There is nothing easy about surrendering yourself to another person. Anyone who tells you otherwise tries to convince you that submission is a weakness, doesn’t understand the nature of strength.
If being a submissive was a switch I could flick on and off, I’m not sure that I would turn it on most days. Making yourself vulnerable is a terrifying thing.
As humans, we spend our lives building walls to keep out hurt. We construct mechanisms to defend ourselves against vulnerability, hoping to protect our hearts. But, as FDR famously said, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”
To be submissive is to invite someone behind those walls. To cast off your armor, lay down your weapons, and crawl into the arms of another person, trusting that they will not betray you.
To submit is to choose each day not to recoil, to not construct new walls, or draw your weapons. It doesn’t mean that we aren’t scared. It doesn’t mean that some days it won’t be the hardest thing we do. But it does mean that each day we choose submission over fear, not because we are weak, but because we are strong.
~pleasurewhore