struggle with making time for themselves. It is one of the most valuable things a dominant can assist their submissive with is finding that balance allows them to still be the valued go-to person at work and the MVP for family and friends while also letting them have the “me time” they need to keep their batteries fully charged. A dominant does not need to micromanage or schedule their S-Type’s life but works with them to let them know it is okay to decline an event while empowering them to set aside time for themselves. By working to help balance time crunches, a dominant can help guide their partner to find a better balance on the beam of life.
One of the most important nos that a submissive should always remember is that being submissive never means the right or ability to say no is taken away from them by anyone for, any reason. A submissive always must give their consent. If a person, place, or thing makes them uncomfortable they can and need to say no and it is NEVER acceptable to bully, force, or take advantage of submission. All dominants must respect and adhere to the word no when a submissive voices it.
Being told no is never something anyone wants to hear, it is often one of the most important words we can learn to say effectively. No matter what your role in life or kink not being apprehensive in expressing no can help achieve a better life balance. Additionally, submissives never lose the right to say no nor does being submissive lessen the meaning of no. As the saying goes, no means no and this must be accepted and respected, a power exchange dynamic never takes away this right, so mind your P’s and Q’s by respecting the nos of others.
Since saying no is often a struggle, what is something that saying no to was hard for you but was the best decision and no can be even harder to express in a D/S relationship, what ways do you suggest to make it easier to say no when it is needed?
“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot..”
This boy lets you steal all the covers on cold nights, shares dessert with you even after you’ve said you were full, lets you choose the destination on a spur-of-the-moment road trip, tells you that your smile is the one thing he looks forward to every morning, kisses you good night every night… even when you are apart, washes and combs your hair in the bathtub, surprises you with ‘snail-mail’, continually reminds you that you are the best of the best, is comfortable just sitting with you soaking up all the words unsaid, really hugs you… the kind that leaves a mark on your heart, holds your bag while you try on clothes that make him melt, speaks only with honesty even when the conversation may hurt, brings Kleenex to sad movies because you may need it… most likely both of you. keep this boy, because no matter how many times he tells you he loves you… he’ll feel his words fail him and fall oceans short of conveying his passion for you.
Hold on to the boy who walks on the inside of the sidewalk to block any sudden splashes from cars, makes you breakfast in bed, gives you “hot hands” to help with the pain of cramps, tells you when you have food in your teeth, notices when you have cut or colored your hair, also notices when you’ve made yourself up for him… and only him, stands on the Skytrain and lets you sit, kisses the back of your neck to say goodbye in the morning, brushes the hair from your face so he can see just how beautiful your eyes are, lets you know that no matter how dark things seem he will be there to get you through… by your side, leaves you little post-it notes telling you that he will love you until the end of time…
Never let go of a boy who reads to you in bed, is brave enough to try your new adventures in cooking, wake you up to see a sunrise or phones you to share a sunset, kisses you when you least expect it… with the kind of kiss that punctures your heart, whispers “you shine in a world full of ugliness”… and really means it, stays home instead of going out with the boys so you two can give each other facials, realizes there are times when you want to be alone and doesn’t make you feel guilty about it, and lets you know - without a doubt and only a simple glance… that you two are halves of the same heart…
1 year ago. Wednesday, October 23, 2024 at 5:05 AM
words have a way of penetrating the mind…finding their way into your soul, your heart …..they bury there, deep inside…salacious words, the type that makes your thighs tingle and your eyes shine……as you open both in response to sentences of decedent behavior, more aware than ever of what is awaiting you, in darkness or light, it matters not…..words can be spoken day or night…whispered as softly as your lips will finally feel pressed upon his, when his tongue twirls inside opening your mouth, finding you are as wet as you have ever been, as under and upon his breath have made you anything he wanted you to be…..words, telling you how beautiful you are, even if only in his eyes…words, tearing at your clothing until you are his prey, stripped bare…..words, opening your legs as you becomes his to lick caress and own…..words, softly encircling your neck, you brace yourself for what comes next …..for in the end…it is always words…that undress you
When learning something, there are levels of mastery. Intellectual, emotional, and lastly, integration - meaning that the understanding is in the cells of your body and is part of your general being.
Regarding D/s, both sides of that slash need to get to that 3rd level - integration - before proclaiming to be either D or s. Until you’ve explored your psychology within the realms of either side of that slash, you are likely to either get hurt or hurt someone else.
You may hear/say, “It’s part of my being; in my DNA,” and that may be true (hopefully); but that doesn’t negate the value of really understanding what the dynamic and being on either side of the slash provide as a benefit in their/your life.
Parroting the language of psychology does not equate to mastery or comprehension of said psychology. Declaring, “I am ___” doesn’t = being that thing. Don’t just take someone’s word for it. Ask them how they know; when they realized; how the dynamic benefits them; how they vet a potential partner; what advice they’d give someone saying “I want to be a ____” and anything else you can think of to discover their depth/level of mastery.
If you’re exploring with your partner, talk about what you are learning as you go. Solidify the lessons. If what you’re experiencing doesn’t feed your psyche and spirit, stop. Don’t fake it.
1 year ago. Wednesday, October 16, 2024 at 8:02 AM
There once was a girl who carried her heart in her hands. Trusting her most fragile possession with many. She believed people were good. They loved like her, they protected it like her. She left it at times with the undeserving. Pouring out all the love in hers to fill theirs. Some left traces of their fingertips and bruises. Others ripped tiny shreds from it to patch their own. While still a few held her precious heart between their hands and squeezed the remaining droplets of life from it. A mangled mess beneath their feet. There was not enough thread in the world to piece it competently back together. To make it beautiful and whole. So she hid it away. Ashamed of her carelessness. Of her recklessness. Of being too trusting and giving too much. Endlessly suffering from an empty heart that came with an insurmountable weight. Buried deep in the hollows of her chest. It stays. It waits. For what she is not sure. To hear the beating of her heart reverberating through her soul once more. For a love to come and gently nudge it awake. For deserving hands. Hands that will hold it so tenderly. So delicately. As if it was the last, most precious heart on earth.
