* You can be a kick-ass submissive and not own a single piece of lingerie.
* You can kneel in slip-on Converse just as well as you can in heels.
* Wanting to be wanted can lead to seriously poor decision-making.
* You can love someone and not be a match.
* You deserve as much pleasure as they do.
* Liars and cheaters will always lie and cheat.
* Not everyone likes the spotlight; it’s ok to live D/s very privately.
* It’s ok to make things like rope bondage and tickling hard limits; it’s ok to make anything a hard limit.
* Dominants can use a safeword or otherwise stop an activity.
* Submissives can walk away; you don’t have to be ‘released’ from shit.
* Moving quickly rarely leads to longevity.
* Your gut is never wrong; listen to it.
* It’s ok to not look like a fetish model; most people don’t.
* Sex can feel good even without orgasm.
* If the effort isn’t there, in the beginning, it never will be.
* You can defer to someone and respect them as a leader even while watching. Netflix and eating steak nachos with your fingers.
* Dominants can get sick and be huge babies and still be worthy of obedience and respect.
* Not every Dominant is an executive with an expense account.
* Submissives can make more money than their partner.
* You don’t have to say ‘Daddy’ to feel it in your bones.
* Toxicity isn’t gender-specific.
* You can’t always educate yourself out of raised-with-it bias, but you have to try.
* It’s ok to demand more for yourself; having standards solidifies self-worth.
* Strength is a process.
* Self-esteem requires active management.
* Submission doesn’t cease to exist when you’re single.
* Submission doesn’t just end when you hit 30 or 50 or 70.
* You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.
* You can change your mind.
* You can use your voice.
* You have to use your voice!
**Author Unknown