I like to be penetrated long before any physical contact takes place.
In fact, I need to be.
Witty banter, teasing, verbal double entendres—all foreplay for me.
The art of great foreplay is a hint of what’s to come, without spilling everything.
It’s the desire mixed with the uncertainty of whether it will really happen or how.
Who will bring the other person to wetness or hardness first?
Who will be so overcome with desire that they tackle the other person when they get in the door?
In Tantra, we talk a lot about expanding the moment of orgasm.
Instead of orgasm being a few moments of intense, pelvic contractions, we aim for orgasms that last for hours.
The feelings of bliss, the pulsing and throbbing, the hunger you feel, can go on for hours and days.
In fact, it never really has to stop.
Think of foreplay, between-play, and simmer in the same way: they ought to go on for a long, long time.
They never really have to stop, either.
You want to keep the sexual energy flowing between you all of the time.
That doesn’t mean you have to have sex every time you rev your engines.
The whole point is to rev your engines and keep them hot.
Or at least warm.
You ought to have some kind of flirty, sexy touch and innuendo going on every day.
The sex before the sex.~
~Kim Anami
