First, go slow. The newness, excitement, and even the dept of arousal can make it very easy for someone new to find themselves waist-deep, or deeper, in a D/S relationship and unsure how things when this far this fast. When another truly cares deeply, they will respect the desire to proceed at a steady pace and will not rush to fully integrate the lifestyle into the partnership. Slow but steady will help you to “win” the relationship race.
At other times, people can be so thirsty for experiences that safety concerns are set aside putting them in vulnerable positions. While this is not something exclusive to those newer to the lifestyle, most often inexperience and thirst combine to create potentially dangerous situations. One person in five, within five years of exploring/entering the lifestyle, will have their consent violated according to the National Coalition For Sexual Freedom. So it is imperative to remember that your safety is your responsibility and no matter how much one needs a drink from the kinky well, each individual must minimize their risk.
~thelightkeepersjournal
